[Velvet]

Originally Posted by kathyspear

I expect there are more children here right now because so many public schools around the country are closed. Good time to come down and visit the grandparents, get out of the cold up north. Remote schooling can be done from grandma's guest room as easily as back home.

If the teachers ever agree to go back to work the kids will go home. This too shall pass.

kathy

Yes, as long as they stay no more than the 30 days in total per year if they are under 19 ... all is good. Nice time to visit.

[njbchbum]

Originally Posted by mixsonci

I noticed that a lot of the people who get into trouble and still live with their parents are in their 40s and even 50s, it's not always the younger ones who live with parents

And don't forget their parents who seem to have their own share of issues!

[Eg_cruz]

Originally Posted by mgkw1

We moved here to be in a 55+ community. I realize children in college or even just out of school need a place to live. My issue is with the children of all ages that abuse the generosity of their parents. How many time do we hear of these children of villagers being arrested for abuse. dui. assault. I say ban them from living in the villages. And as for the kindhearted grandparents that are raising their grandchildren. Please move to a family community. I know this is going to upset people but I am at the age that I don't care anymore. Most age restricted places limit the amount of time you can have visitors. Some do not allow rentals past 6 months. They limit non resident pool time to 10 am to noon. I have raised my family and want to enjoy my retirement

You speak as if no one over the age of 55 here in The Villages gets DUI, because they do all the time, as if 55 and over don’t do drugs...because they do a lot here in The Villages. The spousal abuse in The Villages is high here. And FYI 20% of Villages are under 55 they had to do this because The Villages is NOT and PRIVATE 55 and over....maybe you should go look for a private community if you don’t want to be around people under the age of 55 because The Villages is not a private community.

[PPLEPEU]

Originally Posted by John41

...but know of bad situations elsewhere especially in the new section near Wildwood, one of the most dangerous cities in Florida.

I’m not sure where you heard Wildwood is so dangerous, but that’s not correct at all. It barely made the top 100.

Most Dangerous Cities In Florida For 2021

[mlmarr1]

Rules... gee our nation has rules that are not enforced.. 55 plus community not able too either..just relax

[MandoMan]

Originally Posted by mgkw1

We moved here to be in a 55+ community. I realize children in college or even just out of school need a place to live. My issue is with the children of all ages that abuse the generosity of their parents. How many time do we hear of these children of villagers being arrested for abuse. dui. assault. I say ban them from living in the villages. And as for the kindhearted grandparents that are raising their grandchildren. Please move to a family community. I know this is going to upset people but I am at the age that I don't care anymore. Most age restricted places limit the amount of time you can have visitors. Some do not allow rentals past 6 months. They limit non resident pool time to 10 am to noon. I have raised my family and want to enjoy my retirement

I hear you, and I’m sympathetic. However. There are people living here who are a lot older than we are and who may not be in good health or may have mobility issues. My dad is a widower of 92 and lives far away, but I’d love it if my little sister would move in with him and make him a meal or two and give him company and conversation and all that. That’s often the case here. I’ll bet there are thousands of people here who don’t say a word to anyone most days. I’m very active here, and I talk with lots of people, but I used to live that way, in silence. Grown children sometimes move in to care for their aging parents. It’s much cheaper than putting them in a nursing home, and for many, it’s a better situation. It’s also sometimes self-sacrificing.

Some grown children have never left home for various reasons. Often they wish they could have, but they didn’t. There are even many famous people around the country who lived with their parents until their parents died. Some of these children have Down Syndrome or some other physical or mental condition that requires parental care. Imagine elderly parents who have cared for this sort of child for many decades reading your post. How do they feel? Was this how they had planned to spend their lives?

Then there are the grown children who just don’t fit in our society, who have criminal problems, or were poor students, or who can’t hold down a job. That’s not what we want for our kids, and kids like this may be an embarrassment or a disgrace, but what are we going to do? Do we tell them to go live on the streets somewhere? Do we tell them to go off and die? Our children? It’s heartbreaking.

Then there are the grown kids living here who are drug addicts. Again, people don’t want their kids to do drugs, but are parents to kick them out if they come home for help, or sell their homes in The Villages so they can provide for their children somewhere where they won’t offend you?

I’ve seen a number of young kids here in the past few weeks, but generally I see hardly any. I don’t have grandchildren, and I have no urge to have any, but I know I was crazy about my grandparents, and one of the happiest times of my life was getting to live with them for a couple months one summer. I also know that for my own family, vacations meant flying five of us from Pennsylvania to Colorado or California for a week in the summer and a week at Christmas, if we could swing it. It could be exhausting for everyone, and we had to save all year to manage it, but we all loved it anyway. Would you deny the tens of thousands of grandparents here the right to have their kids and grandkids visit on vacations? This isn’t a nursing home.

As for the pools, I haven’t yet been in any, except my own, but I haven’t seen any with more than a handful of people—more often, none. Maybe I see them at the wrong time. A handful of happy children at a pool doesn’t seem like much of a problem, and I dare say they bring smiles and good memories to many of us.

Again, I understand you, as I’m quite a curmudgeon, but situations can be difficult, and it is also a blessing to have kids who want to visit. We have to make allowances for both the suffering and the pleasure of others.

[Tmarkwald]

Originally Posted by mgkw1

We moved here to be in a 55+ community. I realize children in college or even just out of school need a place to live. My issue is with the children of all ages that abuse the generosity of their parents. How many time do we hear of these children of villagers being arrested for abuse. dui. assault. I say ban them from living in the villages. And as for the kindhearted grandparents that are raising their grandchildren. Please move to a family community. I know this is going to upset people but I am at the age that I don't care anymore. Most age restricted places limit the amount of time you can have visitors. Some do not allow rentals past 6 months. They limit non resident pool time to 10 am to noon. I have raised my family and want to enjoy my retirement

OK, so you've raised your family and want to enjoy your retirement. I get it. You don't want visitors.

[Tmarkwald]

My twin sons will be graduate students next year at UCF. They will be busy with their film careers. They will be here this summer. You won't see them and they won't see you. Live with it.

[lydia321]

Perhaps you haven’t noticed how many people over 55 get arrested for bad behavior. Spouse abuse. Drinking and driving. Hitting people on bicycles and leaving them for dead.

[FredJacobs]

Originally Posted by vintageogauge

I think you might have moved to the wrong community. We have several owners whose adult children and grandchildren live with them near our home and have not had any bad experiences with them. You can't ban children or grandchildren 19 or over from living here, you should have known that when your purchased, if not you didn't do your homework. As far as how long visitors can stay or rentals beyond 6 months, once again you didn't do your homework. You made your bed now you have to sleep in it or go find a new one and good luck with that.

Unless they changed the rules, when I moved in 10 years ago, there were rules regarding "children" under age 30. They had to use designated "Family Pools", could not stay in the community for more than 30 days, etc. The rules were rarely enforced unless someone complained.

[scottiesrgreat@gmail.com]

I moved here - not retired yet - still working from home. I thought I would be one of the ‘young ones’ :-) :-) but come to find out - we have several home owners (husband and wife) in their 40s. So instead of being a ‘young’ one - I am one of the older folks in the neighborhood. Also, I know of some older folks - really not that old maybe late 60s or early 70s - who live next door or very close to their children (maybe the parent bought the the home for their kids .... could be). I wish I knew there were ways to get around the “55+ rule” - back before I turned 55+. All I can say is - there must be a million ways to get around the 55+ *”rule”*. I know nothing is perfect - but golly, some may think I am weird - but, I would love to live in a 100% 55+ community (of course - I am all for those occasional, well behaved :-) younger visitors). :-)

[Ele201]

Originally Posted by Velvet

Yes, as long as they stay no more than the 30 days in total per year if they are under 19 ... all is good. Nice time to visit.

I’m just wondering, what can be done if that rule is broken? What recourse is available if there are children staying beyond 30 days?

[bowlingal]

MGKW1 I agree with you 100%

[jbrown132]

Originally Posted by mgkw1

We moved here to be in a 55+ community. I realize children in college or even just out of school need a place to live. My issue is with the children of all ages that abuse the generosity of their parents. How many time do we hear of these children of villagers being arrested for abuse. dui. assault. I say ban them from living in the villages. And as for the kindhearted grandparents that are raising their grandchildren. Please move to a family community. I know this is going to upset people but I am at the age that I don't care anymore. Most age restricted places limit the amount of time you can have visitors. Some do not allow rentals past 6 months. They limit non resident pool time to 10 am to noon. I have raised my family and want to enjoy my retirement

I’ll bet you at 9:00 PM there are a lot more 65+ year olds driving home hammered than there are younger people on the roads. I’ll also beat you that older people leaving Cane Garden, Palmer CC, or any of the other happy hours in TV could never pass a breathalyzer test. Remember “The Villages is a drinking place that has a golf problem”

[richs631]

Originally Posted by mgkw1

we moved here to be in a 55+ community. I realize children in college or even just out of school need a place to live. My issue is with the children of all ages that abuse the generosity of their parents. How many time do we hear of these children of villagers being arrested for abuse. Dui. Assault. I say ban them from living in the villages. And as for the kindhearted grandparents that are raising their grandchildren. Please move to a family community. I know this is going to upset people but i am at the age that i don't care anymore. Most age restricted places limit the amount of time you can have visitors. Some do not allow rentals past 6 months. They limit non resident pool time to 10 am to noon. I have raised my family and want to enjoy my retirement

stop reading that online rag. Its all negative villages.