Talk of The Villages Florida - Rentals, Entertainment & More
Talk of The Villages Florida - Rentals, Entertainment & More
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Very funny, but, no, one thing I'm sure of is that it's not puppy love. We are both the same gender and he has not expressed any interest in me in the way you might be thinking. But there's nothing wrong with a little comic relief to ease the tension.
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I'm not unsympathetic to whatever the problem is but I just don't think I can deal with it. So I plan on trying to keep a safe distance. Last edited by Villages PL; 11-04-2013 at 04:12 PM. |
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You are so resourceful and optimize every situation!
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I'm an Aspie and a motormouth. As much as I try, I don't get the clues to shut up. My friends know to just tell me that's enough. Doesn't hurt my feelings and if I'm really interested in what I'm saying, I'll still keep on yammering away. Couldn't stop myself even if I tried. That being said, there is no way I would wait for someone and ask for a ride home.
There are some serious red flags here: The laying in wait, the coming to your home, the veiled comments about his past life. Those are not Aspie traits. We're not that subtle. Not sure what you can do about it at this point. You can't get a restraining order just because someone annoys you. It sounds like you're afraid of what he might do if you tell him to leave you alone, so, until he truly does something, you're between the proverbial rock and hard spot. Maybe you'll get lucky and he'll find someone new bother soon. My sympathies. BTW -- Most Aspies are not all that verbal, just some of us are. Social clues, especially facial, don't exist to us -- we just can't read when we're irritating someone no matter how much we try. Foot in mouth is very common and there are few verbal inhibitions. Boundaries are not in our mindset. And, no, we don't particularly care if what we say is interesting to you, it is to us and that's enough. (Sorry)
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It may not be Asberger's, but it sounds like some sort of illness to me. I am assuming here that the OP and the other gentleman both live in The Villages. Is that right? Do you know where he lives? Does he live alone, or is there a wife, or someone else, whom you could enlist to help? His wife is probably delighted to have him bothering you instead of her, but most likely would step in and try to control him a bit. Otherwise, you may need to let tactfulness out the window and just get "in his face" and tell him to leave you alone. I've had to do that twice in my life.....it worked!!
Good luck, and I hope it's not really something to be worried about, as far as danger....I doubt it, but who knows? |
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Really wondering if this is a real situation?
Most any of us might fit into this annoying persons shoes at one time or the other. Sometimes those that like to talk the most are the same ones most annoyed by others that want to talk a lot..
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It sounds like you have to be very direct with this person, VPL. Let him know you wish to be left alone. It's not rude if he is invading your space and not respecting normal courtesy rules. |
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It wouldn't hurt to visit the police station and ask their opinion of how to handle potentially harmful people. Perhaps this guy is dangerous, perhaps just very annoying, but how can you know which category he falls into? The hackles on the back of your neck are there for a reason.
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I think maybe reading a book on etiquette may be more helpful.
No one likes to lie but most of us do commit a few social fibs, side steps and excuses. Here are some suggestions; I would love to but I have an appointment. I was just leaving, I am sorry we can't visit right now. I can't invite you in, my girlfriend hasn't left and she is shy and she can't find her shoes. We just got her underwear off the chandelier. I was just going to the market. I have other plans. The toilet is clogged and we have a mess, perhaps another time? I am so sorry but the (choose the opposite political party from his) group are meeting here in a few minutes and I have to run and get candles. HOWEVER, if your friend is like mine, waiting for them to draw breath so you can actually SAY any of these things may be difficult.
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i agree.......may not be his fault.......cant help himself
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In these cases we just have to be downright blunt in our responses. I have had to the "sorry, but I really am not interested in playing golf with you" a couple of times to a loud mouthed individual, who used every profanity in the book while on the golf course. Not that I am by any means a saint, but I do set personal standards and the limits as to what I will tolerate from others. Sorry, but I don't play by their rules.
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There certainly are some imaginative posters here and even though no one knows who this person is the OP has unwittingly subjected this poor guy to unwanted and unwelcome and perhaps unfair scrutiny.
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Good question! No, talking less would not be enough because of certain things he says. It's also the content of his character that bothers me.
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You are correct; there wasn't any blabbing about it. How about loopy and connected?
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