[senior citizen]

We heard on the news that the "stabber" at the Pennsylvania high school might have been bullied. 16 is such an impressionable age.

It's an unfortunate but all too prevalent happening in our schools today. I still recall about eight years ago when we learned that our eldest grandaughter was switching schools simply because she was being bullied (having her jacket stolen by the girls, being verbally abused just because she told them she was adopted (they would retort that her birth mother did not want her, and so on and so forth).

She's a totally lovely girl with a big heart; actually a beautiful girl , in all ways......so I couldn't imagine what she was being bullied about. The immature kids will find something. They tormented her about being adopted. Both of her parents are teachers; they did the best they could to help her to feel secure, loved, protected and involved, from age 6 and all through the school years, but kids' taunting cuts deep.

This PA. case is still too new to know all of the facts. Obviously, the young man is disturbed. Thankfully, the triage and the first responders saved lives as did the trauma team at the trauma center, to which they were taken for surgery.

Whether or not the perp was bullied does not condone lashing out at other students with two sharp knives.

Interesting article on bullying in schools, etc.

http://www.bullyinginschools.com/

'''There are many types of bullying. Among the most prevalent are verbal, physical, indirect, social alienation, intimidation, and cyberbullying. Below are some bullying facts that are related to each type mentioned.

Verbal bullying – This is the most common type. It includes name-calling, offensive remarks or consistently making the person the butt of jokes.

Physical bullying – Although usually portrayed as the most common type in the movies, it only comes second to verbal bullying. Any aggressive hitting, pulling or shoving is classified under this type.

Indirect bullying – Usually common among girls, it involves back-biting and spreading false rumors about a certain person.

Social alienation – We usually see this in teenage films wherein the main character, typically a demure type, is excluded from groups by pompous girls.

Intimidation – Any type of verbal threat with the purpose of making the victim give in to the bully’s demands is considered under this category.

Cyberbullying – Since the advent of the Internet and the introduction of the cell phone, a host of new and diverse bullying facts have manifested. All of these are classified under cyberbullying. It involves destroying or smearing the victim’s reputation via emails, blogs, forum posts, text messages, etc.

If the community is aware of these bullying facts, it would be easy for them to be acted upon. '''




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[Taltarzac725]

Originally Posted by senior citizen

We heard on the news that the "stabber" at the Pennsylvania high school might have been bullied. 16 is such an impressionable age.

It's an unfortunate but all too prevalent happening in our schools today. I still recall about eight years ago when we learned that our eldest grandaughter was switching schools simply because she was being bullied (having her jacket stolen by the girls, being verbally abused just because she told them she was adopted (they would retort that her birth mother did not want her, and so on and so forth).

She's a totally lovely girl with a big heart; actually a beautiful girl , in all ways......so I couldn't imagine what she was being bullied about. The immature kids will find something. They tormented her about being adopted. Both of her parents are teachers; they did the best they could to help her to feel secure, loved, protected and involved, from age 6 and all through the school years, but kids' taunting cuts deep.

This PA. case is still too new to know all of the facts. Obviously, the young man is disturbed. Thankfully, the triage and the first responders saved lives as did the trauma team at the trauma center, to which they were taken for surgery.

Whether or not the perp was bullied does not condone lashing out at other students with two sharp knives.

Interesting article on bullying in schools, etc.

http://www.bullyinginschools.com/

'''There are many types of bullying. Among the most prevalent are verbal, physical, indirect, social alienation, intimidation, and cyberbullying. Below are some bullying facts that are related to each type mentioned.

Verbal bullying – This is the most common type. It includes name-calling, offensive remarks or consistently making the person the butt of jokes.

Physical bullying – Although usually portrayed as the most common type in the movies, it only comes second to verbal bullying. Any aggressive hitting, pulling or shoving is classified under this type.

Indirect bullying – Usually common among girls, it involves back-biting and spreading false rumors about a certain person.

Social alienation – We usually see this in teenage films wherein the main character, typically a demure type, is excluded from groups by pompous girls.

Intimidation – Any type of verbal threat with the purpose of making the victim give in to the bully’s demands is considered under this category.

Cyberbullying – Since the advent of the Internet and the introduction of the cell phone, a host of new and diverse bullying facts have manifested. All of these are classified under cyberbullying. It involves destroying or smearing the victim’s reputation via emails, blogs, forum posts, text messages, etc.

If the community is aware of these bullying facts, it would be easy for them to be acted upon. '''




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We seem to think a like. What can we do to stop this kind of idiotic violence?

[senior citizen]

Originally Posted by Taltarzac725

We seem to think a like. What can we do to stop this kind of idiotic violence?

Probably so. What can we do? Your guess is as good as mine.

To sensitive people, like us, we just can't understand the perceived upturn in everyday violence in our world.

The sensitive nervous systems of the highly sensitive people mean that they have strong emotions and empathetic natures. Their desire for deep conversation can be uncomfortable to non-highly sensitive folks.

Highly sensitive people are generally intuitive and introverted so generally fall in the categories of counselors or helping in some manner or other.

Many highly sensitive people are very sensitive to all forms of energy: electromagnetic, interpersonal etc. but I won't get into that here.

Obviously, we would not understand why some feel the need to bully or backstab. No pun intended.

The importance of realizing one is sensitive also has to do with creating a sense of independence that buffers one against societal pressures toward conformity.

Highly sensitive people tend to be terrible at small talk and unfortunately not everyone else is necessarily interested in discussing the meaning of life.

In addition, because sensitive folks are holistic rather than adversarial, they are generally not particularly interested in competition, which eliminates a lot of common ground with the rest of the world.

Sensitives are often internally rather than externally driven which means that they often feel they are different. Since our educational and economic systems often value competitive over collaborative pursuits, sensitives can think that there is something wrong with them early in life when in fact there isn't. It can take considerable effort, encouragement, and support to overcome early negative feedback.

Sensitives are often visionary and are able to enlarge us with their capacity to see our greater potential. Sensitives cannot really assimilate into an economic system so different from them. Through their vision and conscientiousness they can, however, help us evolve.

My take on all of this is that everyone is different which is refreshing, if truth be told. We can't all fit into the same mold or become clones of what is expected of us.

Thus, tolerance and understanding of those who are different is key.

The boy's parents were totally in shock as to his outburst and attack. Perhaps more will come out eventually, but all we've heard is that he was an o.k. kid in school and had friends, etc. Without knowing for sure, I wonder if he was on any prescribed meds?

Also, although my husband and I do follow Kevin Bacon in the t.v. show "THE FOLLOWING" , we would never do any of the things depicted in that show, thus it doesn't change us one bit.............however, every week I wonder if young folks are being influenced by all of this television blood and gore. In a recent show there was a lot of knife cutting, stabbing, etc. To an impressionable youth, who knows if it affects their actions......"if" they are slightly off balance (unbeknownst to the parents and school counselors).

[Taltarzac725]

Originally Posted by senior citizen

Probably so. What can we do? Your guess is as good as mine.

To sensitive people, like us, we just can't understand the perceived upturn in everyday violence in our world.

The sensitive nervous systems of the highly sensitive people mean that they have strong emotions and empathetic natures. Their desire for deep conversation can be uncomfortable to non-highly sensitive folks.

Highly sensitive people are generally intuitive and introverted so generally fall in the categories of counselors or helping in some manner or other.

Many highly sensitive people are very sensitive to all forms of energy: electromagnetic, interpersonal etc. but I won't get into that here.

Obviously, we would not understand why some feel the need to bully or backstab. No pun intended.

The importance of realizing one is sensitive also has to do with creating a sense of independence that buffers one against societal pressures toward conformity.

Highly sensitive people tend to be terrible at small talk and unfortunately not everyone else is necessarily interested in discussing the meaning of life.

In addition, because sensitive folks are holistic rather than adversarial, they are generally not particularly interested in competition, which eliminates a lot of common ground with the rest of the world.

Sensitives are often internally rather than externally driven which means that they often feel they are different. Since our educational and economic systems often value competitive over collaborative pursuits, sensitives can think that there is something wrong with them early in life when in fact there isn't. It can take considerable effort, encouragement, and support to overcome early negative feedback.

Sensitives are often visionary and are able to enlarge us with their capacity to see our greater potential. Sensitives cannot really assimilate into an economic system so different from them. Through their vision and conscientiousness they can, however, help us evolve.

My take on all of this is that everyone is different which is refreshing, if truth be told. We can't all fit into the same mold or become clones of what is expected of us.

Thus, tolerance and understanding of those who are different is key.

The boy's parents were totally in shock as to his outburst and attack. Perhaps more will come out eventually, but all we've heard is that he was an o.k. kid in school and had friends, etc. Without knowing for sure, I wonder if he was on any prescribed meds?

Also, although my husband and I do follow Kevin Bacon in the t.v. show "THE FOLLOWING" , we would never do any of the things depicted in that show, thus it doesn't change us one bit.............however, every week I wonder if young folks are being influenced by all of this television blood and gore. In a recent show there was a lot of knife cutting, stabbing, etc. To an impressionable youth, who knows if it affects their actions......"if" they are slightly off balance (unbeknownst to the parents and school counselors).

That's very interesting. That is true that I have a very hard time understanding how someone could become so violent like this. I can be very competitive though just ask some of my FunTrivia buddies. There's a group of us on there from TOTV-- http://www.funtrivia.com/private/main.cfm?tid=101297

And, I am often busy playing games on FunTrivia trying to best my opponents. http://www.funtrivia.com/?ref=Taltarzac

And, there were a number of law students at the U of Minnesota Law School who were rather sensitive and empathetic but were also quite competitive like me. Its true that I have never valued money or other material things all that much. The 55ish me, nevertheless, is quite angry with the 25-30 year me who was never very practical when it came to finances.