[queasy27]

Make sure your advance health directives are up to date, including your wishes about being placed on a respirator.

[Kenswing]

Originally Posted by queasy27

Make sure your advance health directives are up to date, including your wishes about being placed on a respirator.

Yeah.. The Administrator at the hospital my wife works at sent out an email to all employees to make sure that their advanced health directives were in order. Not the best morale booster at a time like this..

[DianeM]

I have no directives. They can do with me what they wish.

[manaboutown]

Better review your estate plan and if necessary amend your wills and trusts as well.

I have.

[Bjeanj]

Good idea. Just went online and printed out the forms.

[Velvet]

Originally Posted by DianeM

I have no directives. They can do with me what they wish.

Depends, my dad went through 6 weeks of needless suffering but I was not his medical attorney and could not help him legally. And I mean suffering. Please reconsider what you want to see happen.

[asianthree]

advance directive only works if responsible person doesn’t hide the paperwork

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by Velvet

Depends, my dad went through 6 weeks of needless suffering but I was not his medical attorney and could not help him legally. And I mean suffering. Please reconsider what you want to see happen.

I am indifferent to that sort of thing. What will be, will be.

[fromct]

Originally Posted by DianeM

I am indifferent to that sort of thing. What will be, will be.

If that means you haven't done anything to document and legalize what you want and don't want to be done when you can't speak for yourself and when you die, you must not be not too fond of whoever is going to have to make those decisions and try to do the right things. Believe me, It's tough enough to make it work even when you have the documents to back it up.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by fromct

If that means you haven't done anything to document and legalize what you want and don't want to be done when you can't speak for yourself and when you die, you must not be not too fond of whoever is going to have to make those decisions and try to do the right things. Believe me, It's tough enough to make it work even when you have the documents to back it up.

I have made no documents and will not. There will be no one to make any decisions. I have made it very clear that I am the one in control.

[Koapaka]

Originally Posted by DianeM

I have no directives. They can do with me what they wish.

If you have no living relatives, no children, no brothers and sisters, they will decide to continue care. IF you elect to tell them no heroic measures, no advance life support systems, NO DNR, then YOU get to place what is referred to as "advance directives", and regardless of what anyone else related to you might think, YOU get to decide how YOU want things done...even if unable to convey at the time. Legal and binding. I once had a patient that had NO advance directives in place, but her son, a lawyer stated HE wanted a DNR order placed on his mom....bottom line is "dead people can not sue you". Just FYI when you think you might be leaving it up to the medical community, it may not work out. I have seen grown children at TOTAL blows over what to do with "mom or dad" and without Advance Directives from the patient themselves, it turns into a HUGE ****ing contest that can leave YOU, the patient in "limbo" status for a long, long time.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by Koapaka

If you have no living relatives, no children, no brothers and sisters, they will decide to continue care. IF you elect to tell them no heroic measures, no advance life support systems, NO DNR, then YOU get to place what is referred to as "advance directives", and regardless of what anyone else related to you might think, YOU get to decide how YOU want things done...even if unable to convey at the time. Legal and binding. I once had a patient that had NO advance directives in place, but her son, a lawyer stated HE wanted a DNR order placed on his mom....bottom line is "dead people can not sue you". Just FYI when you think you might be leaving it up to the medical community, it may not work out. I have seen grown children at TOTAL blows over what to do with "mom or dad" and without Advance Directives from the patient themselves, it turns into a HUGE ****ing contest that can leave YOU, the patient in "limbo" status for a long, long time.

It is what it is. I am doing nothing.

[Koapaka]

Originally Posted by asianthree

advance directive only works if responsible person doesn’t hide the paperwork

When you make an "Advance Directive" IF you are smart enough to supply EVERYONE that would be in the position to contend the decision, as long as you were of sound mind, it could NOT be contested. We have ensured EACH of our children were given a copy of our advance directive at the exact same time stating this was OUR decision to make, not theirs.

[Koapaka]

To each their own.

[rmd2]

Originally Posted by queasy27

Make sure your advance health directives are up to date, including your wishes about being placed on a respirator.

Did you mean a ventilator?