[graciegirl]

Anonymity has it's price. Many people become so much more understandable when you are looking them in the eye.

I have enjoyed really getting to know in person Barefoot, 2BNTV, Dillywho, shcisamax, Indydealmaker, Kitty Gilchrist, CFrance, Redwitch ,DougB and Quirky3 who have posted on this thread.

I have not met in person but admire many others who posted.

I think you have given my thread a totally different meaning then it was intended. It was just lighthearted. Just bringing up again that many people are mistaken on gender of a lot of posters on TOTV.

[Villages PL]

Originally Posted by Barefoot

For a lot of us, this is just a fun place to chat, and to exchange opinions and comments. And sometimes it's fun to find out more about people.
"Where were you born" or "What's for dinner" or "What's your favorite club in The Villages" or "What kind of pet do you have", or "What's your pet peeve in restaurants" or "Are you male or female". No hidden agendas, just chatting.

Now here we have solidarity on top of solidarity - double solidarity! This is exactly what I mean. If it looks like a woman might be losing an argument, another woman will feel the need to come to the rescue.

No one ever argued that this shouldn't be a fun place to chat and exchange opinions and comments. I made a point about women's solidarity and you proved it again. Thank you very much! And, or course, in order to have solidarity you would have to know who's who.

[kittygilchrist]

VPL..you asked a question...why u got backlash may be gender related..just maybe...

A Humorous Short Film That Highlights Gender Communication Differences - DesignTAXI.com

[Barefoot]

Originally Posted by Villages PL

Now here we have solidarity on top of solidarity - double solidarity! This is exactly what I mean. If it looks like a woman might be losing an argument, another woman will feel the need to come to the rescue.

No one ever argued that this shouldn't be a fun place to chat and exchange opinions and comments. I made a point about women's solidarity and you proved it again. Thank you very much! And in order to have solidarity you would have to know who's who.

You are very welcome.
Double solidarity .... and I didn't realize there was an argument happening or that anyone needed to be rescued!

I guess this post saying "you are very welcome" is an example of female/male solidarity

[dillywho]

Originally Posted by Villages PL

I'm still not sure I understand you correctly. Is your first name "Dilly"? Is that on your birth certificate or is that your nickname?

It is my nickname and I am still most definitely female.

[Villages PL]

Originally Posted by kittygilchrist

VPL..you asked a question...why u got backlash may be gender related..just maybe...

A Humorous Short Film That Highlights Gender Communication Differences - DesignTAXI.com

Thanks, it sounds interesting but it looks like I would have to log into Facebook? I have studiously stayed away from ever doing that. Sorry.
Is there a summary in writing?

[Indydealmaker]

Originally Posted by dbanks50

I'd rather have an honest answer instead of one based on my gender.

I don't think "honesty" is the issue, rather it may be the delivery of the dialogue.

[Indydealmaker]

Originally Posted by shcisamax

Oh my oh my oh my.... I think someone is making an awfully big mountain out of an itsy bitsy teeny weenie nothing anthill. Why can't someone just wonder if someone is male or femaie? What's the big deal? It's no more suspect a question than, "Do you have tile or hardwood?" Do we insert suppositions based upon tile people versus hardwood people? Just the way we are. Actually, we are laminate people.

In the good ole days, you didn't have to "wonder" if someone was male or female (or both)!

[redwitch]

And then there are those who just rub you the wrong way regardless of gender and it would be nice to know whether to call them an SOB or just a B.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by redwitch

And then there are those who just rub you the wrong way regardless of gender.

You are undoubtedly your mother's smartest child.

[asianthree]

Originally Posted by redwitch

And then there are those who just rub you the wrong way regardless of gender and it would be nice to know whether to call them an SOB or just a B.

So true

[CFrance]

Originally Posted by Indydealmaker

I, for one do not subscribe to current "de-gendering" of this country. Men are men, women are women.

Like it or not we speak and think differently. We are supposed to.

I tend to be more kind and gentle to women (upbringing) and more irreverent to men. Men that don't like that kind of friendly-rude camaraderie, I just do not understand.

I hate anything "touchy-feely". It helps to know whether that vibe is coming from a man or woman.

While we are on a sort of related subject. I do not understand a husband and wife who post on TOTV as one. How can any married couple ALWAYS think alike? I know some who even use the same email address. What is that all about?

I have a good friend who just won't get her own email. Her husband claims he doesn't read her emails, but he does. He has frequently responded to emails I sent to her, not realizing he is giving it away that he monitors her mail. Drives me nuts. I feel that we can only communicate honestly by phone.

The rest of your post is spot on, in my opinion, Indy.

[shcisamax]

Originally Posted by redwitch

And then there are those who just rub you the wrong way regardless of gender and it would be nice to know whether to call them an SOB or just a B.

ALL TIME BEST REMARK ON TOTV. THANK YOU REDWITCH FOR THE FINALE OF ALL TIME

Oh wait, I don't want this to look like a solidarity thing. I would have clapped if PL himself had written that!!!!!

[CFrance]

Originally Posted by Villages PL

Now here we have solidarity on top of solidarity - double solidarity! This is exactly what I mean. If it looks like a woman might be losing an argument, another woman will feel the need to come to the rescue.

No one ever argued that this shouldn't be a fun place to chat and exchange opinions and comments. I made a point about women's solidarity and you proved it again. Thank you very much! And, or course, in order to have solidarity you would have to know who's who.

You are confusing solidarity with someone agreeing with someone else.

[Matzy]

Indydealmaker, I hope I did understand it right when you said "Men are men and Women are women", so you would treat the different sexes differently. In my understanding is a "gender" just a role we have to play in our society and is, in old understanding, for a lot of people almost the same with the "sex" of a human being. But there is a huge difference.