[gap2415]

I love a good joke and have added to them at times on this forum. Sometimes though I wonder if they go too far and are a put off not to mention a put down especially to new readers.

Most people are quite serious in their posts and looking for a serious reply. A little humor is welcome at times but horse wagon load is often insulting to the poster who may not share their valuable insights further or again.

I guess it depends on the kind of forum most want...an elite one consisting of the in group or a forum that is open, welcoming, friendly and compassionate enough to let a few bloopers go by, perhaps with a wee joke now and then but not bombarded.

Perhaps I'm off base here? I'm meaning to be helpful, nothing else.

[CathyandSteveG]

I know that if something offends me....or does not interest me....I have the ability to look at something else. No matter what you say or do...even with the best of intentions....will most likely rub someone the wrong way.

I say...you should post just the way you have...and if someone doesn't like it...they know how to move on.

If something you post crosses the line....i am sure a moderator will delete it.

Life is too short ....and a little humor is good for the soul!

[dewilson58]

Originally Posted by CathyandSteveG

I know that if something offends me....or does not interest me....I have the ability to look at something else. No matter what you say or do...even with the best of intentions....will most likely rub someone the wrong way.

I say...you should post just the way you have...and if someone doesn't like it...they know how to move on.

If something you post crosses the line....i am sure a moderator will delete it.

Life is too short ....and a little humor is good for the soul!

I agree.
This is a melting pot of people.
I probably post humor 51% of the time.
Let's be helpful, but not take ourselves to seriously.
We have a few trolls.
We have a few know-it-alls (I think they look stupid).
But mostly we have a bunch of good people.
(this was part of my 49%)

[dbussone]

Originally Posted by dewilson58

I agree.
This is a melting pot of people.
I probably post humor 51% of the time.
Let's be helpful, but not take ourselves to seriously.
We have a few trolls.
We have a few know-it-alls (I think they look stupid).
But mostly we have a bunch of good people.
(this was part of my 49%)

Amen to that!

[NYGUY]

I think the humor is understood and mostly appreciated.

[Barefoot]

Originally Posted by CathyandSteveG

I know that if something offends me....or does not interest me....I have the ability to look at something else. No matter what you say or do...even with the best of intentions....will most likely rub someone the wrong way.
I say...you should post just the way you have...and if someone doesn't like it...they know how to move on.
If something you post crosses the line....i am sure a moderator will delete it.
Life is too short ....and a little humor is good for the soul!

Originally Posted by NYGUY

I think the humor is understood and mostly appreciated.

I love the humor. Thank you Dougbee and Tomwed For your jokey posts.

[rubicon]

Originally Posted by dewilson58

I agree.
This is a melting pot of people.
I probably post humor 51% of the time.
Let's be helpful, but not take ourselves to seriously.
We have a few trolls.
We have a few know-it-alls (I think they look stupid).
But mostly we have a bunch of good people.
(this was part of my 49%)

and we see in which of those categories you define yourself. If a forum is really going to work and work well it requires to some degree restraint, avoiding name calling and people who understand and defend our right to speak up. Some issues just do not mix well with humor primarily because the humor goes too far.

Personal Best Regards:

[kathy and al]

One of the reasons I stopped replying to posts is exactly for this reason. If you are in agreement with most then fine. But if you have a differing opinion and add a little humor then you get bombarded with insults. Because this is an open forum I guess it is to be expected. Just go a little easier on the insults!!!!Thanks

[Villager Joyce]

Since many people use this forum to get info on contractors, we should be able to give negative, but tasteful reviews even if about a sponsor or advertiser.

[Barefoot]

Originally Posted by kathy and al

One of the reasons I stopped replying to posts is exactly for this reason. If you are in agreement with most then fine. But if you have a differing opinion and add a little humor then you get bombarded with insults. Because this is an open forum I guess it is to be expected. Just go a little easier on the insults!

I thought that the Mod's usually delete posts that are insulting or directed at another member.
Kathy & Al, did you not find that to be true?

[billethkid]

one person's humor may well be another person's outlook.
Differences of opinions are all too often termed to be offensive by some.
For the most part posts are well intended.
And those we don't like are so easy to ignore.
And by all means do not let others disuade anybody from posting what or how they feel.
Most of us can deal with variances....and usually learn something as a result.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by billethkid

one person's humor may well be another person's outlook.
Differences of opinions are all too often termed to be offensive by some.
For the most part posts are well intended.
And those we don't like are so easy to ignore.
And by all means do not let others disuade anybody from posting what or how they feel.
Most of us can deal with variances....and usually learn something as a result.

I almost always agree with you and always gain something from what you say. Billethekid.

When I read that frequent posters have turned people away from this forum, I always feel bad and blame myself. But I keep posting.

This place and this forum is so interesting to me. I don't know if it is that I have the time now that I didn't before retirement, Or that I really worry that someone or something will destroy this amazing place and how it is run.


Everyone should be able to say what they think, but my husband frequently reminds me that most people are anonymous to everyone on this board. Only a few are known to maybe a couple hundred posters. It makes a big difference what you say when no one really KNOWS who you are.


Sweetie says that many get their feelings hurt (including me) by things no one would have the courage to say to your face. AND I think he is right.


I will be at the next Crispers meeting. Hope to see a bunch of new faces.

[NYGUY]

Originally Posted by Barefoot

I thought that the Mod's usually delete posts that are insulting or directed at another member....

Another poster and I once went back and forth a couple of times (all in fun). The moderators didn't get the humor and deleted our posts. We then communicated via PM laughing about their lack of a sense of humor and then spoke on the phone (she was back up north at the time), getting to know each other better. So, yes, the Mod's do delete posts.

[tomwed]

Take from this what you will. I used to be a high school media specialist who was in charge of all the library computers, enough for a couple of classes.

I had this idea where the class would come down and have an online chat discussion on a subject they would usually discuss in the classroom. What we found out is that there are a few students who all of a sudden had a voice. They were not comfortable in class discussions where the same people seem to be doing all the talking for years. They were more comfortable typing. It was a pretty small district and everyone knew each other.

I would agree that it's easier to be rude or talk tough online.

[villagetinker]

One thing I have noticed both here and in my prior professional career was that the exact same conversation spoken can be misinterpreted when written. I think there are 2 things that can happen, first the written item was misread (I do this all the time), or the text was written in such a manner that the emphasis which would be apparent in spoken dialog is lost, and the meaning was changed because of this. This appears to be especially true in some of the humor posted. I have chosen to just ignore these items, if you bite, the resulting exchange of texts usually only goes from bad to worse.

Life is too short, if necessary a PM will usually clear up a misunderstanding without "stirring the pot".
Also, thanks to autocorrect, I have to reread what I type, as I have noticed words changed from what I had intended. Happened twice on this post.