[senior citizen]

In thinking of a recent poster's passing, I was reminded of something I had read last year with regard to there being no funeral parlor/home in The Villages. I have seen numerous churches in THE VILLAGES.
Where is the closest funeral parlor? Closest cemetery?

Not to be morbid or morose, but it's a fact of life that everyone will pass on one of these days.......my question involves those who have already relocated in addition to those of us planning on relocating to T.V.

How many have even thought about whether or not they would want to be "returned home".......meaning body or cremains.

Many of us have had more than one "hometown".....so where would the "home port" be.......your birthplace? Last town lived in, where you raised your family?

How many don't even want a traditional old fashioned wake and funeral service.........meaning funeral parlor and church, followed by cemetery burial?

How many would just like to be cremated and have a "celebration of life" with no viewing???

We have seen more and more of the "celebration of life" simple get togethers these past twenty years........whether it is the high cost of funerals or just less religious ideas among the departed.......or whatever.

AGAIN, not to be depressing.........but I imagine just shipping a loved one back north or wherever, and then having everyone travel to the wake and funeral, would be very expensive nowadays.

We haven't even begun to plan ours. So, just wondering.....with the relocation upcoming and all.................any feedback would be welcomed.

My dad is buried in New Jersey, his family is buried in Calvary cemetery in New York........my mom's family is buried in New Jersey and she is buried in Vermont.........I realize the soul is free and the spirit can be everywhere......so I'm o.k. with that........hard on those who want to visit the gravesite or place some flowers.

Thanks to all who respond..........

[bkcunningham1]

Senior Citizen, here is a link to a local funeral home: Beyers Funeral Home and Crematory - The Villages - Lady Lake

[Parker]

Personally, I plan to be cremated with the ashes scattered in the mountains or some other pretty spot. Will leave that to my loved ones. A grave no longer seems the least important, because as you say, the spirit is elsewhere/everywhere. Families now live all over the place and may rarely or never see a burial plot again.

In fact, much of my family is buried in California, in what was once the only cemetery in a lovely small town. That cemetery is now, these many years later, in a scary area that none of us are brave enough to visit. Who would have ever foreseen that?

[In awe of TV]

My plans are simple and my children know exactly what I desire - my instructions are for cremation, with my ashes strewn in the Caribbean. Simple, short and sweet. If my kids would like to plan a vacation around my instructions, all the better!

I've always thought that funerals are so long, drawn out and a waste of money. As far as a memorial service - there won't be one. If anyone should want to donate in my memory, my favorite charity will be listed to do so.

These are just my wishes and MHO. I don't like anyone fussing over me now and I certainly don't want it once my soul has passed over. I will be watching and protecting my friends and family from the heavens above and I'll make my presence known.
: )

[rubicon]

My immediate funeral plans are to keep trying to stay alive. When that fails my wishes have been expressed and incorporated into my Estate Plan.
I wish to be cremated and my ashes disposed of by the crematory. I do not want anything elaborate as money should be spent on the living and I do not want a viewing. It will of course all be done here

[Xavier]

Grieving and Families have changed so much. My Mom and Dad came from huge families. Dad had 12 brothers and sisters and Mom had 9 brothers and sisters. I can remember 3 or 4 days of grieving and celebration. ...and the food was out of this world! Come to think of it, Weddings were a lot like funerals back then. Anyway, back then most all of the family lived close by and we're much closer than they are now. We visited family members every weekend when I was a kid. Now families are often across the country and maybe even around the world.

My wife and I have discussed the topic from time to time and have decided that we'll be taking up residence in the National Cemetery in Bushnell, FL. It's a beautiful place. It is a benefit for those who have served our country as well as a benefit for their spouse and dependents. I expect to be cremated. My wife has yet to decide, but I think she's leaning that way as well.

Xavier

[Becky]

I am with In awe of TV- just signed up with the National Creamation Society, so that is done. Kids know to take my ashes on a cruise and scatter them. No service. If someone just thinks of me and says, " I'm gonna miss Becky", then that is enough for me! (Hope it's a long ways off!)

Becky

[graciegirl]

I don't plan to leave.

[kittygilchrist]

I don't plan to leave either.

[redwitch]

Cremation with whatever pieces are left after donating body for harvesting, cutting up, whatever. I like the idea that some good can come of my death and I don't care what my daughter does with the cremains. No services. I haven't been to a funeral or memorial service since my friend's son died of AIDS and I don't want to be part of one at my death. My spirit will quite happy without that occurring.

[Quixote]

Originally Posted by senior citizen

In thinking of a recent poster's passing, I was reminded of something I had read last year with regard to there being no funeral parlor/home in The Villages. I have seen numerous churches in THE VILLAGES.
Where is the closest funeral parlor? Closest cemetery?

Not to be morbid or morose, but it's a fact of life that everyone will pass on one of these days.......my question involves those who have already relocated in addition to those of us planning on relocating to T.V.

How many have even thought about whether or not they would want to be "returned home".......meaning body or cremains.

Many of us have had more than one "hometown".....so where would the "home port" be.......your birthplace? Last town lived in, where you raised your family?

How many don't even want a traditional old fashioned wake and funeral service.........meaning funeral parlor and church, followed by cemetery burial?

How many would just like to be cremated and have a "celebration of life" with no viewing???

We have seen more and more of the "celebration of life" simple get togethers these past twenty years........whether it is the high cost of funerals or just less religious ideas among the departed.......or whatever.

AGAIN, not to be depressing.........but I imagine just shipping a loved one back north or wherever, and then having everyone travel to the wake and funeral, would be very expensive nowadays.

We haven't even begun to plan ours. So, just wondering.....with the relocation upcoming and all.................any feedback would be welcomed.

My dad is buried in New Jersey, his family is buried in Calvary cemetery in New York........my mom's family is buried in New Jersey and she is buried in Vermont.........I realize the soul is free and the spirit can be everywhere......so I'm o.k. with that........hard on those who want to visit the gravesite or place some flowers.

Thanks to all who respond..........

Just want to say that I don't consider this subject "depressing." It's a part of life that every one of us deals with eventually; no one gets out of this world alive.

IMO, there is nothing for me to visit at the gravesites of family members and friends; my experience of these folks are part of my memories and are always with me. Our remains are just that—remains—while the best part of us lives on spiritually and in the memories of others.

BTW, I believe there is a funeral parlor on Buenos Aires Blvd., in a way an unfortunate location in the midst of medical office buildings.... I don't know about anyone else, but I never quite understood the word "parlor" in relation to funerals; gone are the days where folks were buried from home.

[teachnmo]

My husband and I want to be cremated. I would really like to donate my body first so they can document what actually happens to a body who has drank Diet Coke for over 45 years.

We want our family/friends to have a party and enjoy a celebration of life. I had a Celebration of Life Service for my mother when she passed away from cancer three years ago in a church where I grew up. Guess I forgot to tell my three kids who got up and talked before I did what a Celebration entailed. So they will be clear when I part to get out the beer, wine, and have a barbecue. I will be there in spirit!

Imagine that I will be the last in generations who left flowers on the graves at Christmas and Memorial Day. I am thinking about planting a flower bush that will bloom each year instead. Our cemetery in Missouri allows that.

We are headed on a cruise next month. I saw an ER show last night on TV where the husband had died on the second day of the cruise. The wife told them to keep him on hold as she was going to finish the cruise. Can't say that I blame her. Wonder if you can put in your will to have a ocean drop if you happen to die on the cruise???

[Rickg]

I am amazed at the number of us that Have given up the traditional cemetery. I believe times have changed also and have only visited a grave once. I will be cremated and my ashes spread on tablerock lake in MO. That's where the kids and us have gone for the last 31 years and continue to.

[jebartle]

Double Hefty bag and two twists.

[rayschic]

Donate organs. Cremate and spread ashes at sea.