[gomoho]

Seems like whenever anyone has a concern, complain, rant or anything not to their liking someone suggests they move somewhere else. Why do we treat each other like that. I would hope in most cases these concerns are legitimate to the OP and they are looking for confirmation, discussion, ideas of how to correct the issue or whatever - but, I don't believe they post so someone suggest they go live somewhere else, relax, take a chill pill, suggest "you have to much time on your hands" and a host of other rude things we say.

And I'm about to end the post by saying "ok take your best shot" which confirms my thinking. It is very difficult to bring anything negative to this forum without getting beat up.

Thanks for listening.

[asianthree]

so the OP should move or the responders

[silvertoken]

The Villages is changing, scarey isnt it? The smaller the community, life is better. Not worth standing in line for insults.

[gatherer47]

I've said this before-If you voice a concern here ,YOU often end up having the tables turned on you by the "if you don't like it,don't read it or don't go there or go home or don't buy it" crowd.You can point out something blatantly wrong and this crowd will pop up and blame you instead.Gomoho is exactly right with his post.I've seen it here many times.

[pooh]

It's always easier to find faults than the good it seems. People have some anonymity when writing on a message board and might just say things they would not if talking in person. There may be many here who don't find the difficulty or problem expressed, annoying to them and they can't understand why such a thing would bother anyone. Then, there are some who only come to voice complaints....they may not participate in any other discussions. One problem I see ..... Once one diminishes the feelings of another, more seem to pile on....a sort of pack mentality that happens in nature, be it man or beast.

My opinion and I'm sticking to it....

[patfla06]

Amen!

[DianeM]

I hate when someone has a concern and gets attacked for it. Just experienced it prrsonally on the website for my present community. 'Tis one of the reasons I'm leàving. Please try to hang in there. Not all are mean. I try not to be.

[justjim]

OP, I agree that saying to a "poster" to just move if you don't like something is harsh and is not disagreeing in a respectful manner. We can disagree and still be respectful without making the disagreement personal. On the other end of the spectrum, there are those that carry their "feelings" on their shoulder---so to speak---and take things personal when they are not personal at all. "You have to be reasonable to reason.". Anonymous

[l2ridehd]

I for one think there is another side to this issue. So I ask why do people join a group, join a club, move to a city or country or other such thing and then because they don't like it, try to change it? Don't join in the first place. Don't move there. Don't belong. Most people are able to do enough research on any of these life changes before they make the move, or before they join a group or club. Then they want to change it. Suggestions and positive improvements are OK. But even then if you make a suggestion and it is explained why it is the way it is, move on.

Or should we all go out and lobby to allow large pink Flamingo's on our lawn? When I bought here I knew the rule was I could not do that. And if that is so important to me that I want to complain, lobby, instigate and in other ways try to change that rule, I should just move elsewhere where I can do it. JMHO.

[Bogie Shooter]

Originally Posted by silvertoken

The Villages is changing, scarey isnt it? The smaller the community, life is better. Not worth standing in line for insults.

Are things changing in Stonecrest??

[golf4me]

Originally Posted by l2ridehd

I for one think there is another side to this issue. So I ask why do people join a group, join a club, move to a city or country or other such thing and then because they don't like it, try to change it? Don't join in the first place. Don't move there. Don't belong. Most people are able to do enough research on any of these life changes before they make the move, or before they join a group or club. Then they want to change it. Suggestions and positive improvements are OK. But even then if you make a suggestion and it is explained why it is the way it is, move on.

Or should we all go out and lobby to allow large pink Flamingo's on our lawn? When I bought here I knew the rule was I could not do that. And if that is so important to me that I want to complain, lobby, instigate and in other ways try to change that rule, I should just move elsewhere where I can do it. JMHO.

That is how I see it too.

And Gomoho, there are those who ONLY complain and it is very transparent, you can read all of their posts, in one way or another it is the same song with the same lyrics. You know what they are going to say and it is going to be a rant.I have gone past thinking they are having a bad day and think they have a beef or an agenda. Some always are on the food and the restaurants, some are always on the developer, some are always on diet, some are always on politics, someway, somehow.Some people are always positive and they are thought to have their own motives and maybe they do. I like their motives better in the morning with my coffee.

I feel bad for a new person complaining, because the collective readers say to themselves, we are off to the races.

I agree with the above poster, find out if you like it or don't first and don't come to change it.

[Golfingnut]

Originally Posted by silvertoken

The Villages is changing, scarey isnt it? The smaller the community, life is better. Not worth standing in line for insults.

Do you ever tire of trashing your neighbors in TV?

[billethkid]

no matter how large or small the community there will ALWAYS be a FEW that have something not to their liking. There will also be a few that are ready to pounce and take to task any subject they have an opposing view on. There are a few contrarians who will voice opposition or dislike for almost anything. And of course there are the baiters.

One thing can be said about them all LEST WE FORGET.....they are in the minority. I am against any tarring of a general condition or community or organization for the actions of a few. They do not represent the general condition, but somehow get the time, attention and discussion as if they were.

Let's not forget the 98% who do what is right.

btk

[Mikeod]

While I agree with the OP that dismissing a concern with an invitation to leave is rude, there are some times (although a minority) when a poster seems so upset, discouraged, and depressed about many aspects of living here, that recommending they consider moving away appears to be a sincere effort to get them enjoying their life again.

There are some things in TV that we just cannot change, no matter how much we wish to. If these things are so important that the situation is causing great stress, you need to either accept what you cannot change, or, failing that, get away from it.

[Mikeod]

Originally Posted by l2ridehd

I for one think there is another side to this issue. So I ask why do people join a group, join a club, move to a city or country or other such thing and then because they don't like it, try to change it? Don't join in the first place. Don't move there. Don't belong. Most people are able to do enough research on any of these life changes before they make the move, or before they join a group or club. Then they want to change it. Suggestions and positive improvements are OK. But even then if you make a suggestion and it is explained why it is the way it is, move on.

Or should we all go out and lobby to allow large pink Flamingo's on our lawn? When I bought here I knew the rule was I could not do that. And if that is so important to me that I want to complain, lobby, instigate and in other ways try to change that rule, I should just move elsewhere where I can do it. JMHO.

I have no problem with people posting about something they think could be better. One of the positive aspects of living in a community with people from all over the country is that they bring alternate views of how things could be done. Anyone who has served on a committee where the membership stays the same for a long time realizes how important new blood is to achieving goals.

However, I see a segment of TV that seems to want everything they had in their prior community here, except the weather. Sorry, this is not your prior community. Your favorite grocer, barber, mechanic, restaurant, golf course, etc. are not here. What's also not here are those aspects of your former community that led you to move here. Last time I checked, nobody was forced to relocate here.