[Villages PL]

Originally Posted by blueash

Remember that the non-verbal clues you are sending are not being reliably received. Tone of voice, body language, facial expressions and sarcasm may be missed.

Yes, just a few days ago we were walking down the street and she was talking non-stop as usual. I saw some beautiful Azaleas in bloom and wanted to remark how great they looked. But I couldn't interupt her so I pointed toward the Azaleas and she took no notice of the fact that I was pointing at something.

Thanks for your reply. Some things that you mentioned seem to fit and others don't. I may have more comments at a later time.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by Villages PL

Yes, just a few days ago we were walking down the street and she was talking non-stop as usual. I saw some beautiful Azaleas in bloom and wanted to remark how great they looked. But I couldn't interupt her so I pointed toward the Azaleas and she took no notice of the fact that I was pointing at something.

Thanks for your reply. Some things that you mentioned seem to fit and others don't. I may have more comments at a later time.

She obviously does not read this forum.

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[redwitch]

BTW -- Being an Aspie doesn't make anyone "special" (either positively or negatively) and it should not be used as a label. It can help someone understand why someone behaves in a certain manner and that's about it. It is a small part of the individual.

I'm a mother and a grandmother. I'm right-handed but was born a leftie. I lived most of my childhood in different countries and have visited most of them as an adult. I can run fast (or could). I love to drive fast. I love helping people. I will fight when I see a social injustice. I'm an Aspie. I love critters. I hate bigots. Oh, and I'm a Scorp. They're all a part of me. None of these things alone define me.

I tell people I am an Aspie for one reason only -- so that they may understand that when I blurt out something I'm not trying to be hurtful or arrogant or whatever, just semi-clueless.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by senior citizen

This is a P.S. to post which is two spaces above.................re Blue Ash post.

Asperger's Syndrome Checklist



I looked this up for my own knowledge.......but thought I’d share it...........

Blueash has all the credentials to write on this subject.

[jane032657]

"We are all a little weird, and life's a little weird, and when we find someone who's weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love." Dr. Seuss

[Taltarzac725]

Originally Posted by redwitch

BTW -- Being an Aspie doesn't make anyone "special" (either positively or negatively) and it should not be used as a label. It can help someone understand why someone behaves in a certain manner and that's about it. It is a small part of the individual.

I'm a mother and a grandmother. I'm right-handed but was born a leftie. I lived most of my childhood in different countries and have visited most of them as an adult. I can run fast (or could). I love to drive fast. I love helping people. I will fight when I see a social injustice. I'm an Aspie. I love critters. I hate bigots. Oh, and I'm a Scorp. They're all a part of me. None of these things alone define me.

I tell people I am an Aspie for one reason only -- so that they may understand that when I blurt out something I'm not trying to be hurtful or arrogant or whatever, just semi-clueless.

I also do not believe in labels. One thing though people can change and development especially out of labels thrown on them with people with some kind of agenda. Or, because the state of the "sciences" of psychiatry and psychology looks more like magic, superstition, religion and at its best an art. http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...try-a-science/ http://www.newyorker.com/arts/critic...urrentPage=all

[Villages PL]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

Blueash has all the credentials to write on this subject.

It seems that labels do come in handy. How else would you be able to provide the link, "Asperger's Syndrome Checklist"?

Characteristics that seem to apply:

1) May not understand if a conversation is boring, especially if her talking is fast and somewhat garbled at times.

2) Problems with two way conversation: Has trouble maintaining a two way conversation. Talks at someone rather than with the person. Speaks inappropriately such as too loudly or softly.

3) Does not comprehend facial expressions, body language or gestures.

4) Rigid range of interests for social interaction: True, not all subjects are welcomed.

That's about it. Those are the ones that seem to apply.

[vinnie]

My grandson has it.
A teacher I had co wrote a book IN MY MIND and it is very interesting.
A JOURNEY THROUGH MY LIFE WITH ASPERGER'S AUTISM
ALEX OLINKIEWICZ
You can watch a 8 minute video on YOUTUBE that has this young man telling his story.
He tells of his likes and dislikes, sensitivity to textures, can only eat certain foods etc

Yes there are differences but lots and lots of similarities. And the degree of Aspergers coincides with the functioning ability of the person
And he likes the way he is.

[Quixote]

Originally Posted by Villages PL

Yes, just a few days ago we were walking down the street and she was talking non-stop as usual. I saw some beautiful Azaleas in bloom and wanted to remark how great they looked. But I couldn't interupt her so I pointed toward the Azaleas and she took no notice of the fact that I was pointing at something.

Thanks for your reply. Some things that you mentioned seem to fit and others don't. I may have more comments at a later time.

At the risk of sounding too matter-of-fact, unless there is more to your relationship than you said, why even put up with this type of behavior? Since you can change only yourself and for sure not the next person, why not just remove yourself from the situation? Why should anyone feel oblited to put up with someone who is so self-centered? Just walk away. The world is full of potential "real" friendships just waiting to happen!

[Golfingnut]

Back when we were kids, we all knew someone labeled as silly, nerdy or very awkward. Today they may very well be diagnosed as A.S.. Love everyone for differences.

[Barefoot]

Posted comment: Back when we were kids, we all knew someone labeled as silly, nerdy or very awkward. Today they may very well be diagnosed as A.S..
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Whoa Nellie. I'm hearing way too many negatives here about Aspies. I have a friend with Asperger's. She is smart, honest, dependable, and always tells the truth.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by Barefoot

Posted comment: Back when we were kids, we all knew someone labeled as silly, nerdy or very awkward. Today they may very well be diagnosed as A.S..
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Whoa Nellie. I'm hearing way too many negatives here about Aspies. I have a friend with Asperger's. She is smart, honest, dependable, and always tells the truth.

Very right as usual Bare.

But back to the OPs problem. If you aren't getting along with someone and it is causing stress, you can retreat from the situation. It isn't necessary to always find labels for peoples behavior. If it doesn't feel right and it makes you unhappy and you haven't made a vow or have a lot of entanglements, then perhaps it is just better to step back.