[Number 10 GI]

Originally Posted by wsachs

It was 'suggested' that since YOU are not handicapped, you could park somewhere close by and let someone who is REALLY handicapped use the spot. Then you could drive up and pick her up. What's wrong with that idea?

Because my wife wants to walk as much as possible, she doesn't want to be dropped off at the door and picked up there. It makes her feel like an invalid. She can walk limited distances such as from a handicapped space but not farther down in the parking lot.

[Nucky]

Originally Posted by hampton

THEN WHAT, why the threat

What AUTHORITY do you have to speak with me about anything to do with where my car is positioned on private property?

I would never threaten anyone, ever. I wonder why you took it that way?

[fdpaq0580]

Originally Posted by Number 10 GI

Because my wife wants to walk as much as possible, she doesn't want to be dropped off at the door and picked up there. It makes her feel like an invalid. She can walk limited distances such as from a handicapped space but not farther down in the parking lot.

Oh, my! She wants to walk as much as possible, so you choose possibly the closest place to park rather than allow her to get in another 50 to 100 steps. Do you have any idea how far she travels while shopping? She, apparently, does not require your help or assistance.
And being dropped off and picked up make her "feel like an invalid"? Funny that walking to and from the car in "handicapped parkin only" doesn't make her feel the same.
Well, it really isn't any of my business whether you really need to use the handicapped spaces, or just use it for convenience.

[Number 10 GI]

Originally Posted by fdpaq0580

Just a different point of view, if I may.
You are simply acting as your wife's chauffeur in your scenario. You could drop your wife at the door. It would be closer than handicapped parking. You could wait anywhere in the parking area since you are not accompanying her. You don't need that handicap spot. Let someone who really needs it have it. When your wife is done shopping she can call you and you can pick her up at the door. That way everyone wins.
By the way, your last sentence is threatening In a manner that indicates you recognize that you know you don't need or deserve the handicap spot. You seem also to recognize that it is yourself who has an indignant and self-righteous attitude that makes you so defensive about your abuse of handicap parking needs. You are are essentially an Uber, on call, driver. Handicap parking is not waiting stalls for Uber or taxies.

Did you not read where I stated my wife wants to do as much for herself as possible, she wants to walk from the car to the store and back if she can. She doesn't want to be dropped off and picked up. That is what she wants and I will park my car in a disabled spot to accommodate her regardless of what anyone else thinks we should do. When the wife can't walk from the handicapped space, I will drive her to the door and pick her up and not use a handicapped space to park when waiting for her.
I have no tolerance for busy bodies sticking their nose where it doesn't belong. My business is mine, not someone else's. Over the years I have learned that most people who have the need to mind other people's business need to clean their house first as it usually needs it far more than the person that they are criticizing. It is the epitome of disrespect and entitlement when you feel the need to tell everyone else how to live.
I have also learned that when I concern myself with my own life and ignore everyone else's, I have a much happier life.

[shut the front door]

Originally Posted by Number 10 GI

Did you not read where I stated my wife wants to do as much for herself as possible, she wants to walk from the car to the store and back if she can. She doesn't want to be dropped off and picked up. That is what she wants and I will park my car in a disabled spot to accommodate her regardless of what anyone else thinks we should do. When the wife can't walk from the handicapped space, I will drive her to the door and pick her up and not use a handicapped space to park when waiting for her.
I have no tolerance for busy bodies sticking their nose where it doesn't belong. My business is mine, not someone else's. Over the years I have learned that most people who have the need to mind other people's business need to clean their house first as it usually needs it far more than the person that they are criticizing. It is the epitome of disrespect and entitlement when you feel the need to tell everyone else how to live.
I have also learned that when I concern myself with my own life and ignore everyone else's, I have a much happier life.

I have found that you will never find a nosier population than in TV.
My daddy used to say "if you just worry about yourself, you'll have your hands full".
Just look at the hundreds of threads on this board in which people speculate about other's lives when it has zero impact on their own. Don't let the busybodies get to you. They have nothing more to do in their golden years than
sit on a message board and post 7.2 times a day.

[Blackbird45]

Originally Posted by wisbad1

I play golf, 9 holes when I’m able. So should I not golf what I can because I’m handicapped? People are mad because they can’t park close. Some get cards so they don’t get car dings.

My issue is that if you can play golf you can walk, my wife cannot walk. Handicap spots have extra room to get the person in and out of a wheelchair and do not have curbs. If my wife could walk, she would, but she can't.

[Bigbird59]

Originally Posted by fdpaq0580

IMHO,the only vehicle that should be in a handicap spot is one driven by a handicapped person. A handicapped person being chauffeured should be let off at the loading zone. The driver can park elsewhere and then be called to pickup the handicapped person at the loading zone.

And where are these “loading zones”. You must be thinking fire lane. Dumb idea.

[wfp113]

Many of them are mentally handicapped 😂😂.

[wisbad1]

Originally Posted by GizmoWhiskers

Some truth to that. Wondering when anxiety and depression fits the criteria for handicap parking? Had an aquaintance once that had one based on that. She was perfectly fine other wise. I guess a Dr. got it for her (?).

Look around every one is old, what do you expect

[wisbad1]

Originally Posted by Daddymac

90% Of the people here should not have a permit. I could have gotten a permit, and have a brother in a Wheelchair he is truly disabled. And when he comes here to visit and we go out, We can’t get a spot to park, Because the “OTHER DISABLED PERSON HAD TO “RUN” INTO THE STORE. And you all have seen them.. PLUS. The holder of the permit is NOT in the car, someone else is using it!!
It’s all Bull $hit.

Boo hoo, why don’t your brother get one for travelling?

[wisbad1]

Originally Posted by retiredguy123

I totally agree that it is not appropriate to confront people on the street. But, it is appropriate to question the legal process that allows almost anyone to get a handicap permit by just asking a medical doctor to sign a form. There should be an enforcement process to ensure that the permits are only issued to people who have a valid need for the permit. Medical doctors are not law enforcers, and they should not have the exclusive right or responsibility to issue permits. In my opinion, the current process is flawed.

No worse then some morons bringing a dog into a grocery store, disgusting

[fdpaq0580]

Originally Posted by wisbad1

No worse then some morons bringing a dog into a grocery store, disgusting

And sticking their noses (previously in some other dogs butt) in the fresh vegetable bins near the floor,sniffing and snorting the items on lower shelves or displays while owner is checking out other products and is blissfully unaware of their fake service dogs lack of service dog training and discipline.
But all that is for another great thread.

[Pairadocs]

Originally Posted by Number 10 GI

Because my wife wants to walk as much as possible, she doesn't want to be dropped off at the door and picked up there. It makes her feel like an invalid. She can walk limited distances such as from a handicapped space but not farther down in the parking lot.

That seems logical ! What does not seem to make sense, is when a driver lets off a person with mobility difficulties, then parks just yards away in the closest parking spaces for the disabled, and THEN when the person comes out of the store, restaurant, etc., starts the car, backs out, and proceeds to the curb to pick up the person.

[nancyre]

You are unaware of the WHY they may be there. I sometimes need to wait for my disabled husband, something he needs to do without me. But, I watch to see if someone needs the spot - if so I will vacate and circle the lot. The issue is that there are no designated pick-up / drop-off zones. When someone disabled comes out they may need immediate assistance to cross the lot. They may get disoriented if they don't see their car. When having a good day and there is a nearby spot we will park there. You do not know what their issue is, all disabilities are not visible. Everyone is NOT trying to game the system. Get out of the car and have what looks like a healthy individual collapse. You are not a mind reader.

[Pairadocs]

Originally Posted by threefootputt

I don’t think people question the legitimacy or are without empathy for those with handicaps, visible or otherwise. The whole issue centers around the person who knows what morally and ethically is right but chooses to ignore. Whether it’s at Publix, at a restaurant, boarding an airplane or anywhere else that “privilege” gets you to the head of the line, a small but arrogant few will find ways to circumvent the law, common courtesy and respect for others and make themselves the most important person in the room. They want the edge over others. The only solution is in one’s conscious.

So well stated, but have you noticed few of us on here ever get to the ROOT of the problem, I include myself. We often speak from what we have experienced and observed, that's what humans depend on to form ideas, opinions, philosophies. In some related ways, this is much like the abuse of "service dog" designations to "emotional support" pets of every kind description. It all went "viral" as the kids say, and is now possible to order, online, anything from a handicapped mirror tag (and you can even specify color if you are in a state or country not using the standard blue), to "vests" for the pet of those in such a fragile emotional state that they are not able to be in a restaurant or a store without the support of their animal. And yes, I agree that is a very tragic state of mind for anyone to have to bare, and only each of us can make the choice to judge or not judge. When I see a person in the hardware store, or grocery, or fast food location, cuddling their emotional support pet, I realized how judgmental my thoughts turned. Now I make a concerted effort to think "there but for the grace of God... and try to imagine what it would be like to not be able to go into a store to buy a light bulb without having an animal with you... thinking this way, I hope, keeps me a better person. If, LOL, I 'd been the person in the seat next to the peacock on that well publicized flight, I might have really had to fight my judgmental thoughts with all my might... LOL !