[BillboTex]

15 years ago in Houston I tried Internet dating sites three times to find the right person for me. Three BIZARRE strike-outs, (lots of dishonesty) so I haven't tried "dating" sites since.

TTV is not that "type" of site, but as I read threads here over the last week or so, there seems to be that eternal INTEREST? I posted a small introduction here, but I may have put it into the wrong thread? I have gotten help from two kindred spirits here, Kitty and Chris. Thanks to both of you. And I need more help.

Years ago on the Internet dating sites I created a "game". It was a simple game, and selfishly designed to confirmed to me that I might have found the "right" person. Of course my game could also be used by the other player to evaluate me. The game can be played in person, over the phone, or with text messages. The rules for the game were alternating questions which must be answered (later if necessary, but must be answered within 24 hrs), and MUST BE ANSWERED HONESTLY, and no question is disallowed. The game can be interrupted or even permanently TERMINATED by either party, but any "already asked" question, must be answered.

For my "selfish purposes", the game was more complex than some of my players realized. First, there are CRITICAL questions that I developed, which the other player could also use later for me. Second, it was very easy for me to evaluate an answer even when a player was NOT giving honest answers, so I was able to gain knowledge toward my goal, even from a dishonest answer. It should not be considered an adversarial game, because it was designed to increase understanding between two people.

There is a "door prize" for anyone who knows why I originally created the game.

Anyone want to revive my game here?

[TVMayor]

Were you ever with the FBI or the CIA as an employee or a customer?

[njbchbum]

At our age, I don't know if the dating aspect of it would have time for someone playing "games". Questions are interviews - not games, eh? About the only game I play is cards.

[BillboTex]

But isn't diversity WONDERFUL?

[BillboTex]

Originally Posted by TVMayor

Were you ever with the FBI or the CIA as an employee or a customer?

If I told you, then I would have to kill you.

[chachacha]

hi billbo,

i think the game is a good idea on a personal level but not on a site like this, as the written word can be terribly misconstrued. i agree it is important to understand as much as possible about another person who might be more than a friend, and that similar values are very important.

[BillboTex]

Thanks for your comment, of course it could be done here by private messages? The game is not R rated, but certainly privacy is your consideration?

[kittygilchrist]

Ya know that might be fun for a party where people who want to play the game can play and those who don't can do comedy routines about dating....I'm intrigued by the idea. Do tell us a little more...don't tease us so much!

[drooney60@hotmail.com]

I also went on-line to find a companion after my husband of 23 years died of 4th Stage Lung Cancer. I waited a year and started going on Plenty of Fish, Match.com, etc. There are many frogs out there, but sometimes you have to kiss a frog to get a Prince. I just about gave up on this dating thing and one day I was looking for a piece of furniture on "Craig's List" and noticed on the right-hand side of the website there was a column for "Men wanting to meet Women", "Women wanting to meet men", etc. So I went to the website and lo and behold it was a free dating service. I looked around at a few profiles and then I saw a man with beautiful eyes and a cute curl in front of his hair. He was a golfer (which I am passionate about), he loved to travel, he did Karaoke, and he loves animals. We e-mailed each other for a few weeks and then he called me and asked me if I wanted to meet at Starbucks for a cup of coffee. I told him that I had one better than that! I had a tee time at Twin Rivers G.C. and asked him if he wanted to join me!! We've been together ever since. We've been married for 6 years now and he's the best thing that has ever happened to me.

[manaboutown]

Thank you for the wonderful story, drooney60. Experiences like yours help keep hope alive for those of us still single and wanting to find a mate.

BTW, several years ago a woman who lives not far from me invented a party game having features similar to that described by the OP. She was preparing to market it at the time and I was invited to try it out in a group setting with other singles. The questions were on cards drawn from a deck and we took turns around a table, turning over a card, reading the question, and either answering it or declining. She had three levels of questions, light, medium and deep. I do not know if it ever sold. She was a psychologist, I think.

Ice breaking games can provide an easy was to get to know others at a party.

[katerogers]

Originally Posted by BillboTex

15 years ago in Houston I tried Internet dating sites three times to find the right person for me. Three BIZARRE strike-outs, (lots of dishonesty) so I haven't tried "dating" sites since.

TTV is not that "type" of site, but as I read threads here over the last week or so, there seems to be that eternal INTEREST? I posted a small introduction here, but I may have put it into the wrong thread? I have gotten help from two kindred spirits here, Kitty and Chris. Thanks to both of you. And I need more help.

Years ago on the Internet dating sites I created a "game". It was a simple game, and selfishly designed to confirmed to me that I might have found the "right" person. Of course my game could also be used by the other player to evaluate me. The game can be played in person, over the phone, or with text messages. The rules for the game were alternating questions which must be answered (later if necessary, but must be answered within 24 hrs), and MUST BE ANSWERED HONESTLY, and no question is disallowed. The game can be interrupted or even permanently TERMINATED by either party, but any "already asked" question, must be answered.

For my "selfish purposes", the game was more complex than some of my players realized. First, there are CRITICAL questions that I developed, which the other player could also use later for me. Second, it was very easy for me to evaluate an answer even when a player was NOT giving honest answers, so I was able to gain knowledge toward my goal, even from a dishonest answer. It should not be considered an adversarial game, because it was designed to increase understanding between two people.

There is a "door prize" for anyone who knows why I originally created the game.

Anyone want to revive my game here?

Maybe there is some truth to getting to know someone this way, but, for me the chemistry thing has a way of outweighing whether our stars are in line or not and, unlike you, I wouldn't be able to tell if they were lying - unless I could look into their eyes, or watch to see how long it took for them to come up with an answer that they were sure I would like. 24 hours is too long for someone to come up with these answers. Sorry - I just think dating is for that. It doesn't take too many dates to figure out if you have a future together.

Katie

[BillboTex]

Its designed to be a "learning" game between two individuals who want to learn more about each other. Not sure how well it translates to larger uninterested groups? I got two comments here from two people who didn't understand that?

Think about what my motivation was, to create the game.

[BillboTex]

If it doesn't take many "dates" to figure out the future, I wonder why there are so many failures? Its not logical, there must be some other reason for the high failure rate?

[2BNTV]

Originally Posted by manaboutown

Thank you for the wonderful story, drooney60. Experiences like yours help keep hope alive for those of us still single and wanting to find a mate.

BTW, several years ago a woman who lives not far from me invented a party game having features similar to that described by the OP. She was preparing to market it at the time and I was invited to try it out in a group setting with other singles. The questions were on cards drawn from a deck and we took turns around a table, turning over a card, reading the question, and either answering it or declining. She had three levels of questions, light, medium and deep. I do not know if it ever sold. She was a psychologist, I think.

Ice breaking games can provide an easy was to get to know others at a party.

There is a book called, Half the world is waiting for the other half to say hello".

[kittygilchrist]

it takes me, sometimes 21 years to figure out it isn't working. that's why "Kitty isn't dating." I might sometime...but there'd have to be lot of chemistry crossing over a deep friendship.