[Bonnevie]

I guess I'm looking for some affirmations. Having bought a CYV a few months ago I have been trying to sell my house. One great offer fell thru but I got another not as great but one I can live with. I hesitate to say the house is sold until the actual closing given my past experience. Nevertheless, I have spent the last few weeks sorting and tossing and I have movers scheduled this week.

Did others have the mixed emotions I'm experiencing? I'm excited to finally being able to get in my villa and make it my home. But I find I'm noticing the things I like about where I live now. I've had my pet sitter since 2000. Publix is closer to me than it will be up there. I have a great dentist and good doctor.

Still, I have researched and for me as a single person, the activities and opportunities TV offers seemed to make it a good choice. I have a great neighbor up there who helped me by keeping an eye on the place. Everyone else I've met in the neighborhood has been welcoming and friendly.

Still all this packing, sorting, discarding on one's own is hard.
....I wake up in the middle of the night wondering what the heck I'm doing.....

[Lbmb24101]

I went thru similar feelings, still do.
If we moved here, it is because the good things outweight the good things back home.

Also remember that
No place is perfect.

All will work out at the end.

[Yorio]

Keep at it. You are not alone. We just went through a few months ago. Psychologically anxiety is overwhelming but it too will pass. It's tough doing it alone. I had my partner to blame everything that didn't go right and she me. While I was going through the anxiety I thought I just couldn't go on. Many of the postings on TOTV helped me as I was posting the ordeal I was going through in near real time. I am not on TOTV every day but I'll check to see how you are doing but post your concerns here. We closed on August 16th, took the Autotrain the following day. It is so weird to have to start to make the move even if we haven't closed on the deal but we had to do it. My feeling right now? Am so relieved and relaxed and we are not bickering anymore and enjoying The Villages lifestyle. It is an exhilarating feeling and you will feel it too once you've done it. Keep on chugging away like the Little Engine that could. Good luck. I am cheering for you.

[DianeM]

If your little voice is telling you "what the heck am I doing", perhaps you should re-think your move.

[vorage]

Bonnevie,
Is there risk in your move? Of course. There are no sure things in life. But a certain amount of nostalgia and buyers remorse at this point is normal. We're getting ready to move and going through the same thing....and we're just moving from one part of The Villages to another! There will be a lot of adjustments, but most won't be worse or better - just different. Still, you know in your heart that this is what you've been working to make happen, and it will be thrilling to spend your first night in your new CYV. Keep your eyes on the prize and keep your sense of humor. You have a wonderful new adventure ahead of you.

[LuvlyJubly]

Originally Posted by Bonnevie

I guess I'm looking for some affirmations. Having bought a CYV a few months ago I have been trying to sell my house. One great offer fell thru but I got another not as great but one I can live with. I hesitate to say the house is sold until the actual closing given my past experience. Nevertheless, I have spent the last few weeks sorting and tossing and I have movers scheduled this week.

Did others have the mixed emotions I'm experiencing? I'm excited to finally being able to get in my villa and make it my home. But I find I'm noticing the things I like about where I live now. I've had my pet sitter since 2000. Publix is closer to me than it will be up there. I have a great dentist and good doctor.

Still, I have researched and for me as a single person, the activities and opportunities TV offers seemed to make it a good choice. I have a great neighbor up there who helped me by keeping an eye on the place. Everyone else I've met in the neighborhood has been welcoming and friendly.

Still all this packing, sorting, discarding on one's own is hard.
....I wake up in the middle of the night wondering what the heck I'm doing.....

You are not alone, there are plenty of people feeling the way that you do. My husband and I are 2 of those people. As we are moving from the UK to TV we often think about all the things that you do, the "right" & "wrong", "should I", "shouldn't I" but we have come to conclusion if we do not follow our dreams and take all the chances "good" or "bad" that come with it we are not being honest with ourselves nor giving it a real chance and then left to wonder what may have been. We too have sorted, discarded, and yet to have packed (must wait on contract exchange) and we think what the heck are we doing?! At the end of the day you must follow your heart and your dreams and whatever will be will be. At least that is what we plan to do anyway........Good luck and all the best to you x

[jnieman]

We were anxious with all of the downsizing and trying to sell the house and waiting for the offers to come and finally settled on a price less than we wanted, but something we could live with. Once you have closed on the house you will be less stressed. Our stress started to lift on the drive down here. Once you get here more stress will lift when you have your things in your house and your bedroom setup and your bed made. I know it sounds wierd but it was true for us. Once you get here you don't have to have everything put away at once. After you have the necessities in place take your time. Spend some time at the pool every day you will meet others and it is so relaxing.

[Uptown Girl]

I think that part of what you are feeling is physical, mental and emotional fatigue. Who wouldn't?

Physically going through everything involved in a move is not for sissies- you could probably write a book about that, right? But sooner or later it will all be behind you.

Mentally, a million things are flooding into your brain. Check-lists nag too, just as you are going to sleep, I bet!

Of course they are, YOU'RE in charge!

Emotionally, any change is challenging.... you know that from your accumulated life experience. This move may be a little bigger than some changes/ challenges you have had in the past, but you have the DESIRE. That's the fuel that will help you make manifest what you happily envision.

You are experiencing a mixed bag of excitement in starting up a new home in a new location, new and fun possibilities- and- letting go of some present things, familiar routines and favorite people.
Remember- those favorite people could also experience change one day- just because you are leaving, doesn't mean they will permanently stay where they are. You see?
All you are feeling is a normal reaction to change. You feel it more profoundly when you are fatigued- but you can decide to be kind to yourself- in increments if that is all you can muster right now. It is allowed- and prescribed by me.
Honey, you could do brain surgery, if each step were small enough to handle.
Carpe the heck out of your Diems- with joy!
You're gonna love it here.

[Bonnevie]

Thanks, all. I think I've been overwhelmed doing this all alone. and I remind myself that although I have good people here, basically all I do is take the dogs to the dog park and go grocery shopping on weekends. My friends are all married. Where I live is a congested county and going to any activity begins to seem too much bother. I know that won't be a healthy way to live in retirement....it's too isolating.

I do think, once my bed is there and made, the cable is one and there's food in the refrigerator I'll feel better.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by Bonnevie

Thanks, all. I think I've been overwhelmed doing this all alone. and I remind myself that although I have good people here, basically all I do is take the dogs to the dog park and go grocery shopping on weekends. My friends are all married. Where I live is a congested county and going to any activity begins to seem too much bother. I know that won't be a healthy way to live in retirement....it's too isolating.

I do think, once my bed is there and made, the cable is one and there's food in the refrigerator I'll feel better.

Moving and beginning a new life is hard at any age but a little tougher for seniors. I have been worried for a lot of folks during and after they have arrived as many have felt a little down and a little overwhelmed. Sometimes finding a "soft place to fall" for a cup of coffee and reassurance makes things a little easier, but we can't expect too much of ourselves.

If you get here and feel down, call out to us here.

There are a lot of caring folks who read this forum.

I hope you will be happy here.

Kindest wishes,

Gracie.

[quirky3]

Originally Posted by Uptown Girl

I think that part of what you are feeling is physical, mental and emotional fatigue. Who wouldn't?

Physically going through everything involved in a move is not for sissies- you could probably write a book about that, right? But sooner or later it will all be behind you.

Mentally, a million things are flooding into your brain. Check-lists nag too, just as you are going to sleep, I bet!

Of course they are, YOU'RE in charge!

Emotionally, any change is challenging.... you know that from your accumulated life experience. This move may be a little bigger than some changes/ challenges you have had in the past, but you have the DESIRE. That's the fuel that will help you make manifest what you happily envision.

You are experiencing a mixed bag of excitement in starting up a new home in a new location, new and fun possibilities- and- letting go of some present things, familiar routines and favorite people.
Remember- those favorite people could also experience change one day- just because you are leaving, doesn't mean they will permanently stay where they are. You see?
All you are feeling is a normal reaction to change. You feel it more profoundly when you are fatigued- but you can decide to be kind to yourself- in increments if that is all you can muster right now. It is allowed- and prescribed by me.
Honey, you could do brain surgery, if each step were small enough to handle.
Carpe the heck out of your Diems- with joy!
You're gonna love it here.

What a great post! I love the "Carpe" phrase! I may borrow it!

[chachacha]

and bonnievie, don't forget there is a nice singles community here which is happy to help you meet others and begin a social life. let me know when you are arriving and i will plan a welcome committee!!! congrats on your new home.

[fb32162]

After signing all the papers on our house in TV, all I could think of was "WHAT HAVE WE DONE????" I'd wake up in the middle of the night asking myself this question. I was sick to my stomach and pretty much in a serious panic for a good month. For me, it was not really about leaving things behind, but more about what lay ahead. Will I fit in? Will I make any friends? Am I really ready to live in a "retirement" community? Did we buy the right house? My fears evaporated very quickly after we moved in. Yes, we fit in here and by attending a variety of activities and get togethers we met people and developed some wonderful friendships. I don't think of TV as a "retirement" community but rather, just a great community. As for the question, did we buy the right house....the answer is no. But that wasn't a big deal because a little over a year after buying our first house, we sold it (in less than a week for a nice profit). and bought a slightly larger home with a layout that better suits our needs.

I too was full of doubt and second-guessing before moving here but now, 2 yrs later, I can't imagine living anywhere else.

[Uptown Girl]

Originally Posted by quirky3

What a great post! I love the "Carpe" phrase! I may borrow it!

You sure can!

[Happinow]

I can appreciate where you are coming from. Like others have said, change of this magnitude is overwhelming, tiring and stressful. I can say that the phrase "keep on truckin'" comes to mind. I'm sure you are tired and sometimes wish you would have never started the process. But......there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Once you move into your new home you will be busy making your house a home. You will also be busy meeting new people and enjoying all that The Villages has to offer. I believe that as a single person TV is a great place to live. There are endless ways to meet other singles. I have a lady who lives down the road who is single and has made many new friends and enjoys activities. After you get yourself moved, take some time to make new memories and enjoy all that this wonderful place has to offer. I wish you all the best. Which villas are you moving to??