[Blessed2BNTV]

Originally Posted by retiredguy123

I agree. The premise of this thread is totally bogus. Where is the evidence to back it up?

I was at Panera and witnessed a Villager yelling at an employee for not bringing the big coffee pot fast enough. It was morning and the place was busy.

I went over to the young man and told him we are not all anger people here.

I then went to manager to report.

This old guy was way out of line cursing and yelling at this young employee.

My only though was that he had dementia, but it could have been his entitled self.

I was at Publix the other day and this woman had parked right where people walk out to the parking lot. People had to go around her car to get to parking lot. Sense of entitlement.

[Madelaine Amee]

Originally Posted by retiredguy123

I agree. The premise of this thread is totally bogus. Where is the evidence to back it up?

Good morning Mr. Retired Guy:

You want to see evidence of the rudeness of many elderly people living here? Come with me to Aldi's on 441 at almost 9:00am and listen to the OLD MEN bit**ing about the door not being open yet, then when the young woman opens the door they make snide remarks about them being late for work and not opening up on time. Then wait until they get to the cash register and listen to them complaining about something. I was behind one really obnoxious old man at the register complaining about them closing down for a month.

On the other hand, this happens not just in The Villages, it is epidemic.

[Bogie Shooter]

Originally Posted by Fredster

I can only speak for what I’ve witnessed on our particular street.
I have only seen service workers treated with respect.
And there are a great number of firms and their workers busily doing there trade.
Of course there probably are jerks that behave as the OP stated,
but I really haven’t seen, or experienced that happening.
I really appreciate how hard they work in the Florida heat!

I agree.

[Bogie Shooter]

Originally Posted by retiredguy123

Ok, I give up. Be nice to the service people. And all of you rude, demanding, and arrogant people, stop it. But, I am not making chocolate chip cookies.

In particular all members of that "huge group"!

[Cedwards38]

Agree

[photo1902]

Originally Posted by Madelaine Amee

Good morning Mr. Retired Guy:

You want to see evidence of the rudeness of many elderly people living here? Come with me to Aldi's on 441 at almost 9:00am and listen to the OLD MEN bit**ing about the door not being open yet, then when the young woman opens the door they make snide remarks about them being late for work and not opening up on time. Then wait until they get to the cash register and listen to them complaining about something. I was behind one really obnoxious old man at the register complaining about them closing down for a month.

On the other hand, this happens not just in The Villages, it is epidemic.

I think if people had any idea the daily abuse and complaining employees of various departments in The Villages endure on a daily basis, they'd see the "evidence".

[Boomer]

Originally Posted by DonH57

I have to say we have lived here for about 5 and a half years. In the past 3 years I've witnessed an increased disrespect of restaurant wait staff, retail workers, and villages staff by the way coincidentally is reflected by the way people seem to drive lately regardless of it's snowbird season or not.

I agree.

Things have changed.

I think there is an ever increasing pack mentality of MEism here.

Look around at the grocery or wherever and observe the number of smiles compared to the number of scowls. (Sometimes, I do a little experiment on my fellow Villagers and smile at the scowlers to see how hard it is to get a smile back. Try it. In the name of science. )

(sigh)

“Entitled” ?? Yes. “Entitled” to be rude, crude, and sometimes even lewd.

“Entitled” to exercise some kind of pathetic need to control others — especially because their targets are seen as helpless, in a position of not being able to talk back.

(One evening at dinner, a server thanked me for being so nice to her. ??? That woman must have been having one helluva day at work.)

I could go on and on.

But, for now, I will simply attribute this not-so-subtle change in attitude to the prevailing wind in TV.

[DonH57]

Originally Posted by Boomer

I agree.

Things have changed.

I think there is an ever increasing pack mentality of MEism here.

Look around at the grocery or wherever and observe the number of smiles compared to the number of scowls. (Sometimes, I do a little experiment on my fellow Villagers and smile at the scowlers to see how hard it is to get a smile back. Try it. In the name of science. )

(sigh)

“Entitled” ?? Yes. “Entitled” to be rude, crude, and lewd.

“Entitled” to exercise some kind of pathetic need to control others — especially because their targets are seen as helpless, in a position of not being able to talk back.

(One evening at dinner, a server thanked me for being so nice to her. ??? That woman must have been having one helluva day at work.)

I could go on and on.

But, for now, I will simply attribute this not-so-subtle change in attitude to the prevailing wind in TV.

The scowls outweigh the smiles by a long shot. We've been commented on our politeness as well. Someone on TOTV once posted, do you know what the most asked question here in the villages is? "Is anything ok?" I can't remember who it was to give them credit.

[photo1902]

Originally Posted by DonH57

The scowls outweigh the smiles by a long shot. We've been commented on our politeness as well. Someone on TOTV once posted, do you know what the most asked question here in the villages is? "Is anything ok?" I can't remember who it was to give them credit.

Priceless!

[ColdNoMore]

Originally Posted by DonH57

The scowls outweigh the smiles by a long shot. We've been commented on our politeness as well. Someone on TOTV once posted, do you know what the most asked question here in the villages is? "Is anything ok?" I can't remember who it was to give them credit.

[thetruth]

Originally Posted by MnGirl

No one in The Villages thinks they are rude, but you only need to listen to the way they talk to waitstaff in restaurants, or doctors offices to feel the arrogance of some people. At Cane Garden a customer complained because the toast had too big of holes in it, the toast was replaced only to be left untouched. I have been at doctors offices and patients continually argue about their appointment time. It is never about what is said, it's about how it's said. If you knew of the lives of some of the workers in the Villages, you would have more empathy.

Everyone, including you and I thinks they are perfect.

As to rude people-that seems to be the original thought.
As my friend says, they were always like that but as they get older they get worse.

As to doctor's offices I see it as a sign of respect to show up on time. I do understand how/why but with the doctor we have been using lately, if you have a 10:00 appointment at about 11:00 you are let into a room for weight and blood pressure-SHOULD BE CALLED THE AFTER FIRST WAIT ROOM. Then, they pass your off to a nurse practitioner. Frankly, the one we saw last time, while a nice person, WAS TOTALLY UNQUALIFIED. Point-it shows a total lack of respect for the patient.

SEE-I DO NOT CLAIM TO BE PERFECT.

[villagerjack]

In 11 years here, I Have never witnessed any of this that I can recall in The Villages since I tend to try and mind my own business and if what may seem to be rudeness may just be justifiable Criticism. I do recognize that there are usually two sides to a story. So no big deal. I must also admit that My hearing deficiency is sometimes a blessing in disguise.

[Coal Miner]

Very well put Trish. Although we refer to TV as floridas friendliest there are many mean spirited people living here. Just read some of the smart ass comments and responses to innocent questions that are posted on this web site. With that said.... most folks are friendly and respectful here.

[Gpsma]

I must say the service people here are some of the most politest people I have ever met.

We just had some landscaping done here by people who have lived in this area all theor lives. They are real north central Floridians...firendly and polite...and did a great job. The younger man was talking to me and said he would always try to find jobs as a teen in the older section of the villages. He would wash cars or do landscaping to make a few bucks as a teen.


He said as he watched the villages grow..and went into his own business...that the people in the old section were the rudest people he ever met...as the villages grew south, he said people became nicer.

He now has a successful business..more work than he can handle. He says I turn down work when newer people here remind him of those in the older section

[Chi33]

I agree with the op for most part. Always be nice. I disagree with the 'master' gardener part. If you pay for something that is agreed to in a contract, then it should be completed as agreed upon. There is no problem taking the money then there should be no problem doing the job right.