[EdFNJ]

Originally Posted by golfing eagles

Of course, this post begs the question: Why were you wearing masks outside 30 feet away from everybody else? What were you hoping to accomplish? Did you think you were "protecting" others? "Protecting" yourself?? At least those people who came within 6 feet of you made an otherwise useless mask possibly do some good.

The real question is: Why does it always bother YOU so much whenever you read about someone who does that. I agree it is useless just as is driving in a car with a mask but it seems to really bug you. If it makes **THEM** feel better why not just leave them to their overdone comfort and security since it is causing NO ONE any harm. Think of ot like sleeping with a security blanket. Constantly making fools of people who are doing nothing that affects you is far worse than wearing a mask while 20 feet from someone or in a car with the windows closed. Seems to be some kind of obsession as you constantly comment on people who do that. Let them take care of themselves as long as it causes you no personal discomfort or harm.

[npwalters]

We go to one square or another once or twice a week. We try to be conscientious and we do wear a mask when close to others. BUT....it is unreasonable to go to a very public venue and expect everyone to leave a 6 ft (minimum) space on all sides of you. I would just not go if that were a hard and fast policy with us.

On New Years Eve Brownwood was packed. I placed our chairs in between two couples and was maybe 5 feet from one of them. They ask us to move. I suggested the couple move their chairs closer together to gain the additional foot and went on about my business. I'm a reasonable person but not one to be intimidated easily.

[EdFNJ]

Originally Posted by coffeebean

Agree about the brief encounter (such as Publix) is not enough to become infected.

Definately was true but not really known for sure anymore with this new Covid variant that is supposedly much more infectious. And don't think for a minute it's only 2 or 3 people that are running around with it here in FL. That 2 or 3 people reminds me of when some politician boasted that the coronavirus was about to disappear altogether from the United States. “You have 15 people, and the 15 within a couple of days is going to be down to close to zero” and look what happened.

[Velvet]

Originally Posted by Bikeracer2009

People do come in all varieties. Some don't think the same thing you're thinking and their actions may come across as self absorbed, inconsiderate and rude. The list is endless. I listen to a comedian named Bill Burr and one day on his podcast he was talking about his anger issues. It was suggested to him to say to himself "of course that person did that blank". He gave an example of a 4 way stop sign in which a white lady in a white Mercedes Benz didn't bother to stop when he was at the intersection first. He said to himself "of course she went through her stop sign without waiting because that the world she lives in". I cleaned up his comment.

You say of course to suggest that something is normal, obvious, or well-known, and should therefore not surprise you or be upsetting.

I sometimes use this tool myself and it makes a situation funny instead of making me mad.

Nothing works 100% so I keep a lookout for "red flags" so I don't let a situation get too far along before it's too late. If a situation has more red flags than a Chinese parade then you have to forget dealing with it and leave.

I'm not a psychologist or and expert so nothing I say I care to backup or debate.

Had to laugh at your strategy. I learned to use laughter to diffuse anger too. A friend is a professional kickboxer who boxes partly to control his angry personality. If someone cut me off while I was driving he’d jump out of the car ready to go at the person who cut me off. I’d make a joke of it, he’d laugh and get back in my car. It worked in most circumstances.

[tophcfa]

Agree with the OP, very frustrating.

[LiverpoolWalrus]

Originally Posted by EdFNJ

The real question is: Why does it always bother YOU so much whenever you read about someone who does that. I agree it is useless just as is driving in a car with a mask but it seems to really bug you. If it makes **THEM** feel better why not just leave them to their overdone comfort and security since it is causing NO ONE any harm. Think of ot like sleeping with a security blanket. Constantly making fools of people who are doing nothing that affects you is far worse than wearing a mask while 20 feet from someone or in a car with the windows closed. Seems to be some kind of obsession as you constantly comment on people who do that. Let them take care of themselves as long as it causes you no personal discomfort or harm.

Pardon me for chiming in even though the post wasn't directed to me. I have noticed, in 20+ years of participating in online discussion forums that there are many factors at work. First, a good number of participants are not "regulars" so this may be the very first time the reader is seeing this information, even though others might have seen it 50-100 times*. Second, good information/advice often slips through the cracks or is overlooked for whatever reason. Third and somewhat related, even though some readers are "reading," often they just don't connect the first time. The information doesn't register or get absorbed for whatever reason until it's seen a few times.

But at the risk of speaking for Eagles, I suspect he feels adamant that he's right and wants to help people worry less about the virus. He means well. If I'm right, I think that's commendable and I don't mind seeing his message repeated. If he doesn't repeat it, someone else will.

*We have one member who repeats a weekly meeting, yeah yeah yeah, with every single post because it's part of that person's signature and we love that person for it. I'm sure it's not intended for the regulars, but for first timers or newbies. ///o-o\\\

Originally Posted by golfing eagles View Post
Of course, this post begs the question: Why were you wearing masks outside 30 feet away from everybody else? What were you hoping to accomplish? Did you think you were "protecting" others? "Protecting" yourself?? At least those people who came within 6 feet of you made an otherwise useless mask possibly do some good.

Originally Posted by EdFNJ

The real question is: Why does it always bother YOU so much whenever you read about someone who does that. I agree it is useless just as is driving in a car with a mask but it seems to really bug you. If it makes **THEM** feel better why not just leave them to their overdone comfort and security since it is causing NO ONE any harm. Think of ot like sleeping with a security blanket. Constantly making fools of people who are doing nothing that affects you is far worse than wearing a mask while 20 feet from someone or in a car with the windows closed. Seems to be some kind of obsession as you constantly comment on people who do that. Let them take care of themselves as long as it causes you no personal discomfort or harm.

You missed golfing eagles point. Wearing a mask 30 feet from anyone might be evidence of a personality that turns an annoyance into a very stressful event.
As Dr. Phil would say, "You cant control what others do, just your reaction".

[UpNorth]

I'm sure there are plenty of people scared enough to be wearing their face diapers well after the Covid is long gone. These people should be staying home and locking their doors until their information sources sound the "all clear" bell.

[Swoop]

Originally Posted by OrangeBlossomBaby

to dhdallas you are incorrect. There are thousands of people who have died from COVID who had no pre-existing conditions. There are also millions who have survived it, who now have conditions they didn't have before they got the virus.

People who never had heart problems, or lung problems, got the virus, recovered from the virus, but now live with heart and/or lung problems that will require monitoring and medication for the rest of their lives.

There are people who weren't obese, not old, didn't fit into ANY of the categories of "at risk" - who got sick and died from COVID.

Talk about spreading misinformation - your post does a bangup job of it.

Really not misinformation. According to the CDC “For 6% of the deaths, COVID-19 was the only cause mentioned. For deaths with conditions or causes in addition to COVID-19, on average, there were 2.9 additional conditions or causes per death.”

[Dgizzi]

Originally Posted by OrangeBlossomBaby

to dhdallas you are incorrect. There are thousands of people who have died from COVID who had no pre-existing conditions. There are also millions who have survived it, who now have conditions they didn't have before they got the virus.

People who never had heart problems, or lung problems, got the virus, recovered from the virus, but now live with heart and/or lung problems that will require monitoring and medication for the rest of their lives.

There are people who weren't obese, not old, didn't fit into ANY of the categories of "at risk" - who got sick and died from COVID.

Talk about spreading misinformation - your post does a bangup job of it.

Please. You are not told everything. We are not told the history of every single person who has died from COVID.

[GoPacers]

People invade my space and they get a simulated cough or sneeze in their general direction.

[tophcfa]

Originally Posted by GoPacers

People invade my space and they get a simulated cough or sneeze in their general direction.

I have to quickly get as far away from these people as I can. The place on their face where their mask is supposed to be looks like a perfect bullseye for a right hook, but I am a better person than them so I just go in the other direction and avoid possibly getting infected with Covid. Happy New Years : )

[Velvet]

Originally Posted by tophcfa

I have to quickly get as far away from these people as I can. The place on their face where their mask is supposed to be looks like a perfect bullseye for a right hook, but I am a better person than them so I just go in the other direction and avoid possibly getting infected with Covid. Happy New Years : )

LOL ... right on.

Happy New Year(s) to come too

[EdFNJ]

Originally Posted by LiverpoolWalrus

But at the risk of speaking for Eagles, I suspect he feels adamant that he's right and wants to help people worry less about the virus. He means well. If I'm right, I think that's commendable and I don't mind seeing his message repeated. If he doesn't repeat it, someone else will.

The old modified for forums use saying that "It's not WHAT YOU SAY (WRITE) it's HOW YOU SAY (WRITE) IT" would fit here. LOL, if he wants to make someone "worry less" it can easily be explained in a way that does not embarrass, insult or make someone look or feel like a fool. IIRC he says he's a doctor. Would that condescending attitude be considered good "bedside manners?" If the intent is to educate someone there certainly is a better way to express that knowledge in a nicer manner.

[EdFNJ]

Originally Posted by John41

Originally Posted by golfing eagles View Post
Of course, this post begs the question: Why were you wearing masks outside 30 feet away from everybody else? What were you hoping to accomplish? Did you think you were "protecting" others? "Protecting" yourself?? At least those people who came within 6 feet of you made an otherwise useless mask possibly do some good.



You missed golfing eagles point. Wearing a mask 30 feet from anyone might be evidence of a personality that turns an annoyance into a very stressful event.
As Dr. Phil would say, "You cant control what others do, just your reaction".

I got his point very clearly and he repeats it time and again anytime someone says they wear a mask outside the 6' zone or in a place where it doesn't help like in a car. It's the condescending attitude not the "fact" that he states which is correct. Maybe explain it in a way that doesn't make someone look or feel like a fool.