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Old 04-09-2017, 09:54 AM
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100 years old? Forgive and forget.
I am sure that you agree that people who have mental illness aren't doing it on purpose either.

I bet you agree that anonymous people who are cruel to others with mental difficulties on purpose are bullies.

You should read political.

Retiring was only impatient. We all are sometimes. It is hard to deal with someone who has Alzheimers who used to be so cogent. All of us fail at this. But to taunt someone on purpose who is struggling is wrong.
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Old 04-09-2017, 10:01 AM
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I am sure that you agree that people who have mental illness aren't doing it on purpose either.

I bet you agree that anonymous people who are cruel to others with mental difficulties on purpose are bullies.

You should read political.
You would have to be much more specific for me to answer your question.

Btw, I believe tos says that we should remain anonymous. I would never want to violate.

Also, personal conversations are frowned upon.

BUT if anyone wanted to meet, including Gracie, please PM me, would love to meet a respected icon of totv.
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Old 04-09-2017, 10:07 AM
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You would have to be much more specific for me to answer your question.

Btw, I believe tos says that we should remain anonymous. I would never want to violate.

Also, personal conversations are frowned upon.

BUT if anyone wanted to meet, including Gracie, please PM me, would love to meet a respected icon of totv.
Thank you.
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Old 04-09-2017, 01:17 PM
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I had posted the incident here because I was truly hoping the offender would read it and realize he should not mistake my kindness for weakness. Just because I didn’t make a federal case out of it doesn’t mean I didn’t realize what was happening.

The reason I didn’t say anything more than “excuse me” was because I didn’t know if I was dealing with someone drunk. It’s 10pm and the only items in his cart were 2 12packs of beer and 2 bottles of wine.

I must say I’m a bit surprised at some of the postings. Alzheimers? His conversation with the lady seemed very lucid. Mental illness? Only God knows, but once again he seemed to have all his mental faculties. Others have said since I get to cut the line when I have only one item… What does that have to do with anything? He didn’t have one item and each of the people behind me would have to give the ok to cut before it gets to me. I often, if not always, allow the person behind me with one or two items to jump ahead. Does that give me the right to cut the line whenever I feel like it? When we do the right thing we do it because it’s the right thing not because we get to punch more holes in our “it’s ok to be rude” punch card.

He cut in line, not just me but several behind me too, because he is rude and that’s the way he was raised. I’m 55 and I pray everyday that I will not become one of those that feel entitled to anything. The only thing you get when you’re 100 is a discount at the movie theater and you’re further up the line to see St. Peter. Just treat others as you want them to treat you and we’ll all live happier.

BTW, if he asked to cut, of course I would have said yes. I would have assumed he might have some physical issues making prolonged standing difficult. If you need to cut, just ask, I can’t imagine anyone saying no.
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Old 04-09-2017, 01:33 PM
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I had posted the incident here because I was truly hoping the offender would read it and realize he should not mistake my kindness for weakness. Just because I didn’t make a federal case out of it doesn’t mean I didn’t realize what was happening.

The reason I didn’t say anything more than “excuse me” was because I didn’t know if I was dealing with someone drunk. It’s 10pm and the only items in his cart were 2 12packs of beer and 2 bottles of wine.

I must say I’m a bit surprised at some of the postings. Alzheimers? His conversation with the lady seemed very lucid. Mental illness? Only God knows, but once again he seemed to have all his mental faculties. Others have said since I get to cut the line when I have only one item… What does that have to do with anything? He didn’t have one item and each of the people behind me would have to give the ok to cut before it gets to me. I often, if not always, allow the person behind me with one or two items to jump ahead. Does that give me the right to cut the line whenever I feel like it? When we do the right thing we do it because it’s the right thing not because we get to punch more holes in our “it’s ok to be rude” punch card.

He cut in line, not just me but several behind me too, because he is rude and that’s the way he was raised. I’m 55 and I pray everyday that I will not become one of those that feel entitled to anything. The only thing you get when you’re 100 is a discount at the movie theater and you’re further up the line to see St. Peter. Just treat others as you want them to treat you and we’ll all live happier.

BTW, if he asked to cut, of course I would have said yes. I would have assumed he might have some physical issues making prolonged standing difficult. If you need to cut, just ask, I can’t imagine anyone saying no.

I don't fault you at all Retiring. You are a gentleman and I respect you. I understand and completely agree that he/she was not nice at all. You were patient outwardly and impatient inwardly like all good people I know.

My post was meant for another and was not clear on purpose.

I am sorry. I didn't mean to appear to be critical of you, Retiring. Your well thought out posts are enjoyed by me and I am sure by many.
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Old 04-10-2017, 05:21 AM
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I was in the wrong line. There signs are much smaller than Publix, so I didn't see it. I said I was sorry. I've never done it again.
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Old 04-10-2017, 10:56 AM
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Sometimes a cashier will beckon someone to the ten items or less that has much more than ten items because they are not doing anything.

Sure enough, several people get in line with one or two items and have to wait. Patience is wonderful if only, one has it.

Go figure.
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