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Originally Posted by AbbyPye
(Post 2043792)
After a number of months of carefully planning, I am finally progressing to find a spot to move to The Villages on a more permanent basis along with the person that will be a spouse-type figure. (No, I am not legally married to the other person, but that is all besides the point!)
I keep reading various written posts as well as viewing imagery that stress the fact that once a couple (even a single person as well, through I can’t voice myself regarding that fact) moves to The Villages community, they will be making friends that they have never experienced first hand before, comparing to what it was like when they lived within the communities they came from. This notion presents an illusion that within a short period of time from the start of their official residency, these new residents will have a number of personal contacts that they can consider as their “friends”.
So I will ask this inquiry as I have yet to discover these facts myself. Once somebody does relocate to this Villages community, can a person and/or a couple really make these kinds of friends this quickly? I understand that if one engages is some form of activity be it playing a sport, becoming a participant is a organized group, or some other factor that requires social activity, one can make friends. But what would happen if this person/couple spends little time in such social activities, but one lives in the area just as a standard resident?
Both I as well as my domestic partner are working full time. (*gasp!*) We are employed outside of the community, meaning that we are away from home during the weekday hours, with an occasional weekend stance on the job. So while everyone is doing something during the weekday daylight hours such as playing golf or participating in a ceramics class, I, along with my “spouse” will be engaged in working at some facility that is far off from all of these forms of play and leisure.
I will state that having all of this leisure on hand is far from being unsettling or nothing to be desired. (In fact, it’s great!!) But let’s face it! I may not have the time to engage in all of these activities as I do have those personal responsibilities I must tend to that hold a first priority for my household.
-Abby and domestic partner Terry
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I'll chime in my 2 cents.
We've been here about 4 months and are pretty much same situtation as you. Here's my take.
There is a lot to do, just never at the times we can participate. So much so all there is that we can participate in is sometimes a market, sometimes the squares for dinner or a band. By sometimes, obviously with the holidays it's not a lot, plus we really don't like eating out all the time.
We have joined a couple clubs that are of interest, however many of their activities also are when we are working...there are a couple that have been on the weekend however again the timing has been off. and looking at the Jan/Feb calendars it appears that we again will be on our own.
We have found that yes many are pretty nice around here, but also a lot aren't all that out going. We have found all things, have a couple aquaintences and that's about it.
No one has invited us over for anything. I keep on hearing about a block party in February but honestly my block is pretty much 'zzzzzzzzzzzzz" .
With all that said, does it really matter. To my wife yes she just lost her BFF in August which in part is why we moved back to Florida, me it's whatever. No different than anywhere else....and I'm the more social one LOL.
We've tried and well it takes time. Nothing really helps but time. but if you need to have something to occupy yourself with a lot of people just go sit in any roundabout LOL...
and by the way, we seem to be younger than most around here so that could have something to do with their perspective of us?
We are always lookng for people to hang out with, so HMU if you want.
