[Bellavita]

I guess I don’t understand why this is an issue.

Originally Posted by AbbyPye

Since my partner Pat and I settled within The Villages, we have been embracing what this community has to offer from its activities to the people that live here. And although we are ever so pleased to mingle with others that we meet day in and day out, we noticed a common thread when others speak to us that still remains since we first came out here some two year before.

When we meet others that are coupled, many (not all) of these married folks tend to tell us (whenever we ask about or not with the emphasis on the latter) about their adult kids with a deep notion about their grandkids! They mention what their kids and their partners/spouses are involved with, and give that heavy emphasis on their grandkids, either with them having them visit from up north/back east, or heading up north/back east to visit them.

When we first mentioned this issue in this forum some time ago, we thought that hearing about their antics would eventually come to pass. What occurred was the total opposite, especially when a major holiday is coming in the near future! Although we do respect that these couples are indeed proud of these grandkids that are part of their life as well as keeping the family legacy alive and well, this notion of hearing this unsolicited news is getting rather long in the tooth!

Has anyone ever experienced a situation that was explained within this post? That is, does anyone encounter those that are coupled up that constantly dote on their grandkids, even though they may reside a long distance away?

Please let me know so I won’t think that I am just dreaming up this scenario!

Many thanks!

[KenLee100]

Originally Posted by AbbyPye

Since my partner Pat and I settled within The Villages, we have been embracing what this community has to offer from its activities to the people that live here. And although we are ever so pleased to mingle with others that we meet day in and day out, we noticed a common thread when others speak to us that still remains since we first came out here some two year before.

When we meet others that are coupled, many (not all) of these married folks tend to tell us (whenever we ask about or not with the emphasis on the latter) about their adult kids with a deep notion about their grandkids! They mention what their kids and their partners/spouses are involved with, and give that heavy emphasis on their grandkids, either with them having them visit from up north/back east, or heading up north/back east to visit them.

When we first mentioned this issue in this forum some time ago, we thought that hearing about their antics would eventually come to pass. What occurred was the total opposite, especially when a major holiday is coming in the near future! Although we do respect that these couples are indeed proud of these grandkids that are part of their life as well as keeping the family legacy alive and well, this notion of hearing this unsolicited news is getting rather long in the tooth!

Has anyone ever experienced a situation that was explained within this post? That is, does anyone encounter those that are coupled up that constantly dote on their grandkids, even though they may reside a long distance away?

Please let me know so I won’t think that I am just dreaming up this scenario!

Many thanks!

My wife and I have 4 sons and 24 grandchildren. If we are talking about antique cars or baseball you would never know. Stay away from topics that include family or a reason for making the world a better place and you should be ok.

[JanetH]

Originally Posted by Bugface

I don’t think I completely understood till I had my own grandchildren. I certainly love and admire my adult children but I ADORE my grandchildren. I think when you feel such overwhelming love for people in your life, you can’t help but talk about them - it just brings you happiness to even think about them.

I’m gonna talk about my grandkids . Most times not for long . Hey I’m not for everyone but my grandkids are my greatest blessing .

[Laker14]

this thread reminds me of the two or three people who would include, in their Christmas card mailing, a two page essay on all of the amazing accomplishments of each family member. "Timmy continues to excel in his Boy Scout exploits, earning merit badges in...blah blah blah"
One year, as a joke, I included one of those and made up (well they weren't all made up, some actually happened but I chose to hide those events in a group of made up bad things) a bunch of unfortunate things my kids had accomplished in the past year. "Mikey continues to get caught shop-lifting adult movies from the local smut shop"....I thought it was hysterical. Nobody sent me their glory reports after that.

[rustyp]

Originally Posted by AbbyPye

Since my partner Pat and I settled within The Villages, we have been embracing what this community has to offer from its activities to the people that live here. And although we are ever so pleased to mingle with others that we meet day in and day out, we noticed a common thread when others speak to us that still remains since we first came out here some two year before.

When we meet others that are coupled, many (not all) of these married folks tend to tell us (whenever we ask about or not with the emphasis on the latter) about their adult kids with a deep notion about their grandkids! They mention what their kids and their partners/spouses are involved with, and give that heavy emphasis on their grandkids, either with them having them visit from up north/back east, or heading up north/back east to visit them.

When we first mentioned this issue in this forum some time ago, we thought that hearing about their antics would eventually come to pass. What occurred was the total opposite, especially when a major holiday is coming in the near future! Although we do respect that these couples are indeed proud of these grandkids that are part of their life as well as keeping the family legacy alive and well, this notion of hearing this unsolicited news is getting rather long in the tooth!

Has anyone ever experienced a situation that was explained within this post? That is, does anyone encounter those that are coupled up that constantly dote on their grandkids, even though they may reside a long distance away?

Please let me know so I won’t think that I am just dreaming up this scenario!

Many thanks!

What are you trying to accomplish - change the entire population of TV ? You have started 6 threads on this exact subject thus far. Load pictures of a dog into your phone. When confronted with grandchildren talk whip out your dog pics.Fight fire with fire. Reading through your past posts some items just don't add up - example your second post on TOTV you signed as PAT. In this post you refer to PAT as your partner. What are the odds both of you are Pat's ? Is it Patrick and Patricia ?

[bjansson]

Originally Posted by Two Bills

I find the subject of grandchildren a far better subject than a persons latest medical problem or procedure.
I have found that picking ones nose, farting loudly, and scratching my nuts, quickly finishes any undesired conversations.
Billy no mates.

[birdawg]

I’ve found that I like dogs better than kids. But keep them both off my lawn. Let’s start a dog walking post. 🤪

[msilagy]

People miss their children and grandchildren so they love showing pictures and mentioning them. If you don't want to partake just excuse yourself from the conversation and begin a conversation about what interests you, which by the way others might not cherish. I think this was a ridiculous post. Not only that fact but your intention. My suggestion would be to start a club for couples without children! That would most likely solve your issue.

[crash]

Originally Posted by golfing eagles

This a post that I will just have to bite my tongue and ignore.

I am with you.

[Ele201]

Originally Posted by Laker14

this thread reminds me of the two or three people who would include, in their Christmas card mailing, a two page essay on all of the amazing accomplishments of each family member. "Timmy continues to excel in his Boy Scout exploits, earning merit badges in...blah blah blah"
One year, as a joke, I included one of those and made up (well they weren't all made up, some actually happened but I chose to hide those events in a group of made up bad things) a bunch of unfortunate things my kids had accomplished in the past year. "Mikey continues to get caught shop-lifting adult movies from the local smut shop"....I thought it was hysterical. Nobody sent me their glory reports after that.

Haha! Yes I’ve received those long letters too, tucked into a Christmas card. Not too many of these though, thankfully!

[Greg L]

Maybe it is a father thing but I definitely love my children more than my grandchildren. I never bring up the subject of either tho unless you are foolish enough to ask.

[Cobullymom]

Originally Posted by AbbyPye

Since my partner Pat and I settled within The Villages, we have been embracing what this community has to offer from its activities to the people that live here. And although we are ever so pleased to mingle with others that we meet day in and day out, we noticed a common thread when others speak to us that still remains since we first came out here some two year before.

When we meet others that are coupled, many (not all) of these married folks tend to tell us (whenever we ask about or not with the emphasis on the latter) about their adult kids with a deep notion about their grandkids! They mention what their kids and their partners/spouses are involved with, and give that heavy emphasis on their grandkids, either with them having them visit from up north/back east, or heading up north/back east to visit them.

When we first mentioned this issue in this forum some time ago, we thought that hearing about their antics would eventually come to pass. What occurred was the total opposite, especially when a major holiday is coming in the near future! Although we do respect that these couples are indeed proud of these grandkids that are part of their life as well as keeping the family legacy alive and well, this notion of hearing this unsolicited news is getting rather long in the tooth!

Has anyone ever experienced a situation that was explained within this post? That is, does anyone encounter those that are coupled up that constantly dote on their grandkids, even though they may reside a long distance away?

Please let me know so I won’t think that I am just dreaming up this scenario!

Many thanks!

What's your point? Are you so bothered with this it's affecting your life? Do you think it will be read and everyone will stop talking about their grandkids? I don't have any, but someone being proud of kids and grandkids doesn't disturb me. There is so many other things that are truly disturbing to be concerned about...smdh

[motherflippinpicker]

Most people live a long way from their kids and grandkids; talking about them keeps them close. They cherish their family. That's what life is truly all about.

[seecapecod]

Originally Posted by AbbyPye

Since my partner Pat and I settled within The Villages, we have been embracing what this community has to offer from its activities to the people that live here. And although we are ever so pleased to mingle with others that we meet day in and day out, we noticed a common thread when others speak to us that still remains since we first came out here some two year before.

When we meet others that are coupled, many (not all) of these married folks tend to tell us (whenever we ask about or not with the emphasis on the latter) about their adult kids with a deep notion about their grandkids! They mention what their kids and their partners/spouses are involved with, and give that heavy emphasis on their grandkids, either with them having them visit from up north/back east, or heading up north/back east to visit them.

When we first mentioned this issue in this forum some time ago, we thought that hearing about their antics would eventually come to pass. What occurred was the total opposite, especially when a major holiday is coming in the near future! Although we do respect that these couples are indeed proud of these grandkids that are part of their life as well as keeping the family legacy alive and well, this notion of hearing this unsolicited news is getting rather long in the tooth!

Has anyone ever experienced a situation that was explained within this post? That is, does anyone encounter those that are coupled up that constantly dote on their grandkids, even though they may reside a long distance away?

Please let me know so I won’t think that I am just dreaming up this scenario!

Many thanks!

Perhaps you don’t have grandchildren? I would say you are hearing pride in their stories and some sadness about the decision to move away from them. As a Grammy of 5 ages 4-18 it’s tough to miss attending their games, dance recitals, school events.

[Pat2015]

How about just not reading or posting threads about kids and/or grandkids, and hang out with people like yourself? The rest of us will carry on!