[Bonanza]

Originally Posted by memason

Did you ever notice, that when the husband talks about their friends, they are called Tom & Sue or Jerry & Kathy? ..and when the wife talks about the same couples, it's Sue & Tom and Kathy & Jerry ???

If our friends, who share an email address, send an email, I can tell who typed the email by how the names are sequenced....

Is it just me ???

Originally Posted by perrjojo

Miss Manners says the proper way to sign correspondence is to sign the other persons name first and then yours. Can't address why we say names the way we do. I guess we just say the name that is most significant to us first.

Originally Posted by Uptown Girl

If one of the couple is a blood relative, I usually refer to them first.

But sometimes a couple's names, when spoken, flow more smoothly in a certain order- like, Harold & Maude, for example. Or Liz and Dick. Samson and Delilah. "Delilah and Samson" just doesn't trip over the tongue as smoothly.

As far as personal correspondence goes, (sorry, Miss Manners!) I was always taught that the person actually doing the writing put their name before the partner. That way, my words are my own and recognized as such.

On formal correspondence ( concerning both hubby and I) I sign as Mr. and Mrs. - my husband's name first.

When I am being silly, I sign from 'him and me'. Or use something like: Mr. and Mrs. Snorklebutt, Mr. and Mrs. Potato Head….. Goldy and Balthazar…..whatever. ( to be clear, those are are not our real names. HA!)

Proper etiquette sez that if you are writing/signing your name and your spouse's, the spouse's name is always written first.

On anything printed, the woman's name always comes before the man's name.
An example would be a wedding invitation, the announcement of a birth, etc.

The biggest error I see throughout TV are all the name and address signs
on lampposts where the husband's name is printed before the wife's name. Tsk, tsk, it's wrong. Ladies first!

[Uptown Girl]

[QUOTE=Bonanza;961643]
Proper etiquette sez that if you are writing/signing your name and your spouse's, the spouse's name is always written first.

Does that apply if my husband writes a letter from the two of us, in his handwriting…. he is to sign it using my name first??

That may be proper, but it sends a weird vibe. ( in my opinion)

[Uptown Girl]

Originally Posted by Bonanza

Your "bride?" Kind of silly at our age, particularly when you are speaking to those who don't know her well. Mentioning her name is much more polite and if you think that others don't know you are referring to your wife, you could say, my wife, Mary (or whatever her name is).

If my husband referred to me as his bride, I'd be embarrassed.

Gosh, I would never consider that silly or embarrassing- at any age. It is used as an expression of affection. I find it most endearing.

[casita37]

I tend to mix it up...whatever is easier to say. Bob and Judy just comes out easier than Judy and Bob. The exception is my daughter and her husband. It would be more euphonious to say his name first, but I always put hers first.

My stepdaughter used to get insulted if her father or I said, or wrote, her husband's name first. She is divorced now, but I think (hope) she has matured beyond that now.

[bkcunningham1]

Originally Posted by Loudoll

I read somewhere that family will say the name of the blood relative first in a couple and I've noticed that I do that.

After reading your post I realized I do that also. Interesting.