[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by cquick

I thought of lots of smart remarks afterwards, but yours is one of the best.

Not that I'll remember to use it the next time this happens, and this sort of thing happens more often than people realize.

Sadly. Yes it does.

[rubicon]

I have noticed since moving here that some residents have a perception of what The Villages is and anything that alters that perception caused them to short circuit. One of those is the misconception that The Villages should be only a retirement community for retirees only ( empty nesters) . so if for any reason or no reason they find a couples' child has moved with them it does fit their reality.

My response would not have been something of a defensive nature it would have been something of an offensive manner like "that is an interesting statement you are making ...could you elaborate as to why you believe you have the right to broadcast your remarks and your reason for doing so.............Perhaps you would find that the guy never gave it much thought and was overreacting

[rjm1cc]

As long as there is no safety issue I see no problem.

You would hope that living in a retirement community where more of us experience problems as we age, those of us that currently do not have problems would be understanding of those that do.

[duffysmom]

At first I was outraged when I read your message and then I felt sad you had to experience such ignorance. Remember you can't fix stupid!! Continue to enjoy yourself and know that many of us admire you and the loving way you care for your son.

[vorage]

It makes me so sad to hear this, but very proud of the loving support you are getting here at TOTV. Please don't let the odd behavior of one individual make you second guess what you and your son love to do.
I have never gone down to say hello to him, and wonder if your son would welcome strangers stopping by to say hello when he is enjoying the band? I wouldn't want to upset him if he is sensitive to strangers, but it might give that fellow pause to see the right way to behave.

[dewilson58]

Originally Posted by duffysmom

At first I was outraged when I read your message and then I felt sad you had to experience such ignorance. Remember you can't fix stupid!! Continue to enjoy yourself and know that many of us admire you and the loving way you care for your son.

Perfect word..............IGNORANCE.

A Village Idiot.

[Barefoot]

What an idiot! I don't blame you for being hurt, but he isn't worth a minute's thought.
Your lack of response was the best possible comeback.
Blessings to you and to all caregivers.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by outlaw

"A man came up to me and said that he had been told by other people and entertainers that they think it's rude for me to put him by the stage and just leave him there."
Could it be the man felt sorry for your son being left alone, while you went and sat with other friends. I'm not saying you did anything wrong. But maybe the man thought you kind of abandoned him up by the stage.

I had the same thought but was afraid to verbalize it for fear of getting trounced. Perhaps he felt badly for him sitting by himself?

[Buckeyephan]

My husband and I were there last night, sitting a few rows behind you. Like others, we have seen your son enjoying the music many times. I am so sorry that this person intruded on your pleasant evening. Please know that this man has a viewpoint that is not shared by many others. Keep on bringing your son to the square and don't let this get you down.

[gatherer47]

Patrick is a terrific young man and Connie and Chuck are great parents! I have kept Patrick company on several occasions to give Connie and Chuck the opportunity to attend Village events.I can tell anyone that I have personal experience with this family and Patrick's well being is the number one concern in their lives.Patrick has attended several rehearsals of our doo wop group and the entertainers love him.As one who has worked in this field professionally,I continue to be amazed at the ignorance of people.God bless the Quicks!

[cquick]

Originally Posted by DianeM

I had the same thought but was afraid to verbalize it for fear of getting trounced. Perhaps he felt badly for him sitting by himself?

I don't think you should be trounced for any opinion. Yes, there are many ways to look at everything. Maybe we should put a sign on his wheelchair saying "I just want to enjoy the music, and go talk to my mom". He likes his little feeling of being in charge.

[2BNTV]

I am angry and sad this happened to you and yours. Everyone knows except this imbecile, that you are great parents to Patrick and devout your lives, to his care.

I wish I were there as I would have questioned his right, to make such rude statements.

The Villages idiot, at work!

I hope he does see this on TOTV and realizes how inappropriate his conduct, was.

GOD bless you Connie. It takes a special person to do what you do, everyday.

[beachx4me]

Originally Posted by Bay Kid

So sorry to hear this. You can't change rude!

Nor can you fix stupid!! I am glad your son enjoys the entertainment. If that a** would have thought long enough about it maybe he could have figured out why you do things the way you do.

Open mouth, insert foot!!

[Abby10]

Originally Posted by cquick

I thought of lots of smart remarks afterwards, but yours is one of the best.

Not that I'll remember to use it the next time this happens, and this sort of thing happens more often than people realize.

It saddens me to hear this, as well as the details of the incident you described in your OP. I hope you can see and hear the support and love toward you and your son from those on this forum. You are to be admired for your devotion to him, not admonished by someone who has no idea what they are talking about. How sad that someone could be so thoughtless. You, on the other hand, handled it with grace.

[Fraugoofy]

Originally Posted by ricthemic

I really hope this rude idiot reads TOTV

I am pretty sure this rude idiot might read TOTV and he might also be a poster on the political forum! Sorry there are so many idiots out there and that a few even live in TV...