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Veronica · 07-18-2013, 07:51 PM

Hi kitty,

this is my answer to your question as to why i find it so scary to move to tv alone from this town, where i grew up, which i hate. Every single member of my family is dead including my husband. I have no children. I have one aunt and uncle left, and they are co-dependent alcoholics. If something happens to me in tv, i have no support system there - no one to turn to for help. I have friends here in ct who would help me. This is why i am finding a move there so scary.

kittygilchrist · 07-18-2013, 07:53 PM

have you decided to move then or still thinking about it?

Veronica · 07-18-2013, 08:00 PM

Still thinking about it.

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Originally Posted by kittygilchrist

have you decided to move then or still thinking about it?

asianthree · 07-18-2013, 08:01 PM

why not rent off season to see if you like it

kittygilchrist · 07-18-2013, 08:03 PM

Veronica,
moving here is not for everybody. I respect your fear and your trust in friends you have in CT. Not sure why you would move from that when you have lost so much already.

redwitch · 07-18-2013, 09:10 PM

Veronica, like you, I really didn't have anyone to rely on should the need arise. It took some time, but now I have a very good network of friends on whom I know I can call and ask for help. Even before truly having friends, I did have a group of women that would have helped me.

It isn't easy at first and it is definitely frightening to think about, but you can find folks to help you should the need arise, even if it is your first day in TV. That's one of the beautiful things here -- the generosity of spirit of Villagers, whether you're a total stranger or a best friend.

Veronica · 07-18-2013, 09:12 PM

Thanks so much, redwitch

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Originally Posted by redwitch

veronica, like you, i really didn't have anyone to rely on should the need arise. It took some time, but now i have a very good network of friends on whom i know i can call and ask for help. Even before truly having friends, i did have a group of women that would have helped me.

It isn't easy at first and it is definitely frightening to think about, but you can find folks to help you should the need arise, even if it is your first day in tv. That's one of the beautiful things here -- the generosity of spirit of villagers, whether you're a total stranger or a best friend.

kittygilchrist · 07-18-2013, 09:15 PM

Dee, you are the best. It is a scary thing to do, moving here. Any of us not knowing a soul and being single are scared.
I wouldn't have moved if I needed help daily or might need immediate help.
KItty

chachacha · 07-18-2013, 09:24 PM

You can only walk half way into the darkest forest before you are coming out the other side....have courage, pray and discern what you would really like for yourself, and then walk in that direction. if it is to stay among friends, then rejoice in them...if it is to make a change and start a new adventure, then we will rejoice in you!

senior citizen · 07-18-2013, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by redwitch

Veronica, like you, I really didn't have anyone to rely on should the need arise. It took some time, but now I have a very good network of friends on whom I know I can call and ask for help. Even before truly having friends, I did have a group of women that would have helped me.

It isn't easy at first and it is definitely frightening to think about, but you can find folks to help you should the need arise, even if it is your first day in TV. That's one of the beautiful things here -- the generosity of spirit of Villagers, whether you're a total stranger or a best friend.

Beautiful post......helpful and uplifting.......

senior citizen · 07-18-2013, 09:34 PM

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Originally Posted by chachacha

You can only walk half way into the darkest forest before you are coming out the other side....have courage, pray and discern what you would really like for yourself, and then walk in that direction. if it is to stay among friends, then rejoice in them...if it is to make a change and start a new adventure, then we will rejoice in you!

More truly uplifting and inspirational advice for a person leaving or thinking of leaving her support network for the unknown...........

SusanOfWoodbury · 07-19-2013, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Veronica

Hi kitty,

this is my answer to your question as to why i find it so scary to move to tv alone from this town, where i grew up, which i hate. Every single member of my family is dead including my husband. I have no children. I have one aunt and uncle left, and they are co-dependent alcoholics. If something happens to me in tv, i have no support system there - no one to turn to for help. I have friends here in ct who would help me. This is why i am finding a move there so scary.

Veronica, I moved to The Villages, Aug 2012 and came by myself. I currently am a full time renter. I have made lots of dear friends since moving here. I still have my friends in NH/Maine, but, Florida is my home now. Was it scary to move here, yes, but, I would do it again..

I needed to way out the pros and cons for me and the pros won... But, I had to be proactive about meeting people.

Good Luck

kittygilchrist · 09:32 AM

Veronica, I moved here from a community I'd lived in since 1969. After 3 months, I have more support and friends here than where I moved from and could call on several people within a couple of miles if I had a problem like a flat or needed a ride or needed to talk. I've not been all that social on my street but while I walked my dog two (married) neighbor men surprised me by offering to help if I ever need them.
Is that the kind of support you are asking for?

janieb · 07-19-2013, 05:42 AM

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Originally Posted by chachacha

You can only walk half way into the darkest forest before you are coming out the other side....have courage, pray and discern what you would really like for yourself, and then walk in that direction. if it is to stay among friends, then rejoice in them...if it is to make a change and start a new adventure, then we will rejoice in you!

Beautiful words

DandyGirl · 07-19-2013, 06:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Veronica

Hi kitty,

this is my answer to your question as to why i find it so scary to move to tv alone from this town, where i grew up, which i hate. Every single member of my family is dead including my husband. I have no children. I have one aunt and uncle left, and they are co-dependent alcoholics. If something happens to me in tv, i have no support system there - no one to turn to for help. I have friends here in ct who would help me. This is why i am finding a move there so scary.

Part of your first sentence says it all to me "..where I grew up, which I hate.". I'd be out of there so fast and find a new adventure that would make me happy.

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