[Leftbeforelunch]

I was told by many people that my experience of living here would be subpar due to my age (27). But to be honest I’ve been having a blast here.

What I love about the villages is just how approachable people are. Just in this month or so of living here I’ve had some really insightful conversations with others and plenty of unique experiences.

I can’t think of a better place to live in the world and I’m very happy to be here. I’m super grateful that my family asked me to come live down here. I don’t see Ohio being nearly as meaningful.

One thing I wanted to inquire about or see if anyone had any suggestions when it comes to dating. I was talking to my coworker who is my age and he has a wife in their late 40’s, same with another friend back in Ohio who is dating someone in their 50s.

I wanted to see what avenues exist for me to meet someone older, I don’t know if I went to singles groups whether that would be heavily frowned upon. I could try hanging out at bars, but I’m not sure if that would be the right demographic for potential romantic relationships.

If anyone has any suggestions I would be happy to hear them.

[BrianL99]

Originally Posted by Leftbeforelunch

I was told by many people that my experience of living here would be subpar due to my age (27). But to be honest I’ve been having a blast here.

What I love about the villages is just how approachable people are. Just in this month or so of living here I’ve had some really insightful conversations with others and plenty of unique experiences.

I can’t think of a better place to live in the world and I’m very happy to be here. I’m super grateful that my family asked me to come live down here. I don’t see Ohio being nearly as meaningful.

One thing I wanted to inquire about or see if anyone had any suggestions when it comes to dating. I was talking to my coworker who is my age and he has a wife in their late 40’s, same with another friend back in Ohio who is dating someone in their 50s.

I wanted to see what avenues exist for me to meet someone older, I don’t know if I went to singles groups whether that would be heavily frowned upon. I could try hanging out at bars, but I’m not sure if that would be the right demographic for potential romantic relationships.

If anyone has any suggestions I would be happy to hear them.

Just head on over to Facebook to one of The Villages Groups. Post that you're an under 40 single male. You'll need a machine to give out numbers, like at the Deli at Publix.

I'd recommend the "Speed Dating" methodology. 10 minute dates, 4/hour ... no more than 8 hours a day & 6 days a week (you'll need your rest). After a month or so of that, narrow it down to your Top 25 or so and then do an hour date, with each of them.

Once you narrow things down to 10-15, make a date for dinner and require them to bring a Bank Statement.

You'll be all set.

[Taltarzac725]

Hang around where people do things that give yourself joy like dog parks if you love pooches, bowling alleys if that is your passion, art displays if you an art lover and/or maker, etc. There are groups for almost any interest. Good luck. Check the Villages Daily Sun Thursday edition for a lengthy number of pages on activities here in the Villages in their various recreation centers.

[Leftbeforelunch]

Absolutely hilarious response, thank you for the suggestion!

Originally Posted by BrianL99

Just head on over to Facebook to one of The Villages Groups. Post that you're an under 40 single male. You'll need a machine to give out numbers, like at the Deli at Publix.

I'd recommend the "Speed Dating" methodology. 10 minute dates, 4/hour ... no more than 8 hours a day & 6 days a week (you'll need your rest). After a month or so of that, narrow it down to your Top 25 or so and then do an hour date, with each of them.

Once you narrow things down to 10-15, make a date for dinner and require them to bring a Bank Statement.

You'll be all set.

[MorTech]

Don't poo-poo speed dating! It is a great way to quickly weed out the dullards/television watchers...Try it at City Fire after 9:00 PM I have met a lot of gregarious and fascinating people at the squares.

[Blueblaze]

That's what happened to Sun City in Phoenix -- youngsters "really enjoyed" moving to a place their grandparents saved 50 years to enjoy, because the "55+" rules were legally unenforceable. Now it's just a large suburb, overrun with children, and suffering the same petty crime problems as any neighborhood with growing teenagers.

I really hoped that The Villages was far enough from city employment to avoid that fate, but I see more and more 30-somethings walking their dogs in my neighborhood every year, as well as their tattooed teenagers slinking around in their hoodies with the hood up on an 80-degree day.

Oh well. Nothing lasts forever.

[vintageogauge]

You'll find plenty of people your age in the Historic Section. They are living with their parents and/or grand parents. I think you will fit in well up there. Also there are a couple biker bars in Leesburg that you might want to check out.

[Bay Kid]

Try church instead of bars or just get a job at a bar.

[Topspinmo]

I suspect this setup post?

IMO at 27 you should be working on career. Mommy and daddy or who ever not going to be around for even. You need to set goals. IMO dating older women probably not good goal, but that’s me at 27 I had heavy responsibilities at work and on home front.

IMO going to bars to meet woman not good good goal, they may have lot of baggage which would maybe something you don’t need. But, I understand there few that never had to work or any responsibilities. If you’re in that boat good for you. Another but, sooner or later reality may hit you like ton of bricks. Good luck on your search for cougar.

[fdpaq0580]

Originally Posted by Topspinmo

I suspect this setup post?

IMO at 27 you should be working on career. Mommy and daddy or who ever not going to be around for even. You need to set goals. IMO dating older women probably not good goal, but that’s me at 27 I had heavy responsibilities at work and on home front.

IMO going to bars to meet woman not good good goal, they may have lot of baggage which would maybe something you don’t need. But, I understand there few that never had to work or any responsibilities. If you’re in that boat good for you. Another but, sooner or later reality may hit you like ton of bricks. Good luck on your search for cougar.

What was that song? Just a gigolo? Not judging, just wondering. 🫠

[fdpaq0580]

Just re-read post 1. Op didn't specify male, female or other. Only male co-worker with older wife.
Again, not judging, just curious.

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

Originally Posted by Leftbeforelunch

One thing I wanted to inquire about or see if anyone had any suggestions when it comes to dating. I was talking to my coworker who is my age and he has a wife in their late 40’s, same with another friend back in Ohio who is dating someone in their 50s.

I wanted to see what avenues exist for me to meet someone older, I don’t know if I went to singles groups whether that would be heavily frowned upon. I could try hanging out at bars, but I’m not sure if that would be the right demographic for potential romantic relationships.

If anyone has any suggestions I would be happy to hear them.

First off - since this is a 55+ community, the availability of "single" people will mostly be widows and widowers. Not exclusively, but mostly. People who have already grown up, had jobs, and contributed to society in some way other than living with their parents in a retirement community at age 27.

Second - consider that children under 19 aren't allowed to live here. So if you DO meet "the one" and decide to start your family, you'll need to do it somewhere else. Might want to start working on preparing for that.

You asked - that's my suggestion to you.

[shut the front door]

Originally Posted by Topspinmo

I suspect this setup post?

IMO at 27 you should be working on career. Mommy and daddy or who ever not going to be around for even. You need to set goals. IMO dating older women probably not good goal, but that’s me at 27 I had heavy responsibilities at work and on home front.

IMO going to bars to meet woman not good good goal, they may have lot of baggage which would maybe something you don’t need. But, I understand there few that never had to work or any responsibilities. If you’re in that boat good for you. Another but, sooner or later reality may hit you like ton of bricks. Good luck on your search for cougar.

I agree. I've never seen a 27 year old who is so proud of still living with mommy and daddy. I'm sure the older women will just love that. smh

[Topspinmo]

Originally Posted by fdpaq0580

Just re-read post 1. Op didn't specify male, female or other. Only male co-worker with older wife.
Again, not judging, just curious.

We assume lot on forums

[fdpaq0580]

Originally Posted by Topspinmo

We assume lot on forums

Lot of truth in that!