[manaboutown]

This did not happen to me but to a guy I know. About 15 years ago, before internet dating, a dating service which shall remain unnamed herein was in business. They took photos of their members and set up profiles which members could review. This fellow selected a woman based on her photo and profile. She agreed to go out with him. When he showed up at her door a woman who looked completely different than the photo answered the door and identified herself as his date. He told her she looked nothing like her photo. She admitted she had had a good looking friend go in for the photo session and that the photo was not of herself. He left.

I do know of a very good looking real estate lady where I now reside. She rarely if ever sells a house but meets many well off men through her business. She has married and then divorced several and has become rather wealthy through it all.

After thinking it over a while my dating life has been mostly a lot of fun. Many of the women I meet and date I am able to check out because we have friends in common. I also learned to not ever agree to a blind date without a good, clear full (clothed) body shot photo, even with someone I know well wanting to set me up.

Of course in these days of meeting through internet dating sites I do recommend whenever possible that daters of both sexes do some preliminary screening before agreeing to meet a total stranger for the first time.

[kittygilchrist]

I'm going back to the first blind date, while I was in college, working part time, where the pharmacist matchmaker promises me Mr. Blind Date is tall, handsome and loaded. I was in my early 20's living w/family, my brother answers the door and yells, "Mom, your date's here!"
The date was in his forties. Since I am one inch shorter at 5'9" than the average man, tall means tall, and he was average--not bad looking, but old enough to be balding.

We go to a gator game, and it rains...then on to his place to dry off a bit. I mix 2 drinks for us at the house, the we get in the Mercedes and stop for gas, where the now doubly "loaded" date is so inebriated he floods the car.

I call the pharmacist to come get me...when he arrives I suggest we push the car away from the pump. Mr. BD says, "I've never pushed a car..." so we let him drive.
Now I'm pushing the car in the rain, and notice that bozo has his foot on the brake. I didn't say the f word back then, and I regret having missed that opportunity...but I did OK, cuz Mom taught me to swear pretty well without it.

[Cgirmo]

Ahhh..this was a very nice lady. 40 and still saving herself which I respected. Week 1 and 2 were fine. Week three states she can throw a wedding together in 30 days. Excellent skills. Week 4, I was led into the bedroom and told to sit on the edge of the bed!!!! She walks over, throws open the closet door exposing a bookcase full of dvd's and screams..I have every Elvis movie! You can watch each and every one..All I need is to be married in Vegas by an Elvis impersonator and I can die happy!! I just left the building.

[Geewiz]

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[Bonnevie]

IDK seems like if you had simply responded "I'm sorry" I didn't mean to offend you by my remark" would have done the trick...maybe she was a little sensitive but I can see her point...there are a lot of users out there and we've all met more than our share and probably tend to be very wary of possible red flags.

[mainlander]

GW I don't "get it". The respondant to your e-mails seems like an honest and insightful person, not a bit crazy imo. Crazy is "posting" private e-mails, imo.

[Geewiz]

Originally Posted by mainlander

GW I don't "get it". The respondant to your e-mails seems like an honest and insightful person, not a bit crazy imo. Crazy is "posting" private e-mails, imo.

I deleted it...please follow suit.

[redwitch]

Gee, maybe you should reconsider what you say in your emails to potential dates. Let them know about you, don't try to be funny or cute, just you. Song lyrics, poetry are nice but I'd be pretty creeped out if a guy sent me one before I really knew him (IRL, not just online). It would feel like the guy is hiding behind words and I would want to know the guy, be able to trust him. If you hide yourself, there is no way to develop any trust. Just my opinion, sorry.

[queasy27]

Geewiz, you don't have to answer if you'd rather not, but I'm curious how your correspondence with Ivy began. How did your signals get so thoroughly crossed about whether or not she was even looking for a romantic relationship?

[USSGompers]

Originally Posted by manaboutown

This did not happen to me but to a guy I know. About 15 years ago, before internet dating, a dating service which shall remain unnamed herein was in business. They took photos of their members and set up profiles which members could review. This fellow selected a woman based on her photo and profile. She agreed to go out with him. When he showed up at her door a woman who looked completely different than the photo answered the door and identified herself as his date. He told her she looked nothing like her photo. She admitted she had had a good looking friend go in for the photo session and that the photo was not of herself. He left.

I do know of a very good looking real estate lady where I now reside. She rarely if ever sells a house but meets many well off men through her business. She has married and then divorced several and has become rather wealthy through it all.

After thinking it over a while my dating life has been mostly a lot of fun. Many of the women I meet and date I am able to check out because we have friends in common. I also learned to not ever agree to a blind date without a good, clear full (clothed) body shot photo, even with someone I know well wanting to set me up.

Of course in these days of meeting through internet dating sites I do recommend whenever possible that daters of both sexes do some preliminary screening before agreeing to meet a total stranger for the first time.

That had to be 'Great Expectations' dating service. I signed up for that in 1999 in Orlando when I was 45 years old. Had pics done of me and a profile for $2,000. Got a hit from a guy in Wildwood. He convinced me to rent out my home fully furnished and quit my job as a Quality control Inspector at a major printing company and come move in with him in Wildwood after only 2 months.

Yes, I believed in love and was lonely. We broke up within 10 months. He was 39 years old and I found out that I would have been his 5th wife.

I got out just in time. We were to be married Feb 14th and broke up Feb 10th!!!!

The lady I rented my home to trashed it and I was able to sell it for what I owed the mortgage company. The furniture was ruined by a big dog peeing on it that I did not know she had.

YIKES!!

[Geewiz]

Originally Posted by queasy27

Geewiz, you don't have to answer if you'd rather not, but I'm curious how your correspondence with Ivy began. How did your signals get so thoroughly crossed about whether or not she was even looking for a romantic relationship?

Hopefully this will be the end of it...I contacted her on a particularly edgy dating site...and she made such a big deal out of not being called cute...well as Mr. Springsteen said - "When they said sit down - I stood up." But, I tease - and I try to be gentle and kind.

She is very articulate and wound a bit tight. This is a dating website where you don't look for pen pals.

My pal Ellen says I reveal far too much...but, as a writer I have a limited ability to self edit. This is my error. I don't date in TV because I've got enough of a bad rep.

The point of the thread is the whole dating game brings out the strangeness in all of us. TV is odd because of the ratio between men and women favors guys and I think that is hard for some women to cope with as it encourages the predator in guys.

Since I tend to date younger and edgy women...the typical balance where guys pursue girls is still in play. But - what is different is that most of the girls are divorced and have a very cynical view of guys....probably well warranted.

C'est la vie.

[OnTrack]

Originally Posted by redwitch

Blind date for dinner. His ex comes into restaurant. He gets up to talk to her. Says he's sorry but he has to try again. Leaves me his credit card to pay for the meal and take a cab home. I looked at him, I looked at the card (AmEx platinum) and went to town. Ordered champagne ($150), wine for surrounding tables ($400), $100 tip for waiter, cab ride from Lafayette (about 6 miles from house) to San Francisco, Marin County and home that way ($375). Seemed fair to me.

That's a classic!!!

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[redwitch]

Originally Posted by OnTrack

That's a classic!!!

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Basic rule -- don't tick off a redhead (whether natural or straight out of the bottle) .... we have ATTITUDE!

[Geewiz]

Originally Posted by redwitch

Basic rule -- don't tick off a redhead (whether natural or straight out of the bottle) .... we have ATTITUDE!

Sorry - every gal has attitude. Guys, too. As we age we settle into patterns and don't appreciate someone who wants to change us. When younger we are more malleable.

[2 Oldcrabs]

My father told me, "everyone in the world is crazy except myself and your mother, and I am not too sure about your mother". Crazy is a "relative term", depends on your outlook.