[fdpaq0580]

Originally Posted by Aces4

At this point in our lives, sadly most of us have had our own crisis or family crisis with which to deal at one time or another.

That “bored, tired”, (in your opinion), person may have been dealing with an even larger crisis than yours. Extra kindness from your side of the register may have made a difference for her and you may be surprised what it can do for you. Unless someone is being intentional cruel, I try to give them the benefit of the doubt. We can’t change everyone in the world.

Actually, "bored and tired" was giving her the benefit of the doubt. My opinion, for certain. There are times in life when life seems to lose its luster. When your cup of human kindness curdles.

[fdpaq0580]

Originally Posted by PersonOfInterest

That would be nice. Do we get a body to go with it or are we just consciousness floating in space ?

Sorry. No body. And no consciousness either.

[coffeebean]

Originally Posted by Byte1

You have a problem when someone wishes you a good day because of what they might believe? I don't have a problem when an atheist wishes me a good day. When I remember Jewish holidays, I try to greet my Jewish friends with the appropriate greeting, just as they wish me Merry Christmas during the holiday season. I wonder what is really behind folks getting upset when someone is kind to them and uses a religious greeting of good will.
Have a GREAT day.

When someone says, "Have a blessed day", that is not the same as saying "Have a good day". Not to me it isn't.

[coffeebean]

Originally Posted by Boomer

Good morning, coffeebean,

Although I see the flaws in organized religion, I remain a practicing Protestant — but I cannot comprehend certain churches where the sole — though they pretend it’s ‘soul’ — purpose is pounded into congregants by the “The Sermon on the Amount”…….

and all too often, the underlying — and not so underlying— misogyny and homophobia oozing from the pulpit. I also think churches that make politics a focus should lose their tax exempt status. But ( sigh) that ship has sailed.

But, per your comment about “a blessed day” — that does not offend me, but you wanna know what does…..

I about puke when I read posts that say, “Ohhhhh, we are so blessed to live in The Villages.” That kind of comment makes me think of that SNL “Church Lady” (Dana Carvey) doing the “Superior Dance”— perfect satire, illustrating one of the reasons organized religion keeps people out of a church community.

Good day, and back to topic now.

Boomer (who must be feeling like being a bit incendiary this morning)

Thank you, Boomer!

[coffeebean]

Originally Posted by Boomer

I think it’s OK to veer a little. I just see it as conversation.

Boomer

Very true. That is how conversations evolve. Happens all the time when conversing in person.

[coffeebean]

Originally Posted by Velvet

To me “blessed” simply means “lucky” and the person saying it just wishes me well. I’d rather hear that than swearing, any time. It’s a reflection on them, not me.

I'd rather hear, "Have a good day or have a great day". I don't like it when strangers assume I have the same faith they do. I do not. Keep religion out of it, especially with strangers.

[coffeebean]

Originally Posted by fdpaq0580

How about just a simple, "Thank you for stopping in"? Or even "Have a nice day", "Great day", "wonderful day".
What is wrong with a generic pleasantry?
To you blessed = lucky. Not to the person who said it to you. They have invoked their God (most likely, Jesus) to intervene in your life. They are ministering to you in a very small and subtle way. It seems so bland and innocent and harmless. But it can be seen by those of other faiths as an insult and worse.
Keep it business like and generic. "Bye". "Enjoy the rest of your day".

You hit the nail on the head. Keep it business like, especially when dealing with strangers.

[coffeebean]

Originally Posted by PersonOfInterest

May Allah be with you!

May Satan lick your soul today.


Would those be kind good greetings of good will to you? They are kind sayings if you are of the same belief. If your beliefs differ they can become offensive. Christians have a knack for thinking theirs is the only religion and their God is the one and only God. I'd love to see the reaction of a Christian being placed in a predominately Muslim environment or a Hindu environment. Would they then enjoy the religious greetings of goodwill they encountered?

That really explains it too. I appreciate your explanation.

[coffeebean]

Originally Posted by fdpaq0580

Going home after finding out I had cancer, stopped to pick up a couple things. At checkout, the bored and tired employee said, "Have a blest day", with the same enthusiasm that you would feel mentioning that you have a flat tire. She didn't mean it. It was what she was told to say. And I sure didn't feel "BLEST" that day. Quite the contrary.

Is it "blest" or is it "blessed"? Just wondering. I've seen it written both ways and assume it means the same thing.

[fdpaq0580]

Originally Posted by coffeebean

Is it "blest" or is it "blessed"? Just wondering. I've seen it written both ways and assume it means the same thing.

Blessed is correct, I believe. But, verbally it often comes out as "blest".

[coffeebean]

Originally Posted by fdpaq0580

Blessed is correct, I believe. But, verbally it often comes out as "blest".

Thanks.

[Byte1]

Originally Posted by coffeebean

I'd rather hear, "Have a good day or have a great day". I don't like it when strangers assume I have the same faith they do. I do not. Keep religion out of it, especially with strangers.

You know what they say: "There are a Lot of converts in fox holes." Meaning, that when life is threatened folks suddenly start praying for help from some god or the GOD. I suspect that also pertains to many folks getting close to their expiration date, and more so on their hospital bed.
I normally say "have a good day or have a great day" but I have no problem at all when someone says "GOD bless you" or "Have a blessed day." I don't consider it religion, but would not have a problem if it that was the intent. FAITH and religion are not the same. If someone has a problem with good wishes from someone, regardless of belief then that is on them, NOT the persons wishing them well. As far as I am concerned, a "blessed day" is the same as wishing someone a "good day." I doubt very much that someone saying "GOD bless you" is wishing you ill will. That would not make sense, would it?

[fdpaq0580]

Originally Posted by Byte1

You know what they say: "There are a not of converts in fox holes." Meaning, that when life is threatened folks suddenly start praying for help from some god or the GOD. I suspect that also pertains to many folks getting close to their expiration date, and more so on their hospital bed.
I normally say "have a good day or have a great day" but I have no problem at all when someone says "GOD bless you" or "Have a blessed day." I don't consider it religion, but would not have a problem if it that was the intent. FAITH and religion are not the same. If someone has a problem with good wishes from someone, regardless of belief then that is on them, NOT the persons wishing them well. As far as I am concerned, a "blessed day" is the same as wishing someone a "good day." I doubt very much that someone saying "GOD bless you" is wishing you ill will. That would not make sense, would it?

No, it might not make sense, as you put it. I will occasionally use "Bless you" when someone I know sneezes. They understand it as a kindness. I don't use it with strangers.
Also, more often than not, it seems that "have a blest day" is delivered monotone, without sincerity. That is when I find it most irritating. As mentioned earlier, "a good grunt" would be more genuine and even more appropriate.
Most often when someone says "have a nice day" or "have a blessed day", I respond with, "and you, as well", and smile. People don't generally mean to offend, but sometimes they do. That is why generic greetings and well wishes is best, imho.

[Freehiker]

You cease to exist and your body rots until it’s just gone.

[fdpaq0580]

Originally Posted by Freehiker

You cease to exist and your body rots until it’s just gone.

Yep!