[John_W]

My wife just told me for the three years we've been members of MVP she has heard that same story numerous times, it happens at many of the centers. That's one reason MVP is doing so well. At Colony she was told you have to come to class an hour early to get a ticket and then come back when class actually starts and show your ticket. Some people will put up with it and some people will go somewhere else.

[Bonny]

I'm reading all of these posts and I'm just feeling many people's blood pressure rising as I read, call the police, have her arrested, scream at her, take me with you, I'll take care of her, take her picture. This all sounds way over the top. So many here are getting so worked up. There really are better ways to handle things.
I have never liked bullies, but we are all adults here. Sometimes we just have to stand up for ourselves.
She could have just told her, don't ever put your hands on me!! If I need anyone's assistance, I will ask for it.
If there were anything else said about it, I would have gone to the instructor. I may also have talked to the instructor after the class.
Hope everyone has an awesome day!!!

[Topspinmo]

Originally Posted by Md girl

This morning I went to Chula Vista Rec Center to participate in a class. This was not my first time there. I tried to go to the back so I would not be in anyone's way. I was told that was not a good place ,then the woman preceded to put her hands on my shoulders and push me into what she considered a suitable place for me. I kept quiet not wanting to start any trouble. As soon as there was a break in the last, she immediately started running her mouth to another participant about me. I walked over and picked up my things and left. I'm not sure who died and left this woman in charge, I hope she reads this. Because I want her to know she was lucky I did not press charges against her for putting her hands on me. As far as I know I have the same rights as anyone else. I pay my fees to use the facilities just like everyone. So who ever you are count your blessings that I did not have you arrested, perhaps you should think twice before putting your hands on anyone.

Sad to say you will find these types everywhere, Don't let them run you off. You have every right to be there as long as you are card caring member. The Rec facilities are here for you.

[Topspinmo]

Originally Posted by pklein9747

If this happens again, please go to the person in charge at the Rec Center and report it. You have every right to be in that exercise class and, within reason, stand where you want and not be manhandled or criticized by another person at the activity.

Recreation takes these complaints seriously. We had a problem several years ago with a woman at water volleyball. Several people complained, filed written complaints and she was banned from the pool for six months. It made playing so much nicer

I agree, I guarantee the lady in charge of Chula WILL take care of it. She runs that place like Marine Officer. Nice and firm like it should be.

[2BNTV]

A friend of mine in his 50's when kidding around will say, "Ill beat you up". I reply , I hope you have fun in jail with your your cellmate as it is a felony to put your hands on a senior citizen.

Seriously, I would never allow anyone to put their hands on me an unfriendly manner. I think letting her know this is unacceptable and reporting her, should be your next steps.

Some people think they have a sense of entitlement in TV. This person needs to be set straight.

[Rapscallion St Croix]

I would have thanked her and suggested that she might want to go wash her hands with a powerful disinfectant and buy a case of anti-itch cream. I would add that by tomorrow morning she should discover why I chose to post myself in the back of the class.

[jsw14]

If that was my Wife be'in treated that way, my wife would have put her on the floor..........The End

[Mama C]

Really people?! Arrest her!! She probably just thought she was being friendly and helping you get involved.... Geesh! just tell her politely to not touch you--I can't believe she was assaulting you.... Some people are just more physical than others and others are just too quick to judge

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[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by Mama C

Really people?! Arrest her!! She probably just thought she was being friendly and helping you get involved.... Geesh! just tell her politely to not touch you--I can't believe she was assaulting you.... Some people are just more physical than others and others are just too quick to judge

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Read it again.

[gatherer47]

Mama C-blaming the victim?

[Gpsma]

I can't believe so many people are saying call the police. This wasn't an assault. Why tie up police resources for small petty confrontations. I suspect the OP wasn't shoved into another spot but rather rudely guided by the Alpha Female.

The issue here is why the OP didn't firmly stand her ground. I suspect she is posting here because when she left she was ashamed of not sticking up for herself.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by Gpsma

I can't believe so many people are saying call the police. This wasn't an assault. Why tie up police resources for small petty confrontations. I suspect the OP wasn't shoved into another spot but rather rudely guided by the Alpha Female.

The issue here is why the OP didn't firmly stand her ground. I suspect she is posting here because when she left she was ashamed of not sticking up for herself.

This is very much a social-geographic thing. Some areas of the country talk back in public and some do not.

Each looks down on the other.

[Nucky]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

This is very much a social-geographic thing. Some areas of the country talk back in public and some do not.

Each looks down on the other.

Got that rite. I notice it at our pool. Many people are reserved and many are in your face with an edginess about them. People should not invade anyone's personal space yet touch them??? Touch them?? Are you kidding?? Not good! Instincts would take over without any thought. Sorry for your trouble OP don't let it stop you from going to activities. 99% of the people here are fantastic.

[ColdNoMore]

Some people think it is just fine to put their hands on other people and move them around...without permission first.

They need to quickly and permanently be disabused of that notion.

It typically is only those that think they can bully others though.

[dillywho]

Originally Posted by marianne237

Sadly, you find this at so many things happening in the Villages. I used to exercise at the pool, but was told more than once that I had to move because that space was saved "for my friend". And, you will also find this at Operation Shoebox, or any other of the charities. It's just rude and thoughtless people.... Consider the source and let it go. After 2 bouts of cancer, I've learned to "just let it go" and walk away.

One lady handled this very situation very well in an exercise class when another came in a said to her, "You need to move. This is my spot." The "offender" firmly, but politely told her, "Not today, it's not", and stayed put. End of problem and discussion.

Instructors are in charge of classes and need to know when problems arise, if someone continues with unacceptable behavior. They can and will handle it.