[golow]

Adult (40+) sibling is coming to “visit” my parent. He has no home, no job or willingness to get one, no apparent assets or way to support himself. Is there any way this ends well?

[CWGUY]

Originally Posted by golow

Adult (40+) sibling is coming to “visit” my parent. He has no home, no job or willingness to get one, no apparent assets or way to support himself. Is there any way this ends well?

Yes, you take good care of yourself and your parent. Period. Good luck.

[manaboutown]

I am sorry to hear of this which is all too common these days. As CWGuy said, take care of yourself and your parent's interests.

[Taltarzac725]

Originally Posted by golow

Adult (40+) sibling is coming to “visit” my parent. He has no home, no job or willingness to get one, no apparent assets or way to support himself. Is there any way this ends well?

Good luck with this sibling of yours. There are many kinds of support groups in and around the Villages. He may want to check these out or your parents might. They list a lot of these on certain days in The Villages Daily Sun.

[Trayderjoe]

Originally Posted by golow

Adult (40+) sibling is coming to “visit” my parent. He has no home, no job or willingness to get one, no apparent assets or way to support himself. Is there any way this ends well?

I am afraid the odds are against it ending well. Based upon your description, it doesn't sound as if your sibling can support them-self and may be looking to your parent to enable their lifestyle choice.

As others have said, good luck.

[Wiotte]

Originally Posted by golow

Adult (40+) sibling is coming to “visit” my parent. He has no home, no job or willingness to get one, no apparent assets or way to support himself. Is there any way this ends well?

No.


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[gadaboutgal]

Yes. As your parents age, there may come a time when they will welcome an in-home caretaker. Perhaps that is just what your sibling will find as his vocation in life. Don't judge (lest you be judged) and let them work out their arrangement between them.

[bagboy]

Originally Posted by golow

Adult (40+) sibling is coming to “visit” my parent. He has no home, no job or willingness to get one, no apparent assets or way to support himself. Is there any way this ends well?

You are very wise to be concerned. Hopefully your parent can make it clear it's a short visit. Good luck !!!

[ColdNoMore]

Originally Posted by golow

Adult (40+) sibling is coming to “visit” my parent. He has no home, no job or willingness to get one, no apparent assets or way to support himself. Is there any way this ends well?

The "ending" is all dependent...on how your parents choose to handle it.

Good luck.

[Bay Kid]

We will always love our children and we hope our children will always love us. Give love a chance.

[retiredguy123]

The only way it will end well is for your parent to set a duration for the visit and strictly enforce it.

[vintageogauge]

I think possibly there is more to the story than described. There is always a reason a person is in the position that your sibling is in. Fill in the blanks for a better selection of answers.

[Chatbrat]

If your sibling has a criminal history, drug problem and or an alcohol problem--nothing will be pleasant--you have been warned--be realistic & proactive

[jsw14]

Originally Posted by vintageogauge

I think possibly there is more to the story than described. There is always a reason a person is in the position that your sibling is in. Fill in the blanks for a better selection of answers.

Me too, what state is he com'in from? How is he get'in here? Maybe a Bus Ticket... I'll bet on one thing, that he has a Cell phone.....

[villagetinker]

OP, as mentioned above be proactive, possibly contacting a local lawyer to discuss ways to limit or completely block access to your parents assets, bank accounts, credit cards, etc. I do not like to think in the negative, but if this goes badly, you and your parents could take a significant financial hit. There have been a few stories along these lines recently. You can determine how far you and your parents need to go after getting legal advice.
I hope this helps, and I hope this works out well.