TV and Swingers
 

Here we go again...

I was just talking to my son in Australia. They see his wife's parents (live in Albuquerque, NM, and Egypt) at Christmas, usually going on a two-week trip together. I have met and liked my d-i-l's parents.

My son reports that he actually had to defend us a little bit, because his f-i-l has heard that TV is renown for swingers and wife-swapping. I said, "David, we maybe know 50 people out of the 100,000 that live here. What do I know?"

He said, "Well, you and Dad...?" I said "Thanks for the vote of confidence! What do YOU think? Forty-four years of marriage."

It's amazing to me that some myth about TV would reach all the way to Albuquerque.

My question is... has anyone else heard this? It's not the same as the STD myth.

I'm just clicking here bc cf is my friend.
The myth goes on..a visiting pastor called tv "Sodom and Gomorrah"...
if I had to make up where this comes from I'd say....
clueless.

Haven't heard that one.

But your son is living in New Mexico. Ask him about the aliens in Roswell, Area 51.

That's a fact!

And I'm single. Losing end again. Nothing to swap.

Actually, it's the father-in-law that lives in New Mexico. Our son was defending us. The little angel!

Comes from the book "Leisureville" which concentrated on "Mr. Midnight" and his exploits at Katie Belles. There is/was a "Mr. Midnight" who plied his trade at "Katie Belle'" but he was one man not all of us here!

It's the only view of The Villages that many people outside TV have of here! Its been written about often in the mainstream media all over the world.

Get a copy, read it, and see if you think its the view you have of living here?

The place I read about is not the place I see every day!

p.s. The STD pap comes from what as I remember being 1 line in the book whre the author states that he "talked to a health care worker who told him STD's were a problem here"...no facts to in book to substantiate.

I grew up in Albuquerque and have lived there off and on as an adult. Although I have not lived there full time since 1990 I have been over there about a week each month on business since then. Prior to visiting The Villages in 2010 and 2011 I had never, ever heard anything about TV from anyone in ABQ. Since my visits to TV I have asked several people 55 and over folks I know in ABQ about TV. Only one had ever even heard of it. He was from a town in upstate New York and a couple he knew had moved to TV. Maybe the OP's f-i-l heard about TV in Egypt. Few people I know in ABQ know TV exists and I definitely run with the older crowd.

Ha-ha. TV has a reputation in Egypt! I know this gentleman will not bring what he said up in front of us. And maybe our son over-reacted to what he said. I find it hard to believe the f-i-l was actually asking him about my husband and me.

In any event, I don't even plan to defend TV to anyone who hasn't done some research other than gossip. Not worth the time.

I view this, like the story of 10 people being at a party. When asked to describe someone from a picture to the first person and was to be repeated and whispered to the other 9 people, one at a time. When they got to the tenth person, a man who was 6' tall, dark. and handsome with a full head of hair, turned out to be 5', fat, bald and couldn't get a date if his life depended on it. People sometimes don't check the facts, with the fantasy.

The story with STD if I remember correctly, stated there was a light increase in STD in TV. What wasn't mentioned or glossed over, it was no worse than the national average. It implied, there was more seniors, playing indoor sports.

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Oh yeah,,, this topic! Heard rumors immediately ... Silly ... When my kids tease me about it I just smile. What's a girl to do anyway?

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This is always a hysterical subject to us from two perspectives. One, having lived here for over 3 years and lead a fairly active social life, i.e., Katie Belles, City Fire, all 3 squares, driveway socials and more, we have yet to hear or see any sign of such activity or ever been approached by anyone on the subject. Second, this isn't the University of Florida with tens of thousands of young people, hormones raging, with one thing on their minds. I would think that 99.9% of us retirees are a little more settled than that.

While I believe this has been dramatically exaggerated, it does make for an interesting view of a very quiet community.

I think TV is no different from any other community of people. After all, we all came from 'there'. You have all kinds, but rumors run wilder when it concerns this particular place.

I've also heard about this from someone up in Boston. I was a bit surprised when I heard about it.

In a population of 100K + you're going to have a few of anybody. If there are swingers then I'm sure they are happy here too - just like the rest of us fuddy-duddies (sic?).

10,669 of them within a 100 mile radius
 

Perhaps I am naive but I would guess most of The Village "swingers" are dancing not boinking....IMHO.

LOL! My thoughts exactly!

We have friends who swing dance and have been for years. If my husband didn't have two left feet, we'd be swinging too! :1rotfl:

I heard it yesterday here in Buffalo/Niagara Falls territory...........when someone said that I had just returned from TV. I rolled my eyes. Enough already!

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I heard this from friends when I planned on moving here myself. I always wondered, and asked them, if they thought at settlement they told us what our "swing" schedule was and if they REALLY thought it was (almost) a mandatory thing...like we have no say in what we do anymore. (Knock on the door 8PM... "OK, Mr and Mrs X..it's your night to swap with Mr and Mrs Z...now get down there"..."oh, and bring a dish to share"... said the Villages Swap Committee.) Crazy what people think. And then, this raises another question, did they think there was no "swinging", cheating, and other such activities happening in the city we already lived in...I doubt it!!

I think it's more nonsense than truth but hey whatever floats your boat.

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we have lived here for 5 years and have yet to meet or be approached by anyone claiming to be 'swingers'. my wife and i must really be unattractive.

P.S.
Mr Midnight is alive and well in the Villages.

P.S.S
He isn't a swinger, last I knew

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on my favorite subject of spending way too many key strokes on isolated incidents.......this one is the worst.

So for the sake of argument there is a couple here that does whatever is implied or hoped for 2 out of 100,000 = .00002 or two thousandths of one percent....:MOJE_whot:...woweee!

I am always searching for a polite way to emphasize just how STUPID and ridiculous the subject is.....haven't found it yet.

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The only swinging I have done are in playgrounds. Is that where it all starts? LOL

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No, you haven't!!

I am the OP, and honestly, this is the first I've heard of wife swapping being rampant in TV, and it came from an outsider to my son, from a person whom I thought to be less rude. I wanted to know if others knew anything about that, or if it was the same as the STD myth.

I appreciate the responses/keystrokes. Actually got some information (thanks, Senior).

About the STD myth……

Doctors In Retirement Community Seeing Increase In STDs | www.wftv.com

I was talking with a married lady friend who told me that there really is quite a bit of the swinging lifestyle here in The Villages. The wearing of a light blue golf shirt is supposed to be a "sign" that you are swing style minded.

The next day, my wife returned from Beall's with a gift for me - a really nice light blue golf shirt!

We had dinner that night with the friend and her husband who had told me about the "sign" and as soon as she saw me in that shirt, she turned beet red and then broke into uncontrollable laughing.

Outside of that, the shirt has evoked no other responses. Darn!

From The Orlando Sentinel

Seniors STDs rise: Seniors STDs rise with active sex lives - Orlando Sentinel

Buggy, you just need to get around more in that blue shirt. Get in your golf cart and put yourself out there!

If it is happening - who really cares? Stuff like this, burglaries, spousal abuse, drug abuse, alcoholism, etc. occur in every community so we are probably no different just because we live here - at least its a beautiful, clean, orderly and desirable area to live in despite our internal personal issues

Obviously you want to be asked, so....."Do tell!" Was the book written 18 years ago? Is he "Mr. 9:00" now?

So, you haven't been invited? I heard it was a husband swapping club. I get offered out to do that all the time. Except it's to go fix something that the other "husband" doesn't know how to do. Guess I just hang with the "wrong" crowd. :clap2:

Oh my!!

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