[Dreamer61]

Congrats Yorio! We to are in the last week of decluttering, packing and trying to stay sane through it all. We have been blessed to have many friends help as both our backs strength is almost none. Grace's advice was great as was many others. Thanks everybody! If possible hire help or get family or friends to help. I cannot weed through old photos yet. I have family who is storing them for me until I can. In this last week I've experienced the "are you sure about this" feelings. When they pop up, I quickly dismiss them and redirect my thoughts. It is very reassuring to know that many others have made this same decision and yet turned out to be a good one or as some say the best decision they've made! So hang in there and you'll be enjoying your new life before you know it!!

[Nursebarb1]

Oh, my, I feel your pain. I am in the process of doing the same, although we are taking a little longer to get it done. Closing on the house in TV soon, but "snowbirding" this winter to test the waters.

[mac9]

We moved here 7 years ago. Our rule when selling our house in NJ was the 5 second rule: if you couldn't answer where it would be used within 5 seconds, it went into the trash, donate, or yard sale pile. Haven't regretted a thing that we didn't bring here! It's an exciting time. Do try to enjoy it.

[Lbmb24101]

Yorio

We just went thru the exact same experience ( we sold in 1 day and gave over 15 bags to Goodwill and the Vets)

And still....brought too much stuff here.

But LymyPug, i could not part w my photos, not even if they are digitally saved! Wow, very brave on your part!

[Bavarian]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

Do NOT bring more than a couple REALLY fancy outfits. You will still be asked to weddings and funerals, keep that in mind...but if you bring the kind of clothes that you wear out to dinner THERE, people will know you are just off the airplane...here.

You aren't going to cut your grass, so leave the mower behind, but you may need a rake, and a few garden tools, IF you like to garden.

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You still need formal wear for cruises. On our World Cruise, we had some twenty six formal nights, I just wore my Tux, but my lovely Lady needed different dresses for rotating thru. Need them also for Assembly functions.

Some of us may mow the lawn, but will buy new small mower, I don't need my riding mower.

[getdul981]

Yorio, when we met you on the cruise, I thought you had already moved. Glad to hear you have sold your house and getting moved permanently. We have all gone through it and it's not easy, but you can do it. If you are like most of us, you will get rid of everything you think you can, but once you get here, you find you should have gotten rid of twice as much. We have gotten rid of more stuff since we got here and still need to get rid of more. Good luck and hang in there.

[kittygilchrist]

I had night terrors, palpitations and panic attacks during mortgage fiasco and moving. I did not have a sedative, but I wish I had. It's difficult to organize priorities and execute plans when you are under extreme stress. The body is in fight or flight and the brain is a goner.
Suggest asking md for a sedative, esp with heart condition. Sleeping ok?

[Yorio]

Glad to note from other posts that we are not alone. Every big move has its dilemma. One area I am keenly aware is the relationship with your partner. Whoever is more enthusiastic about moving to TV will be the recipient of a punching back I believe. First of all you should never tell her to do certain things related to the move especially those areas related to clearing stuff. Even a small comment will touch off avalanche of comments. Let her go at her pace. I told her that I feel like being picked on every which way. If her pace is much slower than you, must keep one's mouth shut. Otherwise our new life in TV will be miserable. The whole point of the move is to start a new fun life in TV but if our relations are broken before the move, what's the point. We come this far together so this shouldn't be the straw that broke the camel's back. She is doing her thing going to luncheons with friends for farewells. That's a safety valve. It's home stretch I think but hope it is over soon.

[CFrance]

Originally Posted by Bavarian

You still need formal wear for cruises. On our World Cruise, we had some twenty six formal nights, I just wore my Tux, but my lovely Lady needed different dresses for rotating thru. Need them also for Assembly functions.

Some of us may mow the lawn, but will buy new small mower, I don't need my riding mower.

Okay, but if one gets to buy a new mower, the other gets to buy new formal wear. So I'm with Gracie--bring two fancy items down and go shopping for the rest!

[Bavarian]

The problem we have is not having children to leave things to. But we bought a big enough house, we hope, to take the most valuable. Habitat Restore is getting a lot of building supplies, insulations, screws, nails, wood, etc. Giving some to charity and trying to sell some. EBAY a mixed experience. Sold an old helicopter model my Father got in the early '50s when he worked for Piasecki. Latest pieces, one set of oriental candles sold for starting bid of $0.99 cost more to ship. Local website like this has free classified, so advertised some of my parents old bedroom furniture. Some nibbles, or will be donated either thru recommendation of Father at Church or Thrift store.
Still working on basement and attic as we won't have them.
Have not listed house here yet as Realtor said it had to be empty first. So no pressure yet to make the final move.

[Bavarian]

Originally Posted by CFrance

Okay, but if one gets to buy a new mower, the other gets to buy new formal wear. So I'm with Gracie--bring two fancy items down and go shopping for the rest!

If I get a new mower, I would buy electric battery one, probably Neutron.
May keep lawn service though sine then we don't have to worry about landscape when we are away on trips. TBD.

My lovely Lady already plans to take all clothes, especially since Winters are cold in Central Florida.

[Yorio]

Greg. I remember you from the cruise. In fact I went to your old hang out at Pennecamp. Now I know exactly where you were before you left us to St. James. Will touch base again when we finally become a Froggie.

[Yorio]

I just came back from having lunch to say farewell to my friends. I may be a little tipsy but it was a great lunch. Every one drunk and everyone is thinking about becoming a Froggie somewhere. It is sad to leave friends especially our group of ROMEO(retired old men eating out). But, we can't hang on to the past and move on. They said they'll come to TV and I have a place to stay when we return to Virginia again. There are friends who want to keep you here saying you'll regret the move. It's too hot in Florida. You won't have the cosmopolitan life like you have it here. There won't be great restaurants like you have it here. They mean well but one shouldn't be swayed by those comments. Perhaps some of what they say is true but at least I don't have to shovel snow any more or ears hurting when we go out. Don't need too many heavy clothes unless you want to go to Alaska. Less stuff to keep in the closet. Yes, I will miss my friends but I have new friends in TV. We are coming whether you like it or not.

[rubicon]

thrower/hoarder scenario exist in most families > Mine is a saver/hoarder never know when your going to need it type. Plus she was reared in a large family so buying in quantity is a way of life.

We deposited truck load after truck load of stuff. Gave away expensive furniture, etc.

But that's what we are suppose to be doing ....its the liquidation period of our lives. to my wife it is still a tough sale but she is getting better.

One poster stated she shredded a lot of paper. We did too but I used it as packing material when we boxed up our belongings.

One poster said don't get carried away with too much formal wear. Again I kept one suit and two blazers and I have used them sparingly.

The big test for my wife will come this fall when we tackle some of the stuff in the attic that she felt we just needed. My rule if we haven't used it in a year it out the door because as a poster mentioned it is n ot nice to leave that mess for the kids.

[kittygilchrist]

Thanks for an honest post that resonates with so many. I'm breathing a prayer for you today as I really went into a tailspin moving. The good part about being single is that I get to make all the decisions and only myself to argue with, which is also the bad part, there's no one to reason with me. Gave away half my stuff before moving...should have made it 3/4ths.

If I had it to do over I would have brought less of everything, especially furniture. I would bring an air mattress, a card table, a portable chair, two boxes of clothing, a box of shoes, laptop, a few pictures, office file, jewelry, a few tools, and kitchenware.

About your friends, they obviously want to keep you, and they haven't drunk the koolaid as we say, of believing in a better life in TV. Give them your stuff, and if they visit you and decide to live here, maybe they'll bring your stuff and you'll get to see it again.