[Vinny]

In NYC this would be considered polite request. If this is the worse you've seen in your life I want to move to where you come from

[JimPete]

Since moving here full time about two months ago, I have discovered that 98% of the residents of TV really do make this the friendliest hometown. The other 2% make me wonder why they even bothered moving here. These are the people that can make a sow's ear out of a silk purse.


Jim

[Dancing Queen]

Originally Posted by A-4 Skyhawk

When you're 6-6 and weigh 260 you don't get many chairs pulled out on you. I'm a loveable guy and don't mean to scare people sometimes. I probably would have picked up the chair and taken it to the front door with me . . . . . after one of those terrifying mean looks . . . . .

Some people get "Cranky" when they get old. The rest of us "Lighten Up".

(Oh my you are are a carbon copy of my Hubby 6'6" and 260lbs. Except the 20 years Airforce part.)

Gracie you have such Grace your parents gave you the right name for sure.
Sorry it had to happen though.

Tadpole in training.

[skyguy79]

Gracie, someone probably passed by him just before you did, passed gas and left him in a foul mood!

[anarick]

Originally Posted by skyguy79

Gracie, someone probably passed by him just before you did, passed gas and left him in a foul mood!

love it

Gracie--The guy probably spent some time at the pool where there's too much noise, then played golf behind some slow playing beginners, pushed to move on by some obnoxious ambassador, was hit by a cart on the roundabout, then fell into a sinkhole on his way to the Katie Belles.
Give him a break. He'll come around.

[asianthree]

lets blame his on the summer heat, oh yeah not summer anymore uncalled for

[Shirleevee]

Originally Posted by JimPete

Since moving here full time about two months ago, I have discovered that 98% of the residents of TV really do make this the friendliest hometown. The other 2% make me wonder why they even bothered moving here. These are the people that can make a sow's ear out of a silk purse.


Jim

One of the 2% called my Honey an ass***e at Two Jays one morning because he asked the hostess a question when he was leaving......his morning golf game probably went badly...........so sad! Enjoy paradise while you can because we don't know what the other side offers!!!!!!!!!!

[firewalkerb3]

Let it run off your back, like water off a duck, until a remark is directed towards my wife. Then the Redneck would come out.

[Posh 08]

Hopefully a nice serving of prunes at breakfast will bring back his charm.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by Posh 08

Hopefully a nice serving of prunes at breakfast will bring back his charm.

[senior citizen]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

A group of couples from our village plays golf together on Sunday and then we have breakfast together. This last Sunday we chose Katie Belles. AND by the way it is a great breakfast for a low price. None of us had alcohol, in case you might wonder.

We all paid to leave, and had been sitting together by the stage, I think there were eight of us and we walked toward the door and in so doing we walked between two tables, not slithered but walked single file. After three or four of us passed a man seated at the table with a woman, angrily jerked out a chair and blocked our little single file exodus. I pushed the chair back in and leaned over and quietly said in his ear. "That wasn't nice". and he pulled it out again almost hitting me with it and said loudly or yelled and waved his arms... I think he said. "I am trying to eat my breakfast", but others in the group said it wasn't that nice.

In my whole life this was a new experience.

Belligerance is an early symptom of Alzheimers Disease.
As another mentioned......be glad you don't have to live with him.
As the disease progresses, their personality may yet change again.
Often they become passive.............

..........however, belligerance does happen in the beginning...........
causing family members to wonder what is going on.

It's also common in dementia. Not all, but it does happen.

[justjim]

This encounter had to be shocking. This man is "sick"(for sure) to behave in such a manner in a public place. Unfortunately, for the man, sooner or later he will run into a person who will not handle his behavior in a "graceful" manner.

[rubicon]

Gracie is easy to love and I suppose that is one reason why so many came to her rescue. But what annoys me is that so many of the 98% of allegedly friendly people who live in The Villages are very opinionated and judgmental and hence unfair.

My first thought after reading Gracie's post was why this fellow had become angry? My second thought was , was it justified?

We have a stream of people exiting between tables while other people are eating. Was there another means of exiting? If not should Katie Bell's shoulder the blame?

In short I think many of you rushed to judgment in your effort to protect Gracie and without knowing or giving the benefit of the doubt to this fellow and the situation at hand.

Finally it is unrealistic to believe and expect that because someone lives in The villages that they are required to be happy or friendly 24/7 to think otherwise is to ignored the limits of nature.

[senior citizen]

Originally Posted by justjim

This encounter had to be shocking. This man is "sick"(for sure) to behave in such a manner in a public place. Unfortunately, for the man, sooner or later he will run into a person who will not handle his behavior in a "graceful" manner.

The sick man probably isn't even aware of his outbursts "if indeed he is suffering from dementia and or Alzehimers Disease". I've seen it in action, believe me. It puzzles family members and others who witness these outbursts for no good reason.....as Gracie did.

I'm just saying it was a possibility.

When I was younger and we still had the A&P market in our town, I remember being totally puzzled when a nice middle aged man would take his aging mother grocery shopping every week.......he was so patient with her, even when she would start cursing in the produce aisle.

I'm certain it was embarrassing for him........but those incidents and then later when we also experienced various people we knew and loved with Alzheimers and dementia.......I understood. I understand now.

The personality changes from belligerance to passivity and sometimes back again. Probably "inside of them" they are frustrated with these changes and outbursts. I'm not a doctor; all I know is what I've observed. We saw many wonderful people, including retired military people, teachers, engineers, you name it, from every walk of life .......develop totally different personalities.......when we'd visit my mom in the Alzheimers wing at the very end of her long journey.

These had been upstanding folks in our town. So, no one really knows for sure, myself included, why people have these outbursts. It's also hard on the families.

[graciegirl]

...

You well may be right. I followed the leader who walked between the tables and as I said we weren't forced to move sideways or hesitate, there was room to walk. It could have been any number of things and it could be that Katie Belles expects a crowd and justifiably do want to make money and puts the tables closer together than they might optimally be.

At any rate, I personally would NEVER have done what he did. I personally have never witnessed such an intense and unexpected outburst and I personally would never in any way excalate it. We left. Period.

I have always believed that when behavior falls outside expected parimeters it isn't normal. But my expectations are different than some.

No harm came to anyone. We all continued on with our day. I appreciate your kind support but as Rubicon says, who knows why this happened?