[Spikearoni]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

Found this;

How Much Do You Spend On A Wedding Gift?
The amount of money you spend on a wedding gift depends on your relationship with the bride and groom. You’ll want to consider how close you are to the happy couple before purchasing a gift so your selection is appropriate. When it comes to general gift etiquette though, try not to spend less than $50 on a wedding gift no matter your relationship with the couple. Follow our suggested spending categories below, organized by your relationship with the bride or groom:

Close Friend or Close Relative: $150+
Friend or Relative: $100-$125
Co-Worker, Distant Family-Friend, or Distant Relative: $50-$100

These suggestions are outdated. When was this info written?

[Jerry Leinsing]

Originally Posted by Heartnsoul

Haven't attended a wedding in awhile. I know yrs ago it was $100 in a card. How much is it today for say a niece?
And I know this isn't revelant but is costing approximately $3,999 to attend

Your right it isn't relevant. This is your brother or sister's kid. If you like her, send a nest egg: $500 or $1000. If you don't, you have it about right.

What else are you going to do with this money and who is going to get it when you die?
Your on the wrong end of life so impress family before you go.
Just saying...

[xcaligirl]

Originally Posted by Annie66

What a snarky response. Did you get up on the wrong side of the bed?

EXACTLY!! I guess some people still have not learned how to SCROLL ON!!

[davem4616]

Attending weddings can be very expensive....after all if you travel a great distance to get back to where 'home' was, you really want to stay awhile

years ago we passed on attending a niece's wedding that was held in Ireland...too costly at the time and we didn't have that much vacation time...so we gave them a larger gift than we would have, had we gone.

We spent about $4K attending a 1st cousin's child's wedding a couple of years ago...we gave the couple $500.

A few years before that we spent about that much on gifts for another cousin's child's...we weren't able to attend the wedding at the last minute due to a medical issue, so we ended up saving the $3+K that we would have spent on travel...BUT we missed out on having a great time with family members that we only get to see at weddings and funerals

Ya can't take it with ya, so give what you can...remember everything costs a lot more now than it did

[coconutmama]

Originally Posted by Heartnsoul

Haven't attended a wedding in awhile. I know yrs ago it was $100 in a card. How much is it today for say a niece?
And I know this isn't revelant but is costing approximately $3,999 to attend

Thanks for starting this thread. I will be in a similar situation soon and was wondering the same thing

[Coley]

Originally Posted by Girlcopper

You give what you want to and can afford. If you cant afford to attend. Dont

Give 2000.00 and don't go--save 2Gs and I'm sure the bride and groom will be delighted!!

[kathy44]

No one seems to be mentioning that when the bride and groom get married they are inviting people to be with them who they want to share the day with. I have always felt that you do not need to even cover the cost of the meal because you are an invited guest. So it's not the amount of money it's maybe how close you are to the bride and groom you are their guests it shouldn't have a dollar sign on it. If you're giving them cash you give them what you can afford

[DaleDivine]

Originally Posted by Coley

Give 2000.00 and don't go--save 2Gs and I'm sure the bride and groom will be delighted!!

I agree, Unless you want to play golf with your sister.

[Lil GTO]

Stay home and give them 4K. It’ll help them tremendously and you won’t be out any more than you would’ve anyway.

Originally Posted by Catalina36

I say you give what you can afford. $3999.00 to attend any wedding is a great deal of money. You are being very generous to spend that much money just to attend. I read where some people stated they gave hundreds and thousands of dollars as a wedding gift.
Each persons financial situation is different. What if you had 6 nieces, that could be very costly? Again give what you can afford and they should be grateful that you are attending, no matter how much money you give.

[golfing eagles]

Originally Posted by Coley

Give 2000.00 and don't go--save 2Gs and I'm sure the bride and groom will be delighted!!

Not really the point of the OP, is it?????

[jbartle1]

Last gift given to family member, Crystal glasses that I hand painted, they were thrilled.

[retiredguy123]

I'm going to start charging a fee to attend weddings, unless there is an open bar.

[JoeinFL]

Originally Posted by Annie66

What a snarky response. Did you get up on the wrong side of the bed?

Probably from underneath it. :-/

[skippy05]

Don't go and send them a Better Homes and Gardens Cookbook as a gift.

[MaryShields]

Originally Posted by JoMar

Not everyone may be able to do what you do so that shot wasn't necessary. Also, OP was asking about a wedding which is different then the holiday's.

I agree. That shot wasn’t called for. Actually I was glad someone asked! We are also flying back for a nieces wedding in Dec. $500 seems like an awful lot but it’s good to know that’s what the standard is today. I think I would send a gift from their registry instead of money.