[memason]

Did you ever notice, that when the husband talks about their friends, they are called Tom & Sue or Jerry & Kathy? ..and when the wife talks about the same couples, it's Sue & Tom and Kathy & Jerry ???

If our friends, who share an email address, send an email, I can tell who typed the email by how the names are sequenced....

Is it just me ???

[cquick]

interesting thought.....in our family, it seems to be mixed, one couple we call Steve and Sue and another we call Cathy and Mike. And we both seem to call them the same thing.

[marianne237]

Have you noticed when guys are talking they refer to their spouse as "the wife" instead of by actual name?

[Loudoll]

I read somewhere that family will say the name of the blood relative first in a couple and I've noticed that I do that.

[tedquick]

Originally Posted by marianne237

Have you noticed when guys are talking they refer to their spouse as "the wife" instead of by actual name?

If the party I'm speaking to does not know my wife or know her well, I refer to her as "my bride".

[perrjojo]

Miss Manners says the proper way to sign correspondence is to sign the other persons name first and then yours. Can't address why we say names the way we do. I guess we just say the name that is most significant to us first.

[rubicon]

I am an equal opportunity name caller. When speaking about a couple I say "the smiths", "the Jones" When it comes to my wife I have different names for her depending on...for instance if she is in an investigative state of mind I call her Charlie Chan. If she is attempting to be authoritative I call her boss, Ok boss.

[2BNTV]

Originally Posted by marianne237

Have you noticed when guys are talking they refer to their spouse as "the wife" instead of by actual name?

I hated when my boss referred to "the wife" as he was talking about in inanimate object. I find the term offensive.

It's funny that she became a real person, (Kathy), because he had to consult "the wife", when he wanted to buy some liquor.

I found it very off putting to be called "chief" and "boss", as some people can be bothered to remember someone's name.

BTW - I am single.

[Bizdoc]

I have a simple rule - I always list my wife first on everything. Makes her happy and reminds me how important she is in my life.

It does create interesting situations since we have different last names - we were in our 50s when we married and both had professional carriers. Made much more sense to keep our own names.

[Barefoot]

Originally Posted by Loudoll

I read somewhere that family will say the name of the blood relative first in a couple and I've noticed that I do that.

I never noticed before, but I do the same thing.
I automatically put the name of the person first that I like or know the best.
Interesting.

[Uptown Girl]

If one of the couple is a blood relative, I usually refer to them first. (when speaking of them to someone)

But sometimes a couple's names, when spoken, flow more smoothly in a certain order- like, Harold & Maude, for example. Or Liz and Dick. Samson and Delilah. "Delilah and Samson" just doesn't trip over the tongue as smoothly.

As far as personal correspondence goes, (sorry, Miss Manners!) I was always taught that the person actually doing the writing put their name before the partner. That way, my words are my own and recognized as such.

On formal correspondence ( concerning both hubby and I) I sign as Mr. and Mrs. - my husband's name first.

When I am being silly, I sign from 'him and me'. Or use something like: Mr. and Mrs. Snorklebutt, Mr. and Mrs. Potato Head….. Goldy and Balthazar…..whatever. ( to be clear, those are are not our real names. HA!)

[Loudoll]

Originally Posted by Uptown Girl

If one of the couple is a blood relative, I usually refer to them first.

But sometimes a couple's names, when spoken, flow more smoothly in a certain order- like, Harold & Maude, for example. Or Liz and Dick. Samson and Delilah. "Delilah and Samson" just doesn't trip over the tongue as smoothly.

As far as personal correspondence goes, (sorry, Miss Manners!) I was always taught that the person actually doing the writing put their name before the partner. That way, my words are my own and recognized as such.

On formal correspondence ( concerning both hubby and I) I sign as Mr. and Mrs. - my husband's name first.

When I am being silly, I sign from 'him and me'. Or use something like: Mr. and Mrs. Snorklebutt, Mr. and Mrs. Potato Head….. Goldy and Balthazar…..whatever. ( to be clear, those are are not our real names. HA!)

We had friends years ago named Sam and Janet who sent us cards from Sam and Janet Evening

[tedquick]

Originally Posted by Loudoll

We had friends years ago named Sam and Janet who sent us cards from Sam and Janet Evening

That is actually very cute~

[Uptown Girl]

Originally Posted by Loudoll

We had friends years ago named Sam and Janet who sent us cards from Sam and Janet Evening

Oh- I LIKE THAT!

[Bonanza]

Originally Posted by tedquick

If the party I'm speaking to does not know my wife or know her well, I refer to her as "my bride".

Your "bride?" Kind of silly at our age, particularly when you are speaking to those who don't know her well. Mentioning her name is much more polite and if you think that others don't know you are referring to your wife, you could say, my wife, Mary (or whatever her name is).

If my husband referred to me as his bride, I'd be embarrassed.