[kittygilchrist]

this thread for those of us without a plan for holidays.
If you would like company, anyone on totv may respond with invitations.
It might be helpful to know what your situation is like re: when you are available, religious expectations, personal requirements.
My situation is that I am new here and single with not much family...the single community has an event for turkey day, and welcomes anyone who wants company.
Kitty

[2BNTV]

Originally Posted by kittygilchrist

this thread for those of us without a plan for holidays.
If you would like company, anyone on totv may respond with invitations.
It might be helpful to know what your situation is like re: when you are available, religious expectations, personal requirements.
My situation is that I am new here and single with not much family...the single community has an event for turkey day, and welcomes anyone who wants company.
Kitty

Thanksgiving at Larry's. See you there.

I am probably going to my son's house for Xmas, so I can see all the presents that Santa brought for my grand-daughter. Holidays are for families so it's tough to be single with not anywhere to go, especially if family is far away.

I can empathize with you.

[lhasalady]

I'm feeling kind of sad about the Holidays too. I am closing on my home up north on Fri. and don't close on my new home in TV until Dec. 2. The movers came today and loaded up my belongings. So here I sit in an empty house knowing that I have to be out of here in a couple of days. In between closings I will be staying with my girlfriend and her family and will have Thanksgiving with them before driving to Florida. Even my little dogs will be in the kennel until then. I don't want to leave them there but my friend has 3 big dogs of her own. I feel out of place, lonely and scared.

I used to love the holidays but now that my husband has passed away I really don't care about them. At least my daughter, who lives in another state, will be with me for Christmas when I move to TV.

I really can't wait to be settled in my new home and I am super excited about TV but right now I feel kind of homeless.

This will pass. Its sure been a tough year, though.

[In awe of TV]

Kitty, I'm in the same boat. This will be the first Christmas in 10 years where I'll be finding myself alone and it's making me feel sad. My kids are scattered on each coast and I have no other family. I usually spend Christmas with my daughter somewhere tropical, but this year it's not in the cards. No plan for this year, it will just be me and my little doggie.

[Bonnevie]

as a single mother whose son had to split Christmas holidays with his father, I got used to being alone years ago. As such, I was happy when the holiday season was over. Being in health care, I would always volunteer to work those holidays. This year my son should be around for both holidays....next year, who knows...I'll probably be back to looking forward to the holidays ending or perhaps next year I'll try to find some way to volunteer for something....but my dogs will keep me company no matter what.

[kittygilchrist]

Originally Posted by lhasalady

I'm feeling kind of sad about the Holidays too. I am closing on my home up north on Fri. and don't close on my new home in TV until Dec. 2. The movers came today and loaded up my belongings. So here I sit in an empty house knowing that I have to be out of here in a couple of days. In between closings I will be staying with my girlfriend and her family and will have Thanksgiving with them before driving to Florida. Even my little dogs will be in the kennel until then. I don't want to leave them there but my friend has 3 big dogs of her own. I feel out of place, lonely and scared.

I used to love the holidays but now that my husband has passed away I really don't care about them. At least my daughter, who lives in another state, will be with me for Christmas when I move to TV.

I really can't wait to be settled in my new home and I am super excited about TV but right now I feel kind of homeless.

This will pass. Its sure been a tough year, though.

transitions like this are so difficult. I want you to know that you can make new friends quickly who care deeply. Moving was extremely difficult for me for reasons hard to articulate while yours are obvious. scattering the puppies, the belongings, where your pillow is, and having lost your love. oh my.
Take heart, there is a caring community here...
Kitty

[kittygilchrist]

Originally Posted by Bonnevie

as a single mother whose son had to split Christmas holidays with his father, I got used to being alone years ago. As such, I was happy when the holiday season was over. Being in health care, I would always volunteer to work those holidays. This year my son should be around for both holidays....next year, who knows...I'll probably be back to looking forward to the holidays ending or perhaps next year I'll try to find some way to volunteer for something....but my dogs will keep me company no matter what.

oK, Jackie, however you spell it, you are going to be so popular I doubt you will spend a future holiday season wondering what to do. Happy for you that your son is demanding you this year. too bad, I would have conscripted you to host a single party.
hey why don't you do that? have a singles Christmas party?
really, totally want to come do that at your place...(after 12/12, selfishly.)
Kitty

[kittygilchrist]

Originally Posted by In awe of TV

Kitty, I'm in the same boat. This will be the first Christmas in 10 years where I'll be finding myself alone and it's making me feel sad. My kids are scattered on each coast and I have no other family. I usually spend Christmas with my daughter somewhere tropical, but this year it's not in the cards. No plan for this year, it will just be me and my little doggie.

So do you live in TV? If you do, you won't be spending the holiday alone, promise.
K.

[DianeM]

Families change and so do our holidays. Some years they are jubilant and other years they suck. Unfortunately, that is the cycle of life. When alone, try to plan something nice for yourself - even if it's a day in jammies with the remote and stupid movies. The specific holiday - Thanksgiving/Chanukah/Christmas/New Year's are just squares on a calendar some years and when we cross that day off, the next day starts. If you need to have a good cry for yourself, that's ok - it's your right to feel the way you feel.

[kittygilchrist]

Originally Posted by DianeM

Families change and so do our holidays. Some years they are jubilant and other years they suck. Unfortunately, that is the cycle of life. When alone, try to plan something nice for yourself - even if it's a day in jammies with the remote and stupid movies. The specific holiday - Thanksgiving/Chanukah/Christmas/New Year's are just squares on a calendar some years and when we cross that day off, the next day starts. If you need to have a good cry for yourself, that's ok - it's your right to feel the way you feel.

I love your post, Diane. I do jammies under the comforter, with and without furry friends, about every night! mostly football...but stupid movies are good too.

[Steve & Deanna]

It's so sad to hear of people alone during upcoming Holidays. My wife and I (almost 47 years) talk about that occasionally and I think either one of us would be devastated whenever that will happen. Hopefully, you can find some peace and good times with either family or friends or at Church events. We wish you all the best.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by kittygilchrist

I love your post, Diane. I do jammies under the comforter, with and without furry friends, about every night! mostly football...but stupid movies are good too.

Sometimes you need to watch the sappy Lifetime ones too.

[DianeM]

You know .... sometimes being by oneself is not the worst thing on the planet. We all have the Norman Rockwell picture of holidays in our mindset but, let's be honest, that's not reality. Sometimes it's okay not to pretend to be into it.

[manaboutown]

For several years I went on singles trips over the holidays. Some of those trips resulted in some of the the most memorable experiences of my life. I retain some friends from those trips all around the USA, a couple of Canadians and an Australian.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by manaboutown

For several years I went on singles trips over the holidays. Some of those trips resulted in some of the the most memorable experiences of my life. I retain some friends from those trips all around the USA, a couple of Canadians and an Australian.

That's awesome. I've thought of that myself and never had the guts to do it.