Originally Posted by senior citizen (Post 814066)

For what it's worth, I checked the website I "saved" for proof.
There was a huge amount of websites for this type of activities, all under The Villages. Again, maybe they are just using a familiar name recognition. However, the posters who did post and are within zero mile, meaning close, some said Lady Lake, others say The Villages, are ranging in ages from 65, 50's , 40's to 28. Most seem married or with a partner. A few singles.

SwingLifeStyle.com was the first such listing that comes up, followed by many many many many more, all claiming to be affiliated with TV.

None of us are nuns or priests (that I know of) however, sometimes where there is smoke, there is fire.....and some truth to all rumors.

I still recall the ADVERTISEMENT on TOTV for a room for rent for anyone
needing to relax......it had photos, etc. I wasn't the only one who saw that ad on TOTV (that mysteriously later disappeared) The room was advertised for sure. It has a pole for pole dancing in the corner.......crummy old motel. Cheap chairs outside the door. But the "Pole" was there in all its glory.

So, whoever does the ads, either it slipped their notice......or someone really is advertising for a certain group. Hey, different strokes for different folks.........[/QUOTE

You may be surprised what I found when I Googled "Bennington, Vermont swingers" (your hone town of 16,000) lo and behold up popped a listing of Benningtn, Vermont swingers from your neighborhood!

The Internet is filled with false and inaccurate information. We have been in our new hometown, The Villages, and we have not seen one iota of some kind of "swinging lifestyle," ridiculous! We are all the younger Villagers south of 466A too! All that we see are a great bunch of nice people who live life to the fullest.

Originally Posted by Happydaz (Post 814422)

Try wearing the light blue golf shirt and see what happens!

Originally Posted by Happydaz (Post 814422)

Try wearing the light blue golf shirt and see what happens!

Originally Posted by travelguy (Post 814099)

we have lived here for 5 years and have yet to meet or be approached by anyone claiming to be 'swingers'. my wife and i must really be unattractive.

Originally Posted by senior citizen (Post 814066)

For what it's worth, I checked the website I "saved" for proof.
There was a huge amount of websites for this type of activities, all under The Villages. Again, maybe they are just using a familiar name recognition. However, the posters who did post and are within zero mile, meaning close, some said Lady Lake, others say The Villages, are ranging in ages from 65, 50's , 40's to 28. Most seem married or with a partner. A few singles.

SwingLifeStyle.com was the first such listing that comes up, followed by many many many many more, all claiming to be affiliated with TV.

None of us are nuns or priests (that I know of) however, sometimes where there is smoke, there is fire.....and some truth to all rumors.

I still recall the ADVERTISEMENT on TOTV for a room for rent for anyone
needing to relax......it had photos, etc. I wasn't the only one who saw that ad on TOTV (that mysteriously later disappeared) The room was advertised for sure. It has a pole for pole dancing in the corner.......crummy old motel. Cheap chairs outside the door. But the "Pole" was there in all its glory.

So, whoever does the ads, either it slipped their notice......or someone really is advertising for a certain group. Hey, different strokes for different folks.........[/QUOTE

You may be surprised what I found when I Googled "Bennington, Vermont swingers" (your hone town of 16,000) lo and behold up popped a listing of Benningtn, Vermont swingers from your neighborhood!

The Internet is filled with false and inaccurate information. We have been in our new hometown, The Villages, and we have not seen one iota of some kind of "swinging lifestyle," ridiculous! We are all the younger Villagers south of 466A too! All that we see are a great bunch of nice people who live life to the fullest.

Originally Posted by senior citizen (Post 814043)

For what it's worth, when I began researching THE VILLAGES FLORIDA ,since we had heard about it from many people who would visit their parents down there...................and loved it so much (these were younger couples; we were still in our early 50's and working).......I was quite surprised what came up.


I found hundreds of swingers clubs and alternative lifestyles and such. Just type in swingers clubs The Villages Florida. Too many to mention here.


Whether they just are "using the name recognition" or what, who knows?
Who truly knows??? But, we also have (like your son) been warned.

Originally Posted by senior citizen (Post 814066)

For what it's worth, I checked the website I "saved" for proof.
There was a huge amount of websites for this type of activities, all under The Villages. Again, maybe they are just using a familiar name recognition. However, the posters who did post and are within zero mile, meaning close, some said Lady Lake, others say The Villages, are ranging in ages from 65, 50's , 40's to 28. Most seem married or with a partner. A few singles.

SwingLifeStyle.com was the first such listing that comes up, followed by many many many many more, all claiming to be affiliated with TV.

None of us are nuns or priests (that I know of) however, sometimes where there is smoke, there is fire.....and some truth to all rumors.

I still recall the ADVERTISEMENT on TOTV for a room for rent for anyone needing to relax......it had photos, etc. I wasn't the only one who saw that ad on TOTV (that mysteriously later disappeared) The room was advertised for sure. It has a pole for pole dancing in the corner.......crummy old motel. Cheap chairs outside the door. But the "Pole" was there in all its glory.

So, whoever does the ads, either it slipped their notice......or someone really is advertising for a certain group. Hey, different strokes for different folks.........

Originally Posted by senior citizen (Post 814109)

As beautiful and pristine as The Villages is, there is one little thing about living in a cradle to grave community.........you actually know the people you associate with and live around......and their relatives, their parents, their grandparents, and so on.............their children and their grandchildren.

I know for sure we would not fit in if we moved onto a block with swingers.

We haven't even listed our home yet (the kids keep asking WHEN and we say "In April"....or "Early May"....once the lawns are mowed for the first time and spring cleanup has occurred.......but hubby has said, "I'd actually feel safer living in Vermont".........he, of course, knows that Florida is healthier for us as we age in place. It's been an awful winter here so far. He was just thinking out loud.....
It's like "one knows what they have" but not so sure what they are going to.

Originally Posted by Bogie Shooter (Post 814809)

There are no blocks of swingers.

Originally Posted by Happydaz (Post 814422)

Yes....and thank you for pointing that out. When I did the search, it came to the same website that The Villages people were advertising on........and as I showed it to my husband , one of the folks listed actually looked like a neighbor of ours....a divorced man.

Since none of us were born under a cabbage patch, I would never deny that this website exists......or that this type of socializing exists......anywhere. Even in our hometown. As someone else said, different strokes for different folks. It is what it is.

But, thanks for pointing it out. Now, everyone will check their own hometowns to see the same.........I'm not worried about contamination of my computer as I have good security which is updated all the time........when I clicked on this one guy's link, it led to a "sign up page".....which of course we didn't continue with.

Since the beginning of the internet, hookups that never might have been so easily made, are now available to everyone........no matter what town they live in.

Originally Posted by senior citizen (Post 814593)

Words of wisdom. I'm sure the long marrieds, widowed, etc. couples or singles in TV are also on the same path as you mention.

A lot of people hang out in all those bars in the town squares that don't even live in THE VILLAGES. Common sense would assure me of that fact.

We've never hung out in bars and something tells me that we won't start in the near future.

Thanks for your post.....it spoke from the heart.

Originally Posted by senior citizen (Post 814641)

Nothing surprises me anymore. Society has changed. The internet has also changed things.

One year ago I was wondering if a certain rental property had been rented out on our Main Street in town.........so I simply googled the address I was wondering about.

Nothing more, nothing less. Just the numerical street address.

I use google as a loose term for using the search engine. It doesn't matter which one I use. It's not always google.

CRAIGS LIST came right up. It showed girls in babydoll p.j.'s

Beneath the photo, it mentioned that it was a "spa".

Well, we have another credible spa in town and I assure you the girls do not wear p.j's. but esthetician type smocks. (Not sure of that spelling).
They do facials, couples massage for Valentine's day, therapeutic massage, etc.

This place on Craigs List looked and appeared to be very seedy.

I won't go into detail but I sent the link to a group of young men in our family and friend group and they all said it looked like a happy ending kind of place and took it as a big joke.

I checked back later and the website got bigger and added a running blog section with people who had visited it "posting". I really felt it was something illegal going on but didn't want to rock the boat......so that was that. I kept thinking that the police should know.

One year later the police admitted they had been investigating this place and one right around the corner........for human trafficking and other "stuff"..........long story. It was now news all over town.

So, I know full well that TIMES HAVE CHANGED. It doesn't matter what search engine one uses......they can find these CRAIGS LIST businesses all over their own states. We found others all over Vermont.....and neighboring Massachusetts.

These "masseuse'" find empty storefronts, revamp them into a "spa" and open up for business..........the "girls" are afraid to speak (said the police) so it's hard to track down where they came from.......but it's a growing business. Once they are brought up here, or wherever, they have no means of returning back to their families. This is not what smalltown Vermont used to be.

I'm just posting this to show that it can happen in the best of towns.
The Main Street that was once the heart and soul of our town, the street our kids would walk home from elementary school, junior high, high school and stop in to chat with all the merchants........go to the movies on a weekend, buy all our clothing, shoes, eat out, etc........has changed.

By the way, we had school buses, but they all loved to walk home in nice weather and Main Street was part of their growing up years.....

Parents today, no matter where in the country, hesitate to let kids walk alone.......and thus have to drive them everyplace.

What really galled the citizens of our town was when the police said their hands were tied; that even though they were performing certain acts, it somehow wasn't illegal enough according to the law. If I was allowed to state what they actually were doing, which I am not, everyone would think it was illegal.

One of the businesses was closed down and the owner taken in. The other one, I believe is still there. Some of the girls were taken away.

Another thing about Craig's List......the ad only stays for about 3 days and then disappears.....to be reborn in another ad.

These lowlifes know their "rights" and they apparently know the letter of the law.....and what they can get away with.

Originally Posted by kstew43 (Post 814664)

We were on a princess cruise last year and sat with a younger couple from wildwood one morning for breakfast.

We told him we were thinking about making the move over to the Villages..

He laughed a little and explained to us that he was a EMT with wildwood firehouse and that he visits the villages on many occasions. We explained, sure you did, elder population and all that. He laughed and said, no.....they have something called key parties.......you place you keys in a bowl when you enter the home and then the women choose a set of keys and......you know the rest, he said they get calls frequently due to heart attack symptoms.... .....we couldn't belive him, but he seemed responsible enough. So there ya go.....

Originally Posted by eweissenbach (Post 814812)

Hmmmmmm, and just how do you know that Bogie? :MOJE_whot:

Originally Posted by Bogie Shooter (Post 814822)

If a poster says there are swingers in TV.
I can just as easily say there are no swingers in TV
This speculation/rumor quoting, is just so much BS.

Originally Posted by kstew43 (Post 814664)

We were on a princess cruise last year and sat with a younger couple from wildwood one morning for breakfast.

We told him we were thinking about making the move over to the Villages..

He laughed a little and explained to us that he was a EMT with wildwood firehouse and that he visits the villages on many occasions. We explained, sure you did, elder population and all that. He laughed and said, no.....they have something called key parties.......you place you keys in a bowl when you enter the home and then the women choose a set of keys and......you know the rest, he said they get calls frequently due to heart attack symptoms.... .....we couldn't belive him, but he seemed responsible enough. So there ya go.....

Originally Posted by manaboutown (Post 814913)

Blechman must have heard the rumor when he was researching his book. If I recall correctly he heard or thought it might be the wine club so he attended one of their tastings. Apparently nothing came of it although he reported what he assumed were some humorous double entendres.

Out of curiosity I looked for and found multiple websites listing swingers located in The Villages. Since swingers are everywhere why not The Villages where, being retired, most folks have a lot of time on their hands.

This very recent thread has received over 4000 hits as of the time I write this post so I am going to refer those in the "Vanilla" world who are curious about the "Lifestyle" to a book I just borrowed from the "new" section of my local public library. The name of the book is "Swingland", written by Daniel Stern, at least that is his pen name. At this time I am only about half way through it but it has been fascinating reading about how this subculture functions.