Originally Posted by tomwed (Post 940862)

In the company I kept in NJ, asking for separate checks seemed like you were being cheap or that you didn't trust the others would pay their fair share. Every friday a bunch of teachers would go to a local bar and throw in some money for the check and leave when they felt like leaving. The bill would be $80 and there would be $160 in the kitty. No one wanted to be labeled cheap. We all could add.

Originally Posted by Halibut (Post 940852)

Are there places were it isn't? I'm asking sincerely, because my experience is that servers always ask a group if they want separate checks. :)

Originally Posted by Halibut (Post 940852)

Are there places were it isn't? I'm asking sincerely, because my experience is that servers always ask a group if they want separate checks. :)

Originally Posted by Patty55 (Post 940896)

Yep, in NY it's viewed as CHEAP and the servers give a discreet eye-roll as they walk away.

Originally Posted by Chi-Town (Post 940909)

In Chicago it wasn't an option. The check was either split evenly or one person would let the others know what their portion was. I'm amazed at how efficient and commonplace it is here.

Originally Posted by sunnyatlast (Post 940867)

Having separate checks allows for people to spend within their means and be responsible for their own spending and drinking. That's not "being cheap".

Why should we split the bill in half with a couple who spends $180 while we are spending $70? Some have been brazen enough to say we owed half, split right down the middle in situations like that. I rue the day I agreed to split the bill with a "friend" who ordered a $35 entree plus appetizer, an a la carte salad, 3 mixed drinks, dessert, and cappuccino, while I ordered a $16 entree and a glass of wine. I was used, and won't let it happen again.

Originally Posted by SALYBOW (Post 940871)

A wait person who asks what WE are having tonight. Am I supposed to share it with her.him?

Originally Posted by tomwed (Post 940844)

Take a look at these photos click here

HonFest is an annual festival held in the Hampden neighborhood of Baltimore, Maryland.

Hon is short for honey, a term often used in Baltimorese. It is a term of endearment for anyone including strangers passing on the street, your neighbor, and your family. It is a term that can be heard almost everywhere throughout Baltimore, but Hampden has the most use of the word. While Hon is a term used frequently, it has grown into a culture and has become a type of person.

My oldest son went to college in Baltimore, lived in that neighborhood and took me to the festival. The waitresses called everyone hon or honey. The photos are how women used to dress back in the day, so they say. It’s a fun event.

Originally Posted by Patty55 (Post 940896)

Yep, in NY it's viewed as CHEAP and the servers give a discreet eye-roll as they walk away.