[Golfingnut]

Early this morning post # 29 to the thread PET PEEVE: Trish Crocker woke me up with that post:

When friends are in from out of town and we want to talk and catch up, we always pick a quiet spot to do so. When the neighbors want to get together to whoop and holler, we head for City Fire. I will print post # 29 and pin it on my computer as a way to respond in the future. When I see folks say they went to a rock concert to have a quiet conversation, I go off in the same wrong direction they do with inappropriate comments. Nothing is done in this wonderful place without a reason, so when we complain about something, we are indirectly insulting someones taste.

IS ANYONE WRONG OR AN IDIOT IF:

Some like it loud and some don't.
Some like cigar smoke and some gag from it.
Some like slow play on the course and some (ME) do not.
Gas Carts vs Electric Carts.
More 60's music for some, More Country for others.

I would like to thank Admin and the Monitors for protecting us from ourselves by deleting posts. Yesterday I had 3 or 4 deleted that made me go WHAT, but this morning, I agree, I did get off topic and for no other reason than my personal beliefs. For me, I am going to try a different approach to posting.

YES, The Villages has problems just like everyplace in this country, but it is the best place we have ever lived.

YES, We have met some less than perfect folks in The Villages, but we have also met some folks that we will call life long friends.

Trying to change someone's opinion is generally fruitless anyway so why cause the friction. Give yours without insulting theirs and drop it.

Good morning everyone and to everyone I wish you a wonderful day.

[mickey100]

Originally Posted by Golfingnut

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YES, The Villages has problems just like everyplace in this country, but it is the best place we have ever lived.

YES, We have met some less than perfect folks in The Villages, but we have also met some folks that we will call life long friends.

Trying to change someone's opinion is generally fruitless anyway so why cause the friction. Give yours without insulting theirs and drop it.

Good morning everyone and to everyone I wish you a wonderful day.

I like your realistic and balanced view. Wishing you a wonderful day as well.

[gomoho]

Good post Golfingnut and words I hope to live by.

Well...if it would make you feel any better...I called someone a "Schmuck" on the City Fire Dog thread this morning. But, I think admin deleted it before they could see it. Darn!

As someone who is very likely going to need a Service Dog in the next few years, the thread was quite upsetting to me. But I feel better now.

You have a wonderful day too!

Cheers-Katie

[redwitch]

Well said, golfingnut.

And, Katie, there's a HUGE difference between a service dog and a comfort dog. A service dog should be welcomed everywhere. A comfort dog does not give service; it may relieve anxiety but the reality is they're not needed to help or protect an owner, just make them feel a little more secure. To claim a comfort dog as a service dog and demand that it be treated as such is just plain wrong.

Originally Posted by redwitch

Well said, golfingnut.

And, Katie, there's a HUGE difference between a service dog and a comfort dog. A service dog should be welcomed everywhere. A comfort dog does not give service; it may relieve anxiety but the reality is they're not needed to help or protect an owner, just make them feel a little more secure. To claim a comfort dog as a service dog and demand that it be treated as such is just plain wrong.

I agree with you on everything you said. Not sure why you had the impression that I would think otherwise. I think what upset me is why do people designate themselves as the handicap police? Or, the golf cart police? Or the dog poop police?

I read golfingnuts post and I suddenly "got it" too. You can't change people, you can't change others opinions, you can only change yourself. You are always going to have people that have to police everything, be right about everything, judgmental and have nasty things to say. And I almost got caught up in that today, and it is just not me...I don't like it when I act that way...and I too am not going to allow it to happen again.

So, with that said, everyone have a great day, and I sure hope it does not rain until evening!

Katie

[redwitch]

Katie, I got the impression that you were afraid you would be reacted negatively to if the day came you needed a service dog. I was just saying that these women did not have service dogs, not that you thought differently. Sorry for the misinterpretation.

As to why people designate themselves as any type of police, who knows? A sense of self-righteousness, of self-importance, of self-entitlement. Some of their complaints are legitimate, some cross several lines to my mind. Sometimes I know this is not normally how that person reacts, speaks and chalk it up to a bad day. Sometimes I see it as a person who just can't see the good in anything or loves to stir things up. I feel sorry for them. And, if you ever do say something mean to someone else, I'm going to chalk it up to a bad day and happily ignore it.

And I don't care when it rains, just so long as it rains. I'm tired of seeing Silver Lake dried up.

[NotGolfer]

Originally Posted by Golfingnut

Early this morning post # 29 to the thread PET PEEVE: Trish Crocker woke me up with that post:

When friends are in from out of town and we want to talk and catch up, we always pick a quiet spot to do so. When the neighbors want to get together to whoop and holler, we head for City Fire. I will print post # 29 and pin it on my computer as a way to respond in the future. When I see folks say they went to a rock concert to have a quiet conversation, I go off in the same wrong direction they do with inappropriate comments. Nothing is done in this wonderful place without a reason, so when we complain about something, we are indirectly insulting someones taste.

IS ANYONE WRONG OR AN IDIOT IF:

Some like it loud and some don't.
Some like cigar smoke and some gag from it.
Some like slow play on the course and some (ME) do not.
Gas Carts vs Electric Carts.
More 60's music for some, More Country for others.

I would like to thank Admin and the Monitors for protecting us from ourselves by deleting posts. Yesterday I had 3 or 4 deleted that made me go WHAT, but this morning, I agree, I did get off topic and for no other reason than my personal beliefs. For me, I am going to try a different approach to posting.

YES, The Villages has problems just like everyplace in this country, but it is the best place we have ever lived.

YES, We have met some less than perfect folks in The Villages, but we have also met some folks that we will call life long friends.

Trying to change someone's opinion is generally fruitless anyway so why cause the friction. Give yours without insulting theirs and drop it.

Good morning everyone and to everyone I wish you a wonderful day.

GREAT post!! You're absolutely correct. My addition to this is my spouse will say "some folks have WAY too much time on their hands!" Thus referring to some of the topics AND comments.

[eremite06]

Originally Posted by KatieDidNot

I agree with you on everything you said. Not sure why you had the impression that I would think otherwise. I think what upset me is why do people designate themselves as the handicap police? Or, the golf cart police? Or the dog poop police?

I read golfingnuts post and I suddenly "got it" too. You can't change people, you can't change others opinions, you can only change yourself. You are always going to have people that have to police everything, be right about everything, judgmental and have nasty things to say. And I almost got caught up in that today, and it is just not me...I don't like it when I act that way...and I too am not going to allow it to happen again.

So, with that said, everyone have a great day, and I sure hope it does not rain until evening!

Katie

"....grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."

[CFrance]

Originally Posted by KatieDidNot

Well...if it would make you feel any better...I called someone a "Schmuck" on the City Fire Dog thread this morning. But, I think admin deleted it before they could see it. Darn!

As someone who is very likely going to need a Service Dog in the next few years, the thread was quite upsetting to me. But I feel better now.

You have a wonderful day too!

Cheers-Katie

I saw it, Katie! It made me laugh. It wasn't directed at anyone on this forum, but at an anonymous person who purchased a fake service dog certification.

A very apt reaction on your part, I might add.

[golf4me]

Originally Posted by Golfingnut

Early this morning post # 29 to the thread PET PEEVE: Trish Crocker woke me up with that post:

When friends are in from out of town and we want to talk and catch up, we always pick a quiet spot to do so. When the neighbors want to get together to whoop and holler, we head for City Fire. I will print post # 29 and pin it on my computer as a way to respond in the future. When I see folks say they went to a rock concert to have a quiet conversation, I go off in the same wrong direction they do with inappropriate comments. Nothing is done in this wonderful place without a reason, so when we complain about something, we are indirectly insulting someones taste.

IS ANYONE WRONG OR AN IDIOT IF:

Some like it loud and some don't.
Some like cigar smoke and some gag from it.
Some like slow play on the course and some (ME) do not.
Gas Carts vs Electric Carts.
More 60's music for some, More Country for others.

I would like to thank Admin and the Monitors for protecting us from ourselves by deleting posts. Yesterday I had 3 or 4 deleted that made me go WHAT, but this morning, I agree, I did get off topic and for no other reason than my personal beliefs. For me, I am going to try a different approach to posting.

YES, The Villages has problems just like everyplace in this country, but it is the best place we have ever lived.

YES, We have met some less than perfect folks in The Villages, but we have also met some folks that we will call life long friends.

Trying to change someone's opinion is generally fruitless anyway so why cause the friction. Give yours without insulting theirs and drop it.

Good morning everyone and to everyone I wish you a wonderful day.

Blessed are the peacekeepers.

[capecodbob]

Wait a minute!
Are you saying that if someone posts a comment that you do not agree with that we should just move on and not post the "other side"?
I would not be in favor of that.
Debate is great! I want to hear both sides.
I can't fine it on TV or in the big newspapers. How can people make a good decision on a topic if they are only exposed to one side.
(I submit the current elected officials in DC as a prime example)

[Golfingnut]

Originally Posted by capecodbob

Wait a minute!
Are you saying that if someone posts a comment that you do not agree with that we should just move on and not post the "other side"?
I would not be in favor of that.
Debate is great! I want to hear both sides.
I can't fine it on TV or in the big newspapers. How can people make a good decision on a topic if they are only exposed to one side.
(I submit the current elected officials in DC as a prime example)

Trying to change someone's opinion is generally fruitless anyway so why cause the friction. Give yours without insulting theirs and drop it.

No Sir, the above is my intention of my long winded post. It is not what we say, but how we say it that can cause friction.

[Cantwaittoarrive]

Everyone is normal and everyone is weird it just depends on who is making the judgment

[Cedwards38]

Originally Posted by Cantwaittoarrive

Everyone is normal and everyone is weird it just depends on who is making the judgment

I've often heard it opined that we are all insane. It's just a matter of degree!