[AbbyPye]

Since my partner Pat and I settled within The Villages, we have been embracing what this community has to offer from its activities to the people that live here. And although we are ever so pleased to mingle with others that we meet day in and day out, we noticed a common thread when others speak to us that still remains since we first came out here some two year before.

When we meet others that are coupled, many (not all) of these married folks tend to tell us (whenever we ask about or not with the emphasis on the latter) about their adult kids with a deep notion about their grandkids! They mention what their kids and their partners/spouses are involved with, and give that heavy emphasis on their grandkids, either with them having them visit from up north/back east, or heading up north/back east to visit them.

When we first mentioned this issue in this forum some time ago, we thought that hearing about their antics would eventually come to pass. What occurred was the total opposite, especially when a major holiday is coming in the near future! Although we do respect that these couples are indeed proud of these grandkids that are part of their life as well as keeping the family legacy alive and well, this notion of hearing this unsolicited news is getting rather long in the tooth!

Has anyone ever experienced a situation that was explained within this post? That is, does anyone encounter those that are coupled up that constantly dote on their grandkids, even though they may reside a long distance away?

Please let me know so I won’t think that I am just dreaming up this scenario!

Many thanks!

[Two Bills]

I find the subject of grandchildren a far better subject than a persons latest medical problem or procedure.
I have found that picking ones nose, farting loudly, and scratching my nuts, quickly finishes any undesired conversations.
Billy no mates.

[Dusty_Star]

Originally Posted by Two Bills

I find the subject of grandchildren a far better subject than a persons latest medical problem or procedure.
I have found that picking ones nose, farting loudly, and scratching my nuts, quickly finishes any undesired conversations.
Billy no mates.

[BigSteph]

I understand what you are saying.

The problem with this post is that the reader will personalize what you said and may be offended. If you have kids and grandkids, it will probably offend you.

I think the answer to your question/assertion is that people are proud of their kids and grandkids.

My wife and I decided not to have children. When we gather with others, especially when people are lubricated, they talk with less inhibition about the things that interest them.

I have experienced what you have experienced. People tend to want to talk about how special, in some way, their children and grand children are. I get it, they are proud, and this person is important to them.

Some people love small talk. I like it for a few minutes. If you are going to be social it is just something you that will be part of the conversation -- like taxes, aches and pains, golf swings, those other political people, and children.

It is what it is.

Originally Posted by AbbyPye

Since my partner Pat and I settled within The Villages, we have been embracing what this community has to offer from its activities to the people that live here. And although we are ever so pleased to mingle with others that we meet day in and day out, we noticed a common thread when others speak to us that still remains since we first came out here some two year before.

When we meet others that are coupled, many (not all) of these married folks tend to tell us (whenever we ask about or not with the emphasis on the latter) about their adult kids with a deep notion about their grandkids! They mention what their kids and their partners/spouses are involved with, and give that heavy emphasis on their grandkids, either with them having them visit from up north/back east, or heading up north/back east to visit them.

When we first mentioned this issue in this forum some time ago, we thought that hearing about their antics would eventually come to pass. What occurred was the total opposite, especially when a major holiday is coming in the near future! Although we do respect that these couples are indeed proud of these grandkids that are part of their life as well as keeping the family legacy alive and well, this notion of hearing this unsolicited news is getting rather long in the tooth!

Has anyone ever experienced a situation that was explained within this post? That is, does anyone encounter those that are coupled up that constantly dote on their grandkids, even though they may reside a long distance away?

Please let me know so I won’t think that I am just dreaming up this scenario!

Many thanks!

[Bugface]

Originally Posted by AbbyPye

Since my partner Pat and I settled within The Villages, we have been embracing what this community has to offer from its activities to the people that live here. And although we are ever so pleased to mingle with others that we meet day in and day out, we noticed a common thread when others speak to us that still remains since we first came out here some two year before.

When we meet others that are coupled, many (not all) of these married folks tend to tell us (whenever we ask about or not with the emphasis on the latter) about their adult kids with a deep notion about their grandkids! They mention what their kids and their partners/spouses are involved with, and give that heavy emphasis on their grandkids, either with them having them visit from up north/back east, or heading up north/back east to visit them.

When we first mentioned this issue in this forum some time ago, we thought that hearing about their antics would eventually come to pass. What occurred was the total opposite, especially when a major holiday is coming in the near future! Although we do respect that these couples are indeed proud of these grandkids that are part of their life as well as keeping the family legacy alive and well, this notion of hearing this unsolicited news is getting rather long in the tooth!

Has anyone ever experienced a situation that was explained within this post? That is, does anyone encounter those that are coupled up that constantly dote on their grandkids, even though they may reside a long distance away?

Please let me know so I won’t think that I am just dreaming up this scenario!

Many thanks!

I don’t think I completely understood till I had my own grandchildren. I certainly love and admire my adult children but I ADORE my grandchildren. I think when you feel such overwhelming love for people in your life, you can’t help but talk about them - it just brings you happiness to even think about them.

[golfing eagles]

This a post that I will just have to bite my tongue and ignore.

[frayedends]

Good grief. You are complaining that people talk about their grandkids. Ridiculous. Perhaps instead we should talk about politics or religion ? People talk about what’s important to them. Friends listen.

[cjrjck]

I've lived here in TV for over 5 years and can't remember ever talking with anyone about my grandkids. My wife has quite a bit. However, if anyone asks, I could go on and on about them ad nauseum. So, if we ever meet, it might be best to steer clear of that subject.

[ElDiabloJoe]

Originally Posted by BigSteph

I understand what you are saying.

The problem with this post is that the reader will personalize what you said and may be offended. If you have kids and grandkids, it will probably offend you.

I think the answer to your question/assertion is that people are proud of their kids and grandkids.

My wife and I decided not to have children. When we gather with others, especially when people are lubricated, they talk with less inhibition about the things that interest them.

I have experienced what you have experienced. People tend to want to talk about how special, in some way, their children and grand children are. I get it, they are proud, and this person is important to them.

Some people love small talk. I like it for a few minutes. If you are going to be social it is just something you that will be part of the conversation -- like taxes, aches and pains, golf swings, those other political people, and children.

It is what it is.

^Concur 100%, am in the same boat as BigSteph. Most people named Stephanie don't like to be called "Big." Perhaps short for Stephen? Or a surname like Jack Stephanovich?

[asianthree]

Well many we encountered only have grand dogs. Would much rather see a cute pic of that ballerina, then 20 pics of dogs. Now puppies are a different story.

Then again I truly will walk away when any medical discussion comes up. It’s just not kosher to say “you are a hypochondriac, or you need a different practice”

[shut the front door]

Originally Posted by AbbyPye

Since my partner Pat and I settled within The Villages, we have been embracing what this community has to offer from its activities to the people that live here. And although we are ever so pleased to mingle with others that we meet day in and day out, we noticed a common thread when others speak to us that still remains since we first came out here some two year before.

When we meet others that are coupled, many (not all) of these married folks tend to tell us (whenever we ask about or not with the emphasis on the latter) about their adult kids with a deep notion about their grandkids! They mention what their kids and their partners/spouses are involved with, and give that heavy emphasis on their grandkids, either with them having them visit from up north/back east, or heading up north/back east to visit them.

When we first mentioned this issue in this forum some time ago, we thought that hearing about their antics would eventually come to pass. What occurred was the total opposite, especially when a major holiday is coming in the near future! Although we do respect that these couples are indeed proud of these grandkids that are part of their life as well as keeping the family legacy alive and well, this notion of hearing this unsolicited news is getting rather long in the tooth!

Has anyone ever experienced a situation that was explained within this post? That is, does anyone encounter those that are coupled up that constantly dote on their grandkids, even though they may reside a long distance away?

Please let me know so I won’t think that I am just dreaming up this scenario!

Many thanks!

You are not just dreaming it up. I can't count the number of times I've been bombarded with stories and pictures of grands by total strangers! I was in a waiting room this week and a woman sat down next to me and immediately started babbling on and on about her grandkids. She expected me to be in awe of the endless pictures she kept shoving under my nose. I finally had to fake a phone call and move away from her.

[Topspinmo]

Originally Posted by AbbyPye

Since my partner Pat and I settled within The Villages, we have been embracing what this community has to offer from its activities to the people that live here. And although we are ever so pleased to mingle with others that we meet day in and day out, we noticed a common thread when others speak to us that still remains since we first came out here some two year before.

When we meet others that are coupled, many (not all) of these married folks tend to tell us (whenever we ask about or not with the emphasis on the latter) about their adult kids with a deep notion about their grandkids! They mention what their kids and their partners/spouses are involved with, and give that heavy emphasis on their grandkids, either with them having them visit from up north/back east, or heading up north/back east to visit them.

When we first mentioned this issue in this forum some time ago, we thought that hearing about their antics would eventually come to pass. What occurred was the total opposite, especially when a major holiday is coming in the near future! Although we do respect that these couples are indeed proud of these grandkids that are part of their life as well as keeping the family legacy alive and well, this notion of hearing this unsolicited news is getting rather long in the tooth!

Has anyone ever experienced a situation that was explained within this post? That is, does anyone encounter those that are coupled up that constantly dote on their grandkids, even though they may reside a long distance away?

Please let me know so I won’t think that I am just dreaming up this scenario!

Many thanks!

Most don’t care what others have to say, just what they say. Me is more important than them!

[Velvet]

When we have socials etc and someone brings up family we have never met, there is a silent response. Very soon they notice and become silent themselves. Or someone else brings up a topic we are all interested in. Now if we happen to know these kids or grandkids because they visit the neighbor, then we are interested!

[rustyp]

Originally Posted by AbbyPye

Since my partner Pat and I settled within The Villages, we have been embracing what this community has to offer from its activities to the people that live here. And although we are ever so pleased to mingle with others that we meet day in and day out, we noticed a common thread when others speak to us that still remains since we first came out here some two year before.

When we meet others that are coupled, many (not all) of these married folks tend to tell us (whenever we ask about or not with the emphasis on the latter) about their adult kids with a deep notion about their grandkids! They mention what their kids and their partners/spouses are involved with, and give that heavy emphasis on their grandkids, either with them having them visit from up north/back east, or heading up north/back east to visit them.

When we first mentioned this issue in this forum some time ago, we thought that hearing about their antics would eventually come to pass. What occurred was the total opposite, especially when a major holiday is coming in the near future! Although we do respect that these couples are indeed proud of these grandkids that are part of their life as well as keeping the family legacy alive and well, this notion of hearing this unsolicited news is getting rather long in the tooth!

Has anyone ever experienced a situation that was explained within this post? That is, does anyone encounter those that are coupled up that constantly dote on their grandkids, even though they may reside a long distance away?

Please let me know so I won’t think that I am just dreaming up this scenario!

Many thanks!

I am suspecting another underlying message here. The answer is too easy - make friends with people that share your views/interests and ignore the others. Politics is by far a much more frequent conversation than grandchildren with the boys I hang with.

[DonH57]

Originally Posted by Two Bills

I find the subject of grandchildren a far better subject than a persons latest medical problem or procedure.
I have found that picking ones nose, farting loudly, and scratching my nuts, quickly finishes any undesired conversations.
Billy no mates.

LOL! You are too funny. I've met those same people who will tell you how their colonoscopy went and if they probably bought the video! Yes. Those countermeasures usually work to repeal them.