[charlieo1126@gmail.com]

Originally Posted by Velvet

For some reason, I guessed your gender correctly. You just sound like you are a strong happy female to me.

I guess it hurts us, any one of us, who feels put down. We all look for that sense of validation. It is best if it can come from inside of one self and not from others.

Have you been smoking some of my weed lol

[Boomer]

Originally Posted by LateBoomer

i never suggested otherwise. I think it's important that people are up front about what they want and don't want. It will avoid many problems. for either gender.

I think my only point is that TV is a tough place to be an older single woman given what are likely the demographics here and overwhelmingly couples-oriented sort of place.

so if she only wants companionship, say so. If she's uninterested in sex, say so. If she wants the man to pick up all the tabs, say so. if she expects a man to be financially secure (not sure how that plays into this if you are only seeking companionship), say so up front. most problems are solved. I just think the odds are not that great around here from mere observation. I have run into a lot of widows, but not too many single older men. but there are some out there of course.

again, I think a lot of dating issues are solved if people are honest about themselves, honest about what they want and don't want. that being said, people will misrepresent themselves in dating ads. it's the nature of the game. It's gotta be tough out there. I wouldn't want to be. but at these ages, everyone has baggage. Everyone has a past. just be honest!!

LateBoomer,

I have been happily married for decades so I do not know if I have any business advising on this one. But, that has never stopped me before. . .

I will give the same advice to our OP here that I gave my daughter and my granddaughter — and a few others along the way. . .

That advice? Never settle.

I have even given that advice to perfect strangers. . .

For instance:

One snowy evening in Cincinnati, Mr. Boomer and I went out to dinner. The snow kept on.

The restaurant was one of those places that had people at the door, and in this case, it was two young women who opened the double doors and said thank you and bid the customers a nice goodbye.

What they observed was that as I was there waiting, a car pulled up. A wonderful man got out. It was snowing hard. He had an umbrella. He walked to the door. Popped the umbrella up over me. Took my arm to escort me through the heavy snow.

As I said goodbye to the two young women, one of them asked, “How do you get that?”

To which, I smiled (I have been told I have a “knowing smile”) and answered, “Never settle.”

Early Boomer

[charlieo1126@gmail.com]

Mr boomer is a great guy and your words are short but very meaningful

[bilcon]

Good Luck! Watch out for the Hound Dogs, and be very careful who you give your personal information to. I am sure there are plenty of nice guys.

[D.Bolen]

Originally Posted by charlieo1126@gmail.com

[Sorry Velvet I'm a man]/Have you been smoking some of my weed lol

Seeing this lessened my confusion (after reading Charlieo's post regarding his background and Mrs. Boomer's curiosity regarding his appearance had conjured up images akin to the actor Charles Bronson in my head).

[golfing eagles]

Originally Posted by blueash

So on a thread about trying to find a decent man, we find a man about town who views women like buses to be ridden and where a lady's most important attribute is vaginal lubrication. Of course he will tell you he is a lady's man and not a misogynist. Only dates attractive women, although some have needed plastic surgery to make the grade, and while his brain seems not to have an edit button, his "equipment" sort of still works.

At least the OP has been able to cross one name off her list. I have been warned by the moderators not to direct comments at posters. So if I disappear for a while.. you deserve all the derision people have directed at you in the replies, and you might note that not a single person has come to your defense. That would be a clue for most people.

Give him a break----maybe he's a Premarin salesman

[Velvet]

Originally Posted by charlieo1126@gmail.com

Have you been smoking some of my weed lol

My apologies, sir, you say a lot of things I would have so I just assumed you were another me… but I’m definitely a female…

[charlieo1126@gmail.com]

Originally Posted by D.Bolen

Seeing this lessened my confusion (after reading Charlieo's post regarding his background and Mrs. Boomer's curiosity regarding his appearance had conjured up images akin to the actor Charles Bronson in my head).

135 lbs but just as strong lol and I always feel bigger

[EdFNJ]

Originally Posted by Toymeister

What I expect, and you should expect, is posters have the same decorum that they would have to a stranger that they met on the street. That isn't too much to ask.

Ummmmm, this is THE INTERNET. THE WEB. AN ANONYMOUS FORUM with people hiding behind fake personnas with silly avatars. VERY SADLY, the reponses received are exactly what one would expect in these places. Have any family in middle school? Ask them what their "forum" (facebook, instagram etc) is like. Kind of like saying that if you hang out in a sex club you'll meet nice church or temple going people you can bring home to family. Now if this conversation were held FACE TO FACE in a restaurant, local club, church etc or even on the street I would agree with you 100%. Look up CATFISHING just for one suggestion to get you started. If anyone expects anything different from places like this they need to do some internet research. Sorry, you expectations don't match reality.

[CoachKandSportsguy]

Obviously, this is a very, very hot topic. . . amazed at some of the responses from certain names. . . . . For those into reading about the men / women real life sexual/mating/partner dance, there is a non fiction book about seduction called "The Game", written by a NYT writer as an assignment (I read it over 10 years ago, so might be the wrong paper) , which describes the push pull sub conscious techniques men and women use as part of the sexual dance.

Since reading the book, I saw the events happen to me in real time, and was like wow! there is alot to the sexual dance from a psychological point of view . .. . especially in the prime of our lives (but the same will happen in retirement).

The book is written from the point of a man, but both sexes play specific roles, and the main protaganist, named "Mystery" describes, and explains the dance, as well as how to short circuit the dance. .. all about psychology . . . .

very well worth the read, and the lesson to take away is to be worthy first, be the best you can be, ie, not a slob and not a misogynist, etc, but don't hate the player, hate the game. . .

good luck

[Velvet]

My observation; all happy couples seem to play the same way, and the unhappy are unhappy in their own way. Nothing wrong with a game where you both win.

[Taltarzac725]

I hope you find your soul mate so to speak.

[Bonanza]

After thinking about the OP's original post for a few days, I find it becoming more and more strange. I've been wondering to myself why she has thrown her situation out to the public -- here on a public forum, although she is totally anonymous.

If she is on this website she has, at least, a smattering of knowledge regarding the Internet. I question why she has not gotten herself on a few of the senior websites where she can state whatever she wants about herself and exactly what she is seeking. What she would do with responders and how she would answer them is no different than what she would do anyway -- there, here on this site or wherever.

Logic also tells me and anyone with one iota of sense that to meet anyone in a new community, you have to make yourself available and join clubs, groups, the pool, the squares for evening entertainment, etc. The avenues for meeting people in this area are endless.

So I ask myself . . . What is the OP's post really about?
Yes -- I find it all very strange.

[CoachKandSportsguy]

Originally Posted by Penglobal

I thank everyone for your suggestions and for clarity, I have found a lot of nice guys here in The Villages, but I am looking for that special one.

You have to kiss alot of frogs before you find a prince. . . but a watched pot never boils. .

so there is the perfect historical advice which always applies. . unless he lives over the bridge . . .

[Taltarzac725]

Originally Posted by Penglobal

As a newbie single lady, I'm just getting my feet wet here in The Villages and have been looking for male companionship. I have tried the normal avenues but the men that I have met appear immature, ALL looking for one thing and some men are viewing me as a "meal card", (male version of a gold-digger).

I'm seeking an unmarried gentlemen in his 60's for companionship, friendship and happy times. BTW - The gentlemen MOST be unmarried. Do you guys have any suggestions? Thanks !

That takes a lot of guts to start a thread like this on Talk of the Villages probably well knowing what kind of responses you will get if you have read TOTV for a while.