[boomerbaby]

I went through the same thing 4 yrs. ago, I was scared and was leaving the family because my husband wanted to be here. I do not golf, he does so it has been tough but I do not miss the n.y. winters, My husband is very happy and I have never seen a more friendly place. When you see someone who is not friendly it stands out because it is not that often. Give it time and know your not alone in the way you feel but after some time passes it gets easier. Good luck and we are always here for you.

[Love2cruise]

Originally Posted by quirky3

What a great post! I love the "Carpe" phrase! I may borrow it!

I agree, love how you stated that!

[kittygilchrist]

Bonnie, even tho you're a Seminole fan, I can't wait to meet you!
I moved from close as you're doing. It was one of the hardest things I ever did and I felt very confused, afraid, chaotic and overwhelmed. If you want to vent, pm me and we'll exchange phone numbers.
Kitty
ps it was well worth it and I'm feeling very befriended and mostly right side up.

[McP1605]

Yup... I'm right there with you. I move in November! I have thought and felt everything you are going through. But, as my daughter keeps tellng me... I am not doing anything that can't be undone if I end up hating it there -- which I doubt! You can always sell your villa, but if you don't at least try it, you will never know! Nothing ventured, nothing gained! So.... here's to new beginnings! PM me sometime after November and we will get together and share our story!

[asianthree]

i never had a problem when we bought the first house falling asleep..but when we wanted a bigger home an hour after we signed i thought if was a mistake...we settled for a home we could afford...not what we wanted...but i can always sell it and find another one that makes me happy

[salferg]

When I read all the encouraging responses sent to Bonnievni helping to allay her fears about making the move, couldn't help but get a warm fuzzy feeling at how uplifting it is to live among such caring people that reach out to strangers with encouragement . 👏👏👏

[redwitch]

Moving is one of the major stressors in life -- right up there with losing your job, family deaths. If you didn't have some doubts and weren't second-guessing yourself, you wouldn't quite be normal. It goes with that proverbial territory.

Publix may be closer there but I bet you can't get there by golf cart. You'll find some great pet sitters here, too. Ditto doctors and dentists. And, if you don't find a good medical fit, you're probably close enough that you could use seeing your current MD/DDS to visit old friends. And you will make new friends here.

Hang in there! The journey may be somewhat painful but the arrival here is well worth the trip.

[lovsthosebigdogs]

I love this positive, wonderful community where we support each other and share our experiences to encourage each other! I am going through the horrors of packing and planning our move right now and, although I keep trying to surpress it, it's more stressful than I'd like to admit even to myself. I don't have anyone to talk to about it and when I have tried, they minimize it and give me some stupid answer. After reading 3 pages of posts I am amazed at how many people have said just the right thing to help ease my anxiety and make me feel soooo much better. I am sending out one big cosmic hug to all of you. Thank you. If I'm feeling it and posting I am sure there are many reading and feeling it too but not responding. Bonnevie, hang in there- everything eventually passes and there is a lot of wisdom in the words here.

[mainlander]

Originally Posted by Bonnevie

I guess I'm looking for some affirmations. Having bought a CYV a few months ago I have been trying to sell my house. One great offer fell thru but I got another not as great but one I can live with. I hesitate to say the house is sold until the actual closing given my past experience. Nevertheless, I have spent the last few weeks sorting and tossing and I have movers scheduled this week.

Did others have the mixed emotions I'm experiencing? I'm excited to finally being able to get in my villa and make it my home. But I find I'm noticing the things I like about where I live now. I've had my pet sitter since 2000. Publix is closer to me than it will be up there. I have a great dentist and good doctor.

Still, I have researched and for me as a single person, the activities and opportunities TV offers seemed to make it a good choice. I have a great neighbor up there who helped me by keeping an eye on the place. Everyone else I've met in the neighborhood has been welcoming and friendly.

Still all this packing, sorting, discarding on one's own is hard.
....I wake up in the middle of the night wondering what the heck I'm doing.....

Bonnevie.. since you ask for affirmations... I suspect that what you are anxious about is typical for most, perhaps to varying degrees. So imo, you are not alone. What you seem to lose sight of from time to time,, is that your move is not to just any ole place,, some place where you have no idea what to do ....you are moving to "The Villages",, yeaa!

[CFrance]

These are all such great answers. And I might add, to Bonnevie and all of you who managed the buy of a TV house, sell of an old house, sorting your treasures, packing, and moving from your comfort zone on your own, you have my greatest level of admiration. You are very, very strong people, and I imagine you will either be fine in your new environment or decide to do something else.

[Jhooman]

Purge. Less is more. We moved from California and I'm so glad we got rid of 80% of our household. It has been a freeing experience to unload and to simplify our lives.

Plus you will have more time enjoying your life and not taking care of stuff.

Welcome to The Villages.

[Madelaine Amee]

Originally Posted by Bonnevie

Thanks, all. I think I've been overwhelmed doing this all alone. and I remind myself that although I have good people here, basically all I do is take the dogs to the dog park and go grocery shopping on weekends. My friends are all married. Where I live is a congested county and going to any activity begins to seem too much bother. I know that won't be a healthy way to live in retirement....it's too isolating.

I do think, once my bed is there and made, the cable is one and there's food in the refrigerator I'll feel better.

My neighbor is a widow, she moved here on her own from Michigan, it took a while for her to find her niche, but she did. She has very recently had a major heart problem, five way!, her friends and neighbors have rallied around her and have been the biggest and best support you could imagine. Her children came down here to take her back and she would not go ......... she said she has a better support system here with her single lady friends than she would ever have back North with her family who all have to work!

I have learned from reading this forum that there are some wonderful single women living here who are an excellent support for each other. Wish you much happiness in your new life.

[Parker]

Originally Posted by Bonnevie

Thanks, all. I think I've been overwhelmed doing this all alone. and I remind myself that although I have good people here, basically all I do is take the dogs to the dog park and go grocery shopping on weekends. My friends are all married. Where I live is a congested county and going to any activity begins to seem too much bother. I know that won't be a healthy way to live in retirement....it's too isolating.

I do think, once my bed is there and made, the cable is one and there's food in the refrigerator I'll feel better.

Just remember why you made the decision in the first place. The reasons you state here seem like very good ones to me. However, if you decide you've acted hastily, nothing is set in stone.

[Bonnevie]

thank you all. I'm feeling better having read your replies. That is just what I needed. I keep telling myself one way or the other, everything will get done.....and today I didn't wake up until 4am to worry instead of 2am so it must be getting better

[janieb]

Originally Posted by Parker

Just remember why you made the decision in the first place. The reasons you state here seem like very good ones to me. However, if you decide you've acted hastily, nothing is set in stone.

this has been my philosophy, because I too had second thoughts after purchasing a home on my first visit. My thoughts have always been that if it turns out I don't like it here, I can sell my home and find somewhere else to move. But I don't think that will happen, in my 1st 4 visits there, I have loved most everything about it and it already feels like home, just wish I could move there full time right now but have family obligations in Michigan so I can't for a while.