[springfield]

Not sure if this has happened to you or what is proper. I enjoy trying many of the wonderful exercise classes in TV. I usually go early to get a "good spot" where I can see what is going on. I went to one class very early. 15 minutes later, a person came in and told me that that was her spot. I offered to move but was told someone else always stands there.??? I go to exercise and feel good. I don't go to hear what I think of as grade school behavior.

[memason]

Originally Posted by springfield

Not sure if this has happened to you or what is proper. I enjoy trying many of the wonderful exercise classes in TV. I usually go early to get a "good spot" where I can see what is going on. I went to one class very early. 15 minutes later, a person came in and told me that that was her spot. I offered to move but was told someone else always stands there.??? I go to exercise and feel good. I don't go to hear what I think of as grade school behavior.

Don't be discouraged.... There are a few people in TV that have this entitlement mentality. I'm pretty sure there are no reserved spots in exercise classes. I know my wife has gone early several times to get a spot.

You could just say "sorry, it's my spot today". Unfortunately, most nice people don't do that and just move to wherever....

Hang in there!

[2BNTV]

Originally Posted by memason

Don't be discouraged.... There are a few people in TV that have this entitlement mentality. I'm pretty sure there are no reserved spots in exercise classes. I know my wife has gone early several times to get a spot.

You could just say "sorry, it's my spot today". Unfortunately, most nice people don't do that and just move to wherever....

Hang in there!

I agree. Reminds me of the thread of people reserving chairs at events for people who were not there yet!!!!!!!

[Uptown Girl]

Originally Posted by springfield

Not sure if this has happened to you or what is proper. I enjoy trying many of the wonderful exercise classes in TV. I usually go early to get a "good spot" where I can see what is going on. I went to one class very early. 15 minutes later, a person came in and told me that that was her spot. I offered to move but was told someone else always stands there.??? I go to exercise and feel good. I don't go to hear what I think of as grade school behavior.

See, that's the hook about being 'politically correct' in this day and age... the jerks out there who press hard, depend on you being politically correct, apologetic, polite (or intimidated) and giving them what they want. You gotta know when to abandon that and creatively fight fire with fire.

Being a Chicago girl, I would have applauded if you smiled a BIG smile, waved your arms in welcome and said loud enough for others to hear," You want to work out in THIS spot? Well, come on Darling, you can squeeze yourself in here and share this space with me, I don't mind!"
Then, working out with abandon, give her just enough space for an angel to dance on a pin.
Meantime, you eyeball the room and decide on a better spot to be next time... preferably away from the witch. (whom you will continue to smile very big at, and even wave to....It will annoy the hell out of her.)

[angiefox10]

Originally Posted by Uptown Girl

See, that's the hook about being 'politically correct' in this day and age... the jerks out there who press hard, depend on you being politically correct, apologetic, polite and giving them what they want. You gotta know when to abandon that and creatively fight fire with fire.

Being a Chicago girl, I would have applauded if you smiled a BIG smile, waved your arms in welcome and said loud enough for others to hear," You want to work out in THIS spot? Well, come on Darling, you can squeeze yourself in here and share this space with me, I don't mind!"
Then, working out with abandon, give her just enough space for an angel to dance on a pin.
Meantime, you eyeball the room and decide on a better spot to be next time... preferably away from the witch. (whom you will continue to smile very big at....It will annoy the hell out of her.)

[mac9]

Being a South Jersey gal, I would have said "Glad to hear it's such a good spot. I'm sure gonna enjoy it!" Anything more would be understood by the "adorable" look on my face!
And I'm not normally like this. I prefer to live and let live until pushed to be otherwise.

[JenAjd]

My comment might be..."REALLY? I didn't see YOUR name on it!!!" I've had folks say, when I go to the pool, something about it being "THEIR" pool!! REALLY??? Then why are we getting charged the amenity fees then????

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by JenAjd

My comment might be..."REALLY? I didn't see YOUR name on it!!!" I've had folks say, when I go to the pool, something about it being "THEIR" pool!! REALLY??? Then why are we getting charged the amenity fees then????

Weren't taught to say things like that. In Ohio, our moms would have smacked us for talking out like that, and so people who are raised like that are often pushed around here and it makes me mad. BUT, I would feel guilty and wrong speaking up.

I don't like people to win through intimidation like the space savers usually do.

I wish my mom was here to see this kind of thing. She might have changed her mind.

I did not mean to say you are wrong Jen, it just is that we were all raised with different sets of expectation and some of them are regional.

I think basically people are the same no matter where they come from.

But that kind of pushiness makes me want to bite when they think they can save a place. I left an art class at Colony because of that kind of behavior.

[ajbrown]

Originally Posted by springfield

Not sure if this has happened to you or what is proper. I enjoy trying many of the wonderful exercise classes in TV. I usually go early to get a "good spot" where I can see what is going on. I went to one class very early. 15 minutes later, a person came in and told me that that was her spot. I offered to move but was told someone else always stands there.??? I go to exercise and feel good. I don't go to hear what I think of as grade school behavior.

Was it the instructor and assistant ?

It is sad things like that happen. Although uncommon, it happened to my wife last year. In a crowded class a "big nasty" man (her description) came in long after she was there and told her that was his spot and stood right there until she moved. It was upsetting for her and really aggravated me, but life goes on....

I am not sure how I would handle as it is not worth a physical fight IMO. Knowing my personality, I suspect I would LOL, then in a very serious face, say .....sorry, I thought you were joking....

Maybe followed by, ".....tell you what, you go tell the instructer or folks at the front desk I am in your spot. If they tell me to move, I will.

As everyone knows a small percentge of <insert word here> exist everywhere. It is a shame we cannot tag them so everyone would see them coming.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by ajbrown

Was it the instructor and assistant ?

It is sad things like that happen. Although uncommon, it happened to my wife last year. In a crowded class a "big nasty" man (her description) came in long after she was there and told her that was his spot and stood right there until she moved. It was upsetting for her and really aggravated me, but life goes on....

I am not sure how I would handle as it is not worth a physical fight IMO. Knowing my personality, I suspect I would LOL, then in a very serious face, say .....sorry, I thought you were joking....

Maybe followed by, ".....tell you what, you go tell the instructer or folks at the front desk I am in your spot. If they tell me to move, I will.

As everyone knows a small percentge of <insert word here> exist everywhere. It is a shame we cannot tag them so everyone would see them coming.

Now that is an excellent and non combative comeback. I will remember it...

But probably will be to big of a sissy to actually SAY it.

[swrinfla]

What frankly gets to me is that the attitude that "That's my space" is becoming more prevalent here in TV, a.k.a. Paradise!

I guess it's one of the penalties we must pay for being "Florida's Friendlest Hometown!" 85,000 or so of us!

Where some 96%-99% get along famously with one and all!

Where another 2%-3% hang on to the prejudices and "me, too" outlooks of their previous life!

Sadly, they're the ones who usually end up making things less friendly for the rest of us!

Chill out!

SWR

[mac9]

Gracie, you're the head of the posse! You can say anything that you want and we will be there to back you up!

[paulandjean]

How about, "Buzz Off".......

[Bogie Shooter]

I like this suggested response.....only it should be said loud enough for everyone in the room to hear.

".....tell you what, you go tell the instructer or folks at the front desk I am in your spot. If they tell me to move, I will.

[Bogie Shooter]

[QUOTE=graciegirl;405937]Weren't taught to say things like that. In Ohio, our moms would have smacked us for talking out like that, and so people who are raised like that are often pushed around here and it makes me mad. BUT, I would feel guilty and wrong speaking up.

I don't like people to win through intimidation like the space savers usually do.

I wish my mom was here to see this kind of thing. She might have changed her mind.

I did not mean to say you are wrong Jen, it just is that we were all raised with different sets of expectation and some of them are regional.

I think basically people are the same no matter where they come from.

But that kind of pushiness makes me want to bite when they think they can save a place. I left an art class at Colony because of that kind of behavior.[/QUOTE]

And it was wrong that you had to leave.
Gracie, these people that feel entitled have to be stood up to.................