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Originally Posted by Pginbr (Post 1985202)

Or, what allows us to feel we must post it here. I don’t see where there is any mention of having knowledge or details of what occurred between 2 people in TV. Did the worker run over her dog? Did he confront her first? Was it a family member? We don’t know anything. Peeking out from s garage after hearing a squabble, but not having any details of what happened, constitutes dropping a post on a site that is for information about TV?

I agree we don't know much about what happened. But, at the same time, I don't recall any rules specifying the allowable content on this site (other than no politics). It seems many feel the site should only contain content they approve of. And that is a sad thing. I welcome all content anyone feels like posting. If I am not interested in it, I don't read it.

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Originally Posted by NoMo50 (Post 1985112)

We've all seen this type of behavior many times, in many situations. The OP's example was a roadway worker, but it could be just about anyone. Ever get hung up in a grocery line while someone is fishing through their purse for a dozen coupons? Ever get stuck on the course behind a foursome that each take 4 shots to reach a par 3? How about that guy at the fast food counter trying to place an order for 8 people?

Folks that react beligerently to these situations usually have a common trait...an entitlement mentality. The old "my time is more important than your time" attitude. You can't change folks like this, as they have probably been that way for most of their adult life. Life is way too short to run around being PO'd a all the time. When I encounter someone like that, I will typically chuckle at the least, or even outwardly laugh at their behavior. If you buy into the fracas, it only escalates things and generally goes downhill quickly.

Excellent point.

I have no problem with people making honest mistakes, especially if rushed. My patience sometimes wears thin when I deal with people with an obvious bad attitude.

Some time back we were eating at a restaurant at Lake Sumter Landing. Our waitress was obviously off her game. Her service for us was just adequate. She made no bones about loudly telling a co-worker (loud enough that we as well as several diners could hear) that she had been called in on her day off and was P.O.'ed at management for doing that. She got noticeably upset when, having waited for nearly ten minutes for a requested coffee refill from her, I asked another waitress, who brought it right away. My wife could see my anger building and urged me not to say anything.

I didn't. What I DID do was to slap down a $10 tip for a $30 tab, accompanying it with the comment "I hope your day improves". It got an incredulous look from her, followed by a big smile.

I was in Publix yesterday in produce section. A young man and older lady were discussing avocados but also standing in front of a item I needed. I politely waited while they went on and on. A lady came between myself and the young man to reach around him and get her item. She then left the area. When I got to the other side of the store she saw me and walked up to me and apologized!! Made my day.

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Originally Posted by Hape2Bhr (Post 1984808)

New York...LOL :blahblahblah:

New England consists of Connecticut, Maine, New Hampshire, Vermont, Rhode Island and Massachusetts

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Originally Posted by jmcica@aol.com (Post 1985241)

New England consists of Connecticut, Maine, New Hampshire, Vermont, Rhode Island and Massachusetts

Hmm, I thought those were all part of the US, did that change?

I think there are rude people everywhere. The difference here may be that people participate in community activities and such. Before retirement, it's pretty much to work all day and back home.. rinse and repeat..

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Originally Posted by Hape2Bhr (Post 1984808)

New York...LOL :blahblahblah:

Tsk, tsk, tsk. Don't tar everyone with the same brush!!!

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Originally Posted by Madelaine Amee (Post 1984735)

I live in one of the villages where the roads are being resurfaced. This morning the crew re-surfaced with tar our road, it looks great and the job they did is excellent. I was in my garage when I heard a woman screaming at someone, so being slightly nosey I got up to look. A woman in a car was giving a young man hell because he would not let her through, she sat there yelling and screaming at him for some time and then finally took off and drove through to wherever she was headed.

I have lived here long enough to know that people are rude and I should be used to it, but I never get used to the ignorance often shown here in TV.

What is it within us that allows us to feel we can speak to people in this way, I will never understand it.:ohdear:

I don’t think it’s just here. It’s everywhere. When we are up north the same thing can be found.

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Originally Posted by Travelingal702 (Post 1985266)

Tsk, tsk, tsk. Don't tar everyone with the same brush!!!

We've met several Nooo Yawkers. Nice folks, all. out of all the Villagers we've met, I can count the noticeably rude ones on the fingers of one hand and have a a finger or two left over.

But...two of 'em were Brits. I'm not sure what that says.

I think the problem here is it's getting too crowded. The more people you put together, the worse it will get. The lines, the traffic, the crowded restaurants. The Villages has grown so much that it has become a city, with that you get city problems. Fasten your seatbelts, it's only going to get worse.

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Originally Posted by MrFlorida (Post 1985201)

Well, coming from the Northeast, I find people in Florida very friendly and courteous.

I'm not from the Northeast but agree about friendly Florida people.
:mademyday::ho::clap2:

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Originally Posted by jmcica@aol.com (Post 1985241)

New England consists of Connecticut, Maine, New Hampshire, Vermont, Rhode Island and Massachusetts

Thanks for the geography lesson.
:bigbow::bigbow::a040:

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Originally Posted by ThirdOfFive (Post 1984777)

As people get older, they become more like themselves.

That is not as confusing as it sounds. During our younger years we develop techniques and safeguards against letting those parts of our personalities show through that would be construed by many as hostile, negative, patronizing, or whatever; personality traits that could hinder what we might have seen as hindering advancement in work, destructive of relationships, whatever. Some of us become quite good at it, others, not so much. But as we age, we gradually become less able to hide those traits or to control when or under what circumstances the come to the surface. The older we get, the more the real person shows through.

This is not a rationale for extreme rudeness or negative social acting-out. People might be less able to control their reactions but they can still recognize situations where they are most apt to occur and avoid them. But it does explain why we're more apt to see it here in "the bubble" than in former communities populated with younger people.

That was a GREAT, thought-provoking, and informative post. I am glad that I read it.

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Originally Posted by ThirdOfFive (Post 1984788)

Gerontology 101. In my former life I provided interventional and case-management services for vulnerable adults, most of them post-retirement age.

Interesting life work.