[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by rubicon

In all due respect JoMar for some reason unknown to me you continue to add your confirmation bias to every one of my comments. Please re-read my comments again, if you are so inclined, and you will see that never once did I blame the victim.

The news today is so depressingly saturated that I ignore most of it and in this instance while I did address my opinion of this guy I tried to make it a little lighter to regain some sense of balance.

Personal Best Regards:

I understood your post, a long time ago I "got" that you are a kind and considered person.

When something like this issue comes up, something that we can't fix easily, we all seem to pick at each other. I got that you were trying to be light and I too was wondering about dementia. Not all things are social issues or political issues. Some things are just ....well unsolvable.

Probably the reason we have so many churches.

[graciegirl]

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Humor and subtlety do not come through very well in print when the subject is horrifying.[/

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Now that, my friend, needs to be remembered by us all.

[Paper1]

I hope the guy's wife has some kind of support in the community. She is probably having a very rough few days.

[RickeyD]

Originally Posted by Paper1

I hope the guy's wife has some kind of support in the community. She is probably having a very rough few days.

Some people are just so absolutely self centered with no regard for others, this guy is that poster child.


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[dbussone]

Originally Posted by Sandtrap328

Jim,

Of course, the courts could order him not to drink. The court could order him not to touch a gun. How would it be enforced? No one would know until he is drunk or starts waving a gun around - and the lady has to live in constant fear until his trial happens in a few more years.



Just does not seem right but I don't know what could be done.



Any suggestions - and the lady getting a pistol is not a vald suggestion. No one should not have to be armed 24/7 in order to feel safe in The Villages.

The judge currently presiding over his case can instruct the sheriff to take and hold his guns until the case is settled.


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[PattyCakes]

Whether he is sentenced to prison or not, this lady should consider moving permanently. If you put yourself in her shoes, even though you know he's in prison, when you open your door every morning wouldn't you look next door, just to be safe? Wouldn't you always be on alert, wondering if today would be the day he got out? Life is too short to spend in anxiety and worry. She was physically unharmed THIS time. The second time might not end as well. She shouldn't give him another chance. And the wife? God bless her and I hope she has a good attorney.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by PattyCakes

Whether he is sentenced to prison or not, this lady should consider moving permanently. If you put yourself in her shoes, even though you know he's in prison, when you open your door every morning wouldn't you look next door, just to be safe? Wouldn't you always be on alert, wondering if today would be the day he got out? Life is too short to spend in anxiety and worry. She was physically unharmed THIS time. The second time might not end as well. She shouldn't give him another chance. And the wife? God bless her and I hope she has a good attorney.

But WHO would WANT to move into that house next to him?

[redwitch]

The victim should be notified of the date of his release, whether it is via bond or end of his sentence. If typical, he'll go before the judge say he is now in AA and therapy. He will probably get off with a slap on the wrist unless a previous history can be shown.

If the woman is typical, she will be looking at everyone very differently. She'll be afraid to make new friends. She'll be extremely cautious and downright paranoid whether he is in jail or not. She may well get a gun but it won't give her a lot of reassurance.

Sadly, the wife may very well stick with her husband. Unless his behavior was due to medication or dementia, this probably wasn't the first time he got a "crush" on someone. Also, he more than likely is an abuser and it is difficult for many women to walk from that, especially if the abuse is more psychological than physical. Her self-worth will be in the gutter.

[outlaw]

I wonder if the woman even knew he was dangerously obsessed with her, or, depending on her history with other men flirting with her, she saw him as just another flirtatious man whose "bark was bigger than his bite"? Not blaming her for any of this, but she may have been clueless to this guy's mental state, and even "accommodated" a little flirting as something an "old harmless senior" does frequently, and was just trying to get along with her neighbors. If she was a real attractive woman, she might have been so used to being flirted with that she just let it roll off of her.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by outlaw

I wonder if the woman even knew he was dangerously obsessed with her, or, depending on her history with other men flirting with her, she saw him as just another flirtatious man whose "bark was bigger than his bite"? Not blaming her for any of this, but she may have been clueless to this guy's mental state, and even "accommodated" a little flirting as something an "old harmless senior" does frequently, and was just trying to get along with her neighbors. If she was a real attractive woman, she might have been so used to being flirted with that she just let it roll off of her.

I don't know this woman, but I do know she is friends with six of my friends who are frequent posters on this forum. I haven't asked any of them about her but trust their good judgment about their choices. From her Facebook page she appears to be quite pleasant looking but in no way attempting to be attention getting. Not a femme fatale in any way and I mean that most kindly. Please don't blame her, she was probably just being friendly and kind as most people are. I wouldn't be surprised if she posted on this forum and I am sending hugs to her.

[Nucky]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

But WHO would WANT to move into that house next to him?

By law would this event need to be exposed to a potential buyer before closing? Are there other disclosure laws in effect? I hope the victim stay's in her home and lives her life fearlessly.

[kstew43]

Originally Posted by Nucky

By law would this event need to be exposed to a potential buyer before closing? Are there other disclosure laws in effect? I hope the victim stay's in her home and lives her life fearlessly.

unless there was a murder......the need for disclosure is not necessary....

But when the new buyers talk to any of the neighbors.....thats another story....

[redwitch]

From what I've read, the victim was very uncomfortable around this man and did her best to avoid him. She was in no way at fault. Heck, even if she had slept with him, she was not at fault. Stalkers can develop a "meaningful relationship" with their victim by almost any actions of the victim. A simple hello can be interpreted as "I love you". A tweet about the weather becomes an invitation in the mind of the stalker. To even remotely blame the victim is, at best, patently unfair.

[NotGolfer]

I know this was brought up earlier in this thread but my reading of the article brought to mind that because this act was so bizarre--the guy may have some dementia issues going on. Behaviors change early on with this. The article gives so little information and we can just speculate all we want on why it happened. I do hope that the proper measures are being done with him so our community will be safe.

[outlaw]

I'm surprised the man wasn't charged with attempted murder, unless he told the police he knew no one was in the house. In that case, couldn't there have been a charge of terrorism (or something in that area) based on him going so far over the top (33 rounds into the house) as to cause terror to the victim? Is there such a thing like that?