[mikeandnancy1112]

My husband and I met in a bar/restaurant in Clearwater, Florida in 1984. We were married 2 weeks later and will be celebrating our 30 year marriage March 2014. Love and First Sight really works!! Oh, we are 65, both 3rd marriage

[TrudyM]

Originally Posted by senior citizen

No problem. It is fun to read everyone's comments on longevity in marriage.

BUT.......what does one do when their nearly perfect spouse goes ballistic because their freezer has konked out? Ironically, yesterday we had a huge amount of frozen KANSAS CITY STEAKS barbecue type meats delivered to our garage freezer, plus his Schwans ice cream "stockpile"............and being that it's been rainy and HUMID here for the past 25 days or more........the ice cream was feeling soft last night........he found frost building up in the freezer (which is in a humid garage; not our kitchen freezer).......which is an upright total freezer..............total nervous breakdown while I remained calm.......I finally got him to call our appliance repair guy who just arrived.......I'm sure it needs some coolant or whatever......rather than running to buy an entire new freezer when we plan to ultimately sell this house.

So, how does one deal with the otherwise lovely spouse when they have a mini melt down over nothing???? I would have called the repair guy last evening......

All of you happily marrieds............what do do when hubby turns into unrecognizable _____________??????????

Have to ask my husband as the "want to make everything nice for everyone" member of this duo I am the one who has the melt downs. Hugs and it's only money is what he uses most to calm the manic wife.

[rubicon]

Originally Posted by ijusluvit

OK, if we are now sharing the secrets to marital longevity, I'd say it all comes down to just one thing: Trust.

For the last 45 years we've come to trust and depend on each other for a lot of things in our daily lives. We know that is there to support us when we need support.

Only a fool would throw that away.

In any relationship once trust is breached the relationship is over be it a marrige, corporation, government, friendship,etc.

Another factor is the ability to communicate. My wife and I went to Marriage Encounter several years ago and that program's emphasis was communication. so when you argued it was important not to garbage dump ( your just like your mother) and consider the benefits of time outs, humor, empathy Ex Rubicona to Rubicon "Your a jerk" Rubicon's response. "Well there is no sense of being a jerk unless you can act like one".

[Boudicca]

We have been married 44 years, dated for 3 prior to that. Lived here in TV for 3 years and love life, and each other.

[KeepingItReal]

Married 44 years, she was 17, I was 2 weeks over 19 and first year in USAF. 62 and 63 now. A dozen of her favorite yellow roses each anniversary sure goes a long way.

[upinmaine]

31 years today. He is 64 and she is 62. Bought in TV November 2012 and now full time since December 2012. Hope to add many years to the 31.

[Shirleevee]

Originally Posted by upinmaine

31 years today. He is 64 and she is 62. Bought in TV November 2012 and now full time since December 2012. Hope to add many years to the 31.

43 years...........laughter is what keeps us married

[jimbo2012]

Yes we are long "Soul Mates"

[Jaggy]

Married 1973 - I am the youngster- 60 and he is 65. - we haven't killed each other yet !!!! FROGS since Nov 2012..

[jblum315]

We were married 42 years when my husband passed away in 2004. He was 8 years older than me, but way too young to die. I still miss him every day.

[AriaGrandparents2013]

Married 42 years..............and going stronger than ever.

[senior citizen]

Originally Posted by TrudyM

Have to ask my husband as the "want to make everything nice for everyone" member of this duo I am the one who has the melt downs. Hugs and it's only money is what he uses most to calm the manic wife.

ha ha..... Well, the food is still cold at 20 degrees, even though he shut it off overnight, thinking it might cause a fire (some humming sound).....

Repair guy who we've used for 30 years thought there was nothing wrong with the freezer......but just that it needed some "air" behind it......however, because hubby's ice cream is "softer than it should be" he went down and ordered a new upright freezer for the garage....which they are delivering in two hours here.

The food feels FROZEN to me. He used to keep his ice cream stash in the side by side black refrigerator/freezer (also in the garage). Since that is newer (moved from our kitchen out to the garage when the s/s one arrived).........I think yes, the ice cream was colder in the black freezer..........and also it's been so HUMID here for a month....and rainy.......plus the Schwans guy had just put the ice cream in the freezer while it was pouring rain out......

.........but here comes our new freezer when we plan to sell the home in ten months from now.

Thanks for sharing.............

(I bet that our freezer was always 20 degrees, but just now noticed by retired guy.)

[senior citizen]

MORE wonderful remembrances of long marriages from folks in THE VILLAGES.
Thanks to all for sharing.........

Speaking of "More" (which was our "song" at or wedding in 1965).......
"More than the greatest love the word has known.....etc."
Can't even remember who made that song popular????

Who can actually remember their song, their wedding reception.......or did they elope?

Who can remember where they went on their honeymoon, if they had a honeymoon?

I'm not senile YET.......just seeing if you all can remember.........the good old days.

[AriaGrandparents2013]

Wedding song - Theme from Love Story

Honeymoon wasn't possible as 1st job after graduating from college allowed Tuesday off and return to work on Wednesday in Harrisburg, PA........married in Massachusetts on July 5th which was a Monday.

[senior citizen]

Originally Posted by AriaGrandparents2013

Wedding song - Theme from Love Story

Honeymoon wasn't possible as 1st job after graduating from college allowed Tuesday off and return to work on Wednesday in Harrisburg, PA........married in Massachusetts on July 5th which was a Monday.

Beautiful melody......thanks for sharing.......