[Villages PL]

If someone is single and looking for a partner on the singles board I can understand wanting to know. But a single has the option of disclosing this information if he or she so chooses.

Other than that, what might the reason be? As far as mental or emotional performance in messaging, aren't both genders equal? Do you have to know which gender you're talking to so you can tailor your message appropriately?

[rubicon]

I believe it is very important to know a member's gender when communicating. Despite what some claim there are many science supported differences between men and women. Thank God In that same vein it is also important to know their religious and political persuasion , education, even their ethnicity etc The more you know about a person the better you can attempt clear communication because all these factors frames their point of references........................................ ........................

[zcaveman]

Good questions. I have no answers. I do not think that it matters. But I do like some of the screen names. They do make you guess.

Z

[JB in TV]

While I can see both sides of the question...knowing and not knowing, I don't believe that this forum is such that one needs "the upper hand" in discussons. I see this forum as a place to learn more about TV, the contractors, the goings on, etc. The gender of the poster is probably not necessary for that kind of communication. If this were a more debate orientated dicussion type forum, then having as much info about the other posters may provide an additional edge to some folks.

With that said, I beleive that the poster who asked the original questipn was just coming from an "it'd be nice to know" point of view, and nothing else. In most cases, when you meet someone in person, you know their gender, online friends, not so much.

[Indydealmaker]

I, for one do not subscribe to current "de-gendering" of this country. Men are men, women are women.

Like it or not we speak and think differently. We are supposed to.

I tend to be more kind and gentle to women (upbringing) and more irreverent to men. Men that don't like that kind of friendly-rude camaraderie, I just do not understand.

I hate anything "touchy-feely". It helps to know whether that vibe is coming from a man or woman.

While we are on a sort of related subject. I do not understand a husband and wife who post on TOTV as one. How can any married couple ALWAYS think alike? I know some who even use the same email address. What is that all about?

[Villages PL]

Originally Posted by JB in TV

With that said, I beleive that the poster who asked the original questipn was just coming from an "it'd be nice to know" point of view, and nothing else.

Really? What I have noticed is that women have a thing for something I would call "solidarity". So in order to have or practice solidarity, you first have to know who is who. I could expound on how this works on the boards but the truth always seems to get people angry.

[TheVillageChicken]

If your question was prompted by graciegirl's post, I have to say that I don't think she implied in any way that it was important.

[DougB]

Originally Posted by Villages PL

If someone is single and looking for a partner on the singles board I can understand wanting to know. But a single has the option of disclosing this information if he or she so chooses.

Other than that, what might the reason be? As far as mental or emotional performance in messaging, aren't both genders equal? Do you have to know which gender you're talking to so you can tailor your message appropriately?

Before I can answer, I need to know if you are male or female.

[rubicon]

I answered originally with what I believed were the necessary criteria even on a blog to know about a person in order to communicating effectively. However I missed one important element. Does the person in question bother to read what others post? If they do not your wasting your time and theirs

[Villages PL]

Originally Posted by TheVillageChicken

If your question was prompted by graciegirl's post, I have to say that I don't think she implied in any way that it was important.

Sometimes a thought has a birthplace; so be it. The question came up in my mind and was not directed to any one person. Although, she is a woman.

[Villages PL]

Originally Posted by rubicon

I answered originally with what I believed were the necessary criteria even on a blog to know about a person in order to communicating effectively. However I missed one important element. Does the person in question bother to read what others post? If they do not your wasting your time and theirs

I did read your first post on this thread, rubicon, and it made me wonder why you felt the need to expand the original topic. The topic is about communicating but only as regards gender.

You did say you think gender is very important but you didn't say why.

[quirky3]

Maybe it is so that they know who to invite into the squirt gun posse (solidarity!)

[onslowe]

Originally Posted by Indydealmaker

I, for one do not subscribe to current "de-gendering" of this country. Men are men, women are women.

Like it or not we speak and think differently. We are supposed to.

I tend to be more kind and gentle to women (upbringing) and more irreverent to men. Men that don't like that kind of friendly-rude camaraderie, I just do not understand.

I hate anything "touchy-feely". It helps to know whether that vibe is coming from a man or woman.

While we are on a sort of related subject. I do not understand a husband and wife who post on TOTV as one. How can any married couple ALWAYS think alike? I know some who even use the same email address. What is that all about?

I agree with everything you said and the opinions are right on, Steve. The thread which is being complained about was clearly in the 'it would be nice to know" category. If one finds this abhorrent or distasteful, then by-pass, go around, ignore, move on and don't stir the pot needlessly.

If one would seek only to be 'au courant' and get one's thoughts from the modern gurus and iconoclasts, one will never apprehend the fact that many of us respect and uphold Tradition. There are objective and subjective unchangeable attributes between the sexes.

Vive la difference.

[TheVillageChicken]

Originally Posted by Villages PL

Sometimes a thought has a birthplace; so be it. The question came up in my mind and was not directed to any one person. Although, she is a woman.

Ever thought about becoming the White House Press Secretary?

[graciegirl]

I will tell you one reason. I sometimes take a great liking to some nice girl on here and enjoy everything she says and thinks and laugh at all of her jokes and commiserate with a lot of her problems and eventually send her a PM to invite her to lunch with me and Helene and she answers...


Can I bring my wife?

Or I think how much I enjoy a fellow and will ask if he and his wife would like to have dinner with us and he is a wonderful, enjoyable, truly girly girl.