I was wondering if there are people (like me) having problems making friends here in the villages? I am very active in softball and have a lot of friendly acquiaintances at the field but don't seem to be included in other activities.I golf ,love pickleball ,enjoy bowling,cycling and I hear lots of conversations amongst guys about meeting later for golf ,pickleball etc. but these invites are never directed at me.I have tried to be included by stating my interest in these activities to no avail. All I can think of is I'm relatively young(54) & recently went back to work nights...I don't know..if someone has suggestions ..I'm open...Thanks!

[angiefox10]

They are making plans with people they have already made a connection with. Now... it's up to you! You need to make call and ask them to join you for dinner, golf, etc.

It's hard! But someone has to do it! We tend to hang with people we already know because it's comfortable. So... we need to make new friends we are comfortable with.

I know you from here and another networking site and know you are a great guy! When you step out! You will have so much going on in your life, you won't be able to keep up!

[vj1213]

Are there any men's golf league's in Amelia (I know here in Buttonwood there are several (as well as ladies leagues) that play on different days. Or you could talk to your neighbors and start your own group like they did in our neighborhood. There are lots of people playing pickle ball at 7:30 am every day at Fishhawk (just drop by and they will work you in)
Yesterday, we happened to play golf with someone staying on the Lifestyle program, we were having a cook-out for our neighbors so we invited them to come back and see what life is actually like in TV. They were able meet 35 of our neighbors and experience a party in the middle of a cul-de-sac. (You can come hang out in our neighborhood...always something going on) The night before we went out to dinner with 22 of our neighbors.
Oh, and by the way I am your age and work part-time, it doesn't matter.

[redwitch]

I know I'm not the easiest person to know and have learned to live with that a long time ago. When I first moved here, I felt like you -- kinda left out even in activities that I was participating in. It took some time, but I was finally accepted. I also learned to come out of my shell and invite people to join me. That helped a lot. Now, I have people I call true friends here, people I do stuff with and acquaintances. It makes for a social life that suits me perfectly. So, swallow hard and start doing your own inviting -- it really does make a difference.

[ducati1974]

As a fellow Mass native, Bosox fan & golfer I'll be happy to play with you and get to know you when I move there, hopefully 1/1/13. Our house is on the market now and we already own there. I'm about the same age as you too. Wish me luck!

[bandsdavis]

Originally Posted by ducati1974

As a fellow Mass native, Bosox fan & golfer I'll be happy to play with you and get to know you when I move there, hopefully 1/1/13. Our house is on the market now and we already own there. I'm about the same age as you too. Wish me luck!

OK, Bosoxfan and ducati1974, I'll be the third in the foursome when we get there as well. Whenever the house in VA sells. Until then we can all watch the Sox and commiserate! Hang in there, buddy!

B.

[Mudder]

Bosox, I think maybe it's because you're from Wosta and they can't understand you when you speak! Only kidding. We already knew several people when we moved here so that made it easier. We both play alot of sports and those people have become wonderful "friends" on the playing fields, courses, courts, etc...we we do tend to socialize with the people we already knew. How about joining The Red Sox Nation club ?

Originally Posted by bandsdavis

OK, Bosoxfan and ducati1974, I'll be the third in the foursome when we get there as well. Whenever the house in VA sells. Until then we can all watch the Sox and commiserate! Hang in there, buddy!

B.

Need a fourth? Moved here from RI

Originally Posted by ducati1974

As a fellow Mass native, Bosox fan & golfer I'll be happy to play with you and get to know you when I move there, hopefully 1/1/13. Our house is on the market now and we already own there. I'm about the same age as you too. Wish me luck!

Good luck ducati...pm me when you get here we'll play some golf or pickleball

[Barefoot]

Originally Posted by Bosoxfan

I was wondering if there are people (like me) having problems making friends here in the villages? I am very active in softball and have a lot of friendly acquiaintances at the field but don't seem to be included in other activities.I golf ,love pickleball ,enjoy bowling,cycling and I hear lots of conversations amongst guys about meeting later for golf ,pickleball etc. but these invites are never directed at me.I have tried to be included by stating my interest in these activities to no avail. All I can think of is I'm relatively young(54) & recently went back to work nights...I don't know..if someone has suggestions ..I'm open...Thanks!

Is that your dog in the picture? If so, do you take him to a dog park? That can be a great way to meet new friends. We take our two dogs daily to Doggie Doo Run Run on CR 101. It is a very social place, and everyone has love of dogs in common.

[CarGuys]

Originally Posted by Bosoxfan

I was wondering if there are people (like me) having problems making friends here in the villages? I am very active in softball and have a lot of friendly acquiaintances at the field but don't seem to be included in other activities.I golf ,love pickleball ,enjoy bowling,cycling and I hear lots of conversations amongst guys about meeting later for golf ,pickleball etc. but these invites are never directed at me.I have tried to be included by stating my interest in these activities to no avail. All I can think of is I'm relatively young(54) & recently went back to work nights...I don't know..if someone has suggestions ..I'm open...Thanks!

I'll hang out with ya! I want to get back into cycling. I need to work back into it slow. The body isn't Tour de France material anymore. Maybe that Harley is part of the reason. Doc say's time to pedal.

Originally Posted by bandsdavis

OK, Bosoxfan and ducati1974, I'll be the third in the foursome when we get there as well. Whenever the house in VA sells. Until then we can all watch the Sox and commiserate! Hang in there, buddy!

B.

Thanks guys

[graciegirl]

Bosoxfan. I think you are a great person from every single thing you have written.

Our Welcome mat is always out.


Have a little get together at your place and just buy some snacks and drinks at Publix and invite a few folks over.

[RichieB]

Originally Posted by Bosoxfan

Thanks guys

From reading your posts, I never thought that you'd have trouble making friends.

I will look you up whenever we get to TV, as long as you don't mind a couple of NYY's.

I'm finding this to be a very interesting thread.First off thank you to all for your feedback.What's interesting is there have been over 1100 views with 13 posts and 4 of them are mine.I've actually received more pm's than there are posts...interesting!!