[chachacha]

i think dr tom is talking about a group which would meet privately, not a discussion on the internet....as for meeting other singles, tonight is a good place to start with the big singles block party in paddock square in brownwood, 6-8. non-threatening and even if you do not meet "the one" you may make some nice friends. or meet at the theatre there at six forty five to see walter mitty. or both

[kittygilchrist]

Originally Posted by maybe

I am not sure how well a discussion group that would include personal histories would safely benefit people if it is comprised of people from an internet web site that is open to the world. Participants need to feel comfortable, and that would be hard enough in any group that includes a mix of strangers and friends, but add in the internet posting element, and the risks are multiplied. Maybe what I have said is just my lawyer side thinking, but we cannot ignore the internet element here.

You don't do prenups do ya?
LOL..

[kittygilchrist]

Originally Posted by 2BNTV

I think most people who be better served, if they worked on improving and understanding themselves.

Dating is the proces to getting to know someone, to see if a possiblility of a future relationship is there.

Most people just need to put themselves out there, as your future intended, won't be coming in a mailbox. You can find a lot of people just by living your life, if you are willing to say hello. Half the world is waiting for the other half to say hello.

You can find anyone, anywhere, grocery store, book stores, gyms or at a sports bar. If you have the courage to speak up, and are willing to take the risk of rejection. Most people are afraid of rejection.

Live your life and make something happen, if one wants to.

Nuff said.......

I have to say the first time I met you, Joe, I said, "you are way handsomer than your picture and that's an incredible cheesecake"... But now I know you are also a loyal, responsible, helpful, easygoing, interested-in-a-partner BACHELOR. Who entertains friends, decorates smartly, and you have great hair.
Kitty
ps if you think cha and I will be matchmaking, you'd be right.

[maybe]

Originally Posted by chachacha;81***8

i think dr tom is talking about a group which would meet privately, not a discussion on the internet....as for meeting other singles, tonight is a good place to start with the big singles block party in paddock square in brownwood, 6-8. non-threatening and even if you do not meet "the one" you may make some nice friends. or meet at the theatre there at six forty five to see walter mitty. or both

Yes, I know the suggested sessions would be in person, not via the internet, but it was undesigned spill-over to the internet that I was concerned about.

[Doctommft]

Originally Posted by maybe

I am not sure how well a discussion group that would include personal histories would safely benefit people if it is comprised of people from an internet web site that is open to the world. Participants need to feel comfortable, and that would be hard enough in any group that includes a mix of strangers and friends, but add in the internet posting element, and the risks are multiplied. Maybe what I have said is just my lawyer side thinking, but we cannot ignore the internet element here.

So what would you as a member of a group request from the other members to reduce your fear of public disclosure?

[maybe]

Originally Posted by Doctommft

So what would you as a member of a group request from the other members to reduce your fear of public disclosure?

Not every problem has a solution. In this case, any solution would have to come from someone smarter than I. The risk is inherent in having a group of people sharing one thing in common that does not inspire confidentiality, to-wit a web based message board, and then creating from within that group a sub-group in which confidentiality must not only exist, but must also be believed to exist in order for the sub-group to accomplish its purpose. But, some people are more prone to ignore such risks and wish to proceed anyway. I am only posting to hopefully help such a choice to be a more considered one.

[2BNTV]

The people that are posting on this thread are already friends, and would not want to divulge reallly personal, intimate moments, in the privacy of a group setting, as they also see each other socially. Therefore, these sessions would become public. I think your trying to get something started, that doesn't have much of a chance, as it wouldn't be anonymous. At least, not on TOTV. IMHO

Thank you for your kind words, miss Kitty.

[coolkayaker1]

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[katerogers]

Originally Posted by 2BNTV

The people that are posting on this thread are already friends, and would not want to divulge reallly personal, intimate moments, in the privacy of a group setting, as they also see each other socially. Therefore, these sessions would become public. I think your trying to get something started, that doesn't have much of a chance, as it wouldn't be anonymous. At least, not on TOTV. IMHO

Thank you for your kind words, miss Kitty.

Tom,

I truly believe that what Joe and Bill have expressed is probably the general consensus of those singles who met through TOTV. Perhaps this isn't the best dragon to slay. We have become a close group, who rely on each other for advice, but who still want to keep our personal feelings, personal. It was very nice of you to offer though.

Katie

[Doctommft]

Originally Posted by kittygilchrist

me too. Something personal so I can not be didacticised.

Tom?

To those who question the authors:

An internet site is noted in my email. The site names the "OP's" and the relevant book they have written on the subject.

[Doctommft]

Kate:

I like your suggestion but the negatives seem to be driving this. You, Cha3, and Kitty seem to understand what I offered. Kate, when are we going to meet?

Tom