[Mrfriendly]

Originally Posted by Pairadocs

Yes, it truly is a shame. If you were around when we first started, meeting at Crispers (long closed, now a Mexican restaurant), it was nothing like this. There was one person who posted some needless, but harmless, comments often, but through the years the "sarcasm" turned to mean, nasty, most of all "superior", remarks to make the person asking for help or direction or recommendation, was used to help bolster the sagging ego of one or more of those who make sarcastic replies, mocking, replies. I have no way of knowing if the "offenders" are men or women, that's nearly impossible now anyway, since an on line name is now no indication, and a picture means nothing. Obviously, having another "community on line social site" for normal interchanges, and another folks who really enjoy that "inside jokes", and "back and forth ****ing contests" (sorry, but that's what it's usually called) are very indicative of a junior high mentality, and yet, I have no objections to those who enjoy this, but wish there was a site where those new the villages would not be ridiculed and offended for the entertainment of others... I just hate that it happens so often.

I’m contemplating changing my TOTV name from MrFriendly to FRIENDLY now. Just in case.

[Taltarzac725]

Originally Posted by Nucky

Haven’t we all said something that in hindsight we wish we could take back? I know that I have. In the days before the political posts were separated from this part of the Forum and the one the Political Garbage was separated and the the posters names were removed some pretty nasty stuff was said by ALL.

I take ownership of my offensive posts from back then and have toned it down greatly.

We were on the NOTHING thread for years and had a blast. I want to concentrate on the good stuff but I’m not going to claim that I didn’t deserve some of the replies served up to me because I did deserve them. Not so much anymore. I’ve been humbled by an injury and our life during Covid had changed us all. We lost so many friends in New Jersey during this time that it made me realize that I don’t need to be on TOTV’S to post every single thing that I think or experience about what’s going on.

The one thread I do remember vividly was when our dog passed away and the outpouring of love from other posters was phenomenal. The Thread was Named Hearbroken. It was when our mutual great friend Barefoot was still very active on the Forum. She was an animal lover too. Enough from me old friend, I hope you are doing well too!

I ran into Barefoot yesterday. She seems to be doing really well. But she does not use the computer much now.

I lost a pooch when on Talk of the Villages and remember how helpful others were on here as well.

[I'm Popeye!]

Originally Posted by Michael 61

I’m going to take a short break, but will be back soon, and will use the ignore feature- I wish though that when you place someone on ignore, that they are then completely blocked from viewing or posting within the OP’s thread if they are on the OP ignore list (as of now, they can still post, but will show in thread as “on your ignore list), if another user replies and copies their post, then the OP can now read their post.

Seems your going to insert yourself into a shell in order not to see other opinions that don't match yours...

Hummmm, coming from San Fransisco

[DonnaNi4os]

I would say that there are comments that truly are unnecessary and unkind but I tend to pass them over and read the comments that are helpful. Don’t allow a handful of sarcastic curmudgeons ruin this forum for you. For the most part those who respond do so with respect and good intent.

[mbene]

Thanks for the directions to the ignore feature, I would have never found that on my own!

[Taltarzac725]

If I have had tormentors teaming up I would just make my Ignore List longer so as not to see any more posts by posters who work as a group. Some of the prior very frequent posters were very good at getting people to gang up on others.

[Rainger99]

Originally Posted by retiredguy123

Click on the poster's "name" "view public profile" "user lists" "add to ignore list".

This may be the most helpful post I have ever seen!

[mikeycereal]

Originally Posted by Michael 61

First , let me say the vast majority of people here are kind, and have been very helpful to me, a new resident in The Villages - thank you to all who have taken the time to be patient with me, and offering good and sage advice. I truly appreciate you! There is a small group of about 6-7 guys here that have ruined this app for me (you know who you are) - These guys over-post on every single thread, are smug and sarcastic, have an inflated high opinion of themselves, think themselves so much wiser, sharper and wittier than most others here - are quick to and enjoy pointing out errors of others, enjoy demeaning and shaming others, and are all around not nice people, sorta like the schoolyard bully that craves attention, even if it’s negative. There is something wrong with these people and I actually feel sorry for them, as they seem to lead miserable, uneventful lives, and have nothing really better to do than hang out on this site all day long to stir controversy. It has become tiresome to avoid this small but extremely vocal group,- I know you can use the ignore feature, but inevitably someone else will copy and post their comments into the thread when they respond. Thanks for the rest who have been so helpful and kind - Everyone please be nice to each other - if a question is being repeated from previous posts, don’t shame the person - they could be new, or unaware of previous posts- and don’t belittle them for asking a question you think they should already know the answer to - if you have nothing nice, polite or positive to say -then simply dont reply or post anything - it only makes you look “small” and insecure.

Don't let it get to you.

I had one poster, after I commented about the gate arms being really quick to drop back down, make a snarky comment like I was trying to speed through. I wasn't used to the gate being that fast because the one at my former place was really slow in comparison. Many here receive the snark stuff, I think the more you post questions the more snark you are likely to get. The cool guy with the shades in this thread gets it, he only provides answers!

<- me ducking the snark

[jamorela]

Originally Posted by Michael 61

First , let me say the vast majority of people here are kind, and have been very helpful to me, a new resident in The Villages - thank you to all who have taken the time to be patient with me, and offering good and sage advice. I truly appreciate you! There is a small group of about 6-7 guys here that have ruined this app for me (you know who you are) - These guys over-post on every single thread, are smug and sarcastic, have an inflated high opinion of themselves, think themselves so much wiser, sharper and wittier than most others here - are quick to and enjoy pointing out errors of others, enjoy demeaning and shaming others, and are all around not nice people, sorta like the schoolyard bully that craves attention, even if it’s negative. There is something wrong with these people and I actually feel sorry for them, as they seem to lead miserable, uneventful lives, and have nothing really better to do than hang out on this site all day long to stir controversy. It has become tiresome to avoid this small but extremely vocal group,- I know you can use the ignore feature, but inevitably someone else will copy and post their comments into the thread when they respond. Thanks for the rest who have been so helpful and kind - Everyone please be nice to each other - if a question is being repeated from previous posts, don’t shame the person - they could be new, or unaware of previous posts- and don’t belittle them for asking a question you think they should already know the answer to - if you have nothing nice, polite or positive to say -then simply dont reply or post anything - it only makes you look “small” and insecure.

Look at how many people liked your post. It’s very obvious that many of us don’t like the sarcastic, snide remarks from some.

[mikeycereal]

And dang dude you got a lot of "thanks" for a new guy. You must be doing something right!

[JMintzer]

Originally Posted by mkjelenbaas

Who is Gracie?

"I'll do you one better: Why is Gracie?"


- Drax


Let's see who get's this one...

[Tunesmith]

Originally Posted by retiredguy123

Click on the poster's "name" "view public profile" "user lists" "add to ignore list".

I think you need to be logged into your TOTV account before you can see the "User Lists" link.

[golfing eagles]

Originally Posted by JMintzer

"I'll do you one better: Why is Gracie?"


- Drax


Let's see who get's this one...

Moonraker?????

[hmaynard129]

Originally Posted by Taltarzac725

Will miss your posts. I probably have 35 people on my Ignore List. It works.

How do you ignore someone can’t seem to find that option

[hmaynard129]

Originally Posted by kansasr

One good thing about your post, I never knew there was an IGNORE function. Now I do.

How do you ignore someone ??