[CFrance]

Ha ha, GG! Yes, I would prefer that to some cheesy end-around! Or rather, just say It's not my favorite thing that you've ever worn.

[tomwed]

I think criticism can be sweetened up so that it goes down easier.

[outlaw]

Originally Posted by Jimturner

Hate seems a little harsh. There are many reasons people change their names on web sites. Some as simple as picking a name that does not fit them or even misspelling. I would recommend paying attention to what people say and not what you may think they mean. I prefer to look for the good in everyone rather than make snap judgements of others."

Good attitude.

[rubicon]

Originally Posted by CFrance

I find "Irish Diplomacy" to be disingenuous and ruder than just saying what you think straight out, minus any hurtful words or phrases. Irish Diplomacy could also be called manipulation, which to me is deceitful.

I would rather everyone be honest about how they feel.

CFrance; I tend to agree with you. I lived in an area where the people were polite but less than honest. Honest conversation provides clarity but then some folks can't abide clarity or honesty.

A comment is made and the receiver feels/says you are being condescending.

Is it that the sender is being condescending or is it that the receiver has feeling of inferiority? Is it as the PC oriented individuals describe it a trigger warning or a micro-aggression? We have all heard that argument haven't we. S/he was being.............we all witness a different interpretation.

Again as stated in a previous post its also depends on whose ox is being gored...that contractor cheated me....stop complaining

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by rubicon

CFrance; I tend to agree with you. I lived in an area where the people were polite but less than honest. Honest conversation provides clarity but then some folks can't abide clarity or honesty.

A comment is made and the receiver feels/says you are being condescending.

Is it that the sender is being condescending or is it that the receiver has feeling of inferiority? Is it as the PC oriented individuals describe it a trigger warning or a micro-aggression? We have all heard that argument haven't we. S/he was being.............we all witness a different interpretation.

Again as stated in a previous post its also depends on whose ox is being gored...that contractor cheated me....stop complaining

What is difficult to ascertain on this forum is whether an ox is gored at all. When someone says that contractor cheated me, it well could be the guy that contractor fired last week who is posting. That is the danger of being anonymous. I am increasingly skeptical about negativity for that reason. Perhaps it isn't entirely honest to be diplomatic. I am becoming more direct and sometimes harsh on this forum and I don't like that.

[Cedwards38]

It doesn't take long to figure out whose opinion concerns you and whose you ignore on this site, and in life in general. I'd guess that most of our reactions to the issues discussed in TOTV are pretty predictable. Once you see who is posting, you'll be able to predict the content and tone of the post.

Trying to understand the emotion of a statement when you can't hear it but can only read it can be difficult. I do think that Americans in general spend way too much time trying to prove to the world how much smarter they are than the next guy, and certainly that is true on TOTV.


As for "The Bubble," it doesn't exist. Never did. Never will. This is a great place to live because of the THINGS present in the community and the opportunity those present for all of us to enjoy life, but it's filled with people of diverse backgrounds, with diverse opinions, and diverse ways of interacting with others. That's just like everyplace else in the world. That cultural stew is disconcerting for some. For others, that's part of what makes The Villages, and the rest of the world, exciting!

[EnglishJW]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

The "Posse" has all those ageist terms written down in their headquarters where they fill up their squirt guns. Some of the posse are very thin skinned. They have just added seventy seven new recruits. It is not safe to poke fun at old-er people or talk down to them, marginalize them or try to be excluded from their amazing presence. They have super soakers and are very thin skinned. AND hair trigger. YOU COULD BE DRENCHED.

Since I am sure I will say something that is politically incorrect at some point (many points?) and will therefore be getting drenched, can you please select a very hot day? Thank you in advance.

[Jima64]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

What is difficult to ascertain on this forum is whether an ox is gored at all. When someone says that contractor cheated me, it well could be the guy that contractor fired last week who is posting. That is the danger of being anonymous. I am increasingly skeptical about negativity for that reason. Perhaps it isn't entirely honest to be diplomatic. I am becoming more direct and sometimes harsh on this forum and I don't like that.

I agee with you. So I try to read up on as many threads as possible and not take a posting as the gospel. Someone continously receiving negative reviews by many people raises a red flag. I do know what i will read when I see some of the names of the posters ahead of time. Sometimes I skip them entirely because they are so much a downer.

[golfing eagles]

Originally Posted by EnglishJW

Since I am sure I will say something that is politically incorrect at some point (many points?) and will therefore be getting drenched, can you please select a very hot day? Thank you in advance.

Sometimes you can put out a very milder "feeler" post, kind of like dipping you toe in the water. That way you don't need the full rain suit and umbrella

But don't try it on a political forum, I think they move right to the beheading

[HimandMe]

Ive had people respond to things I said and been misinterpreted sometimes, sometimes they got it right. Unless we go on and on clarifying and adding emotion symbols, it's bound to happen.
We also share a computer, three of us at times...and once in awhile forget to change the name....it gets confusing. Sorry about that.
We like this forum. It's been helpful in so many ways. A few grouches doesn't change that but once in awhile I say "ouch".

[tomwed]

The Thomas is not thinned skinned at all. Don't get me wrong, I love thin skin People. Some of them have rented my home.

[mickey100]

Originally Posted by Cedwards38

It doesn't take long to figure out whose opinion concerns you and whose you ignore on this site, and in life in general. I'd guess that most of our reactions to the issues discussed in TOTV are pretty predictable. Once you see who is posting, you'll be able to predict the content and tone of the post.

Trying to understand the emotion of a statement when you can't hear it but can only read it can be difficult. I do think that Americans in general spend way too much time trying to prove to the world how much smarter they are than the next guy, and certainly that is true on TOTV.


As for "The Bubble," it doesn't exist. Never did. Never will. This is a great place to live because of the THINGS present in the community and the opportunity those present for all of us to enjoy life, but it's filled with people of diverse backgrounds, with diverse opinions, and diverse ways of interacting with others. That's just like everyplace else in the world. That cultural stew is disconcerting for some. For others, that's part of what makes The Villages, and the rest of the world, exciting!

Nicely said. Also, I haven't gone back and read all the previous posts, but the original post said something about political correctness. I do know one type of bashing and insulting that goes on, that has nothing to do with PC, and that is if anyone says something about The Villages that some people don't like, even if it is truthful. They are very defensive about The Villages, and their treatment of people who try to voice their opinions about aspects of The Villages that could be improved, go way overboard, not in a nice way.

[tomwed]

Originally Posted by mickey100

nicely said. Also, i haven't gone back and read all the previous posts, but the original post said something about political correctness. I do know one type of bashing and insulting that goes on, that has nothing to do with pc, and that is if anyone says something about the villages that some people don't like, even if it is truthful. They are very defensive about the villages, and their treatment of people who try to voice their opinions about aspects of the villages that could be improved, go way overboard, not in a nice way.

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[golfing eagles]

Originally Posted by mickey100

Nicely said. Also, I haven't gone back and read all the previous posts, but the original post said something about political correctness. I do know one type of bashing and insulting that goes on, that has nothing to do with PC, and that is if anyone says something about The Villages that some people don't like, even if it is truthful. They are very defensive about The Villages, and their treatment of people who try to voice their opinions about aspects of The Villages that could be improved, go way overboard, not in a nice way.

But it's not really a full TOTV football game experience unless we have a head cheerleader. Tends to balance some of the overstated "negative" posts. If a negative post is a legitimate and important concern, what better than a forum like this to bring it to light and debate it, maybe get it changed. And if it just nonsense, that gets pointed out as well. It's not a game of one on one, the majority of the posters will decide the difference.

[dewilson58]

Originally Posted by Cedwards38

It doesn't take long to figure out whose opinion concerns you and whose you ignore on this site, and in life in general. I'd guess that most of our reactions to the issues discussed in TOTV are pretty predictable. Once you see who is posting, you'll be able to predict the content and tone of the post.

I need to start writing names down, evaluate by smiley faces and sad faces. I know what you are saying, but I just seem to forget who is who. I will start tomorrow................if I remember.