[cappyjon431]

Originally Posted by Barefoot

I'm not happy that you encountered a rude and impatient driver. Especially after having a colonoscopy, which isn't on anyone's bucket list.

But I am happy that the rude behaviour isn't being blamed on snow birds!

Actually an endoscopy, but it's never a fun experience to go under anesthesia.

There are rude frogs, rude snowbirds, rude snowflakes, rude renters, and rude non-TV residents (who live and work in the area),

BUT

There are also extraordinarily friendly and polite frogs, snowbirds, snowflakes, renters, and non-TV residents.

I am happy to see that you and others were intelligent enough to see that I wasn't attacking snowbirds, or TV residents, etc. but merely voicing my displeasure at rude behavior I have seen here.

[duffysmom]

CappyJon over the course of a few month I've read that you've been dealing with health issues and you have my total respect in regard to the way you've been dealing with these issues. When people are rude to me on the road I blow them a big kiss and that really rattles their cage.

In any confrontation I'm cautious because many people here in Florida are armed and quick to respond in anger. Some people do not age well, what was an annoying character defect while younger can become serious flaws as they age.

Originally Posted by quirky3

IMHO, most posters just want to share their experience or opinion because it could help other posters, or they may want to know who else has had similar experiences, or they want to share this on TOTV as part of their personal TV experience.

"Active listening" seems like a very constructive response - I hear what you're saying, thank you for sharing and caring enough to share.

What seems strange, and discouraging to me is when people make it about the poster and not the posted topic. They question their "credentials" for posting such a thing, or dismiss or minimize the person's experience, especially when it does not reflect a popular or majority view.

I hope that posters, including new posters, keep sharing and caring in spite of that.

quirky, beautifully said. Unfortunately they do like to hide behind their anonymity and take shots at people. Sad way to live in paradise.

[graciegirl]

If you are kind you can't seem to stop acting that way.

If you are mean there may be something troubling happening.

But good manners are drilled into you when you are very young.

Honking at people is what you do to say hi where I was raised and not an act of impatience.

We can talk about it until the cows come home. There are differences in how we act and what we expect from others depending on what we have grown to expect.


There are no easy answers. Happiness usually engenders happy behavior.

My sweetie says that having the last word is just the same as entering a ****ing contest. No one ever wins.

[cappyjon431]

Originally Posted by duffysmom

CappyJon over the course of a few month I've read that you've been dealing with health issues and you have my total respect in regard to the way you've been dealing with these issues. When people are rude to me on the road I blow them a big kiss and that really rattles their cage.

In any confrontation I'm cautious because many people here in Florida are armed and quick to respond in anger. Some people do not age well, what was an annoying character defect while younger can become serious flaws as they age.



quirky, beautifully said. Unfortunately they do like to hide behind their anonymity and take shots at people. Sad way to live in paradise.

Thank you for your kind words Duffysmom, they are appreciated. For most of my life I have always been a laid back, "kill 'em with kindness" type of lad and to this day that is how I try to live my life. To be honest, I seem to be starting to resent what I perceive as an increase in rudeness in the people around me and it deeply saddens me and probably explains why I am less tolerant of poor behavior than I once was.

Let me emphasize again that this cretin was probably not a TV resident and certainly was not an older person (probably 30s) so her bad behavior was probably not a result of not aging well.

I'm a native Floridian (a Miamian) so I am well aware of the risks of confrontation. Road rage is a way of life in Miami and it is one of the reasons we moved to the Caribbean. That being said, I am a man of principle and I believe in standing up for what is right, and I feel if we turn a blind eye to this type of behavior, we are in a sense condoning it.

When people on TOTV are critical of my posts on TOTV concerning this issue, I frequently ask myself how the other poster would feel/react if this type of rude behavior was aimed at one of their loved ones--their spouse, their mother, or their daughter. I would be interested in their responses.

[Indydealmaker]

Jon, you are not wrong.

This type of behavior is more noticeable. I, too, have noticed a pronounced level of impatience and rudeness in this area. Drivers are really a piece of work! My wife and her friends have commented repeatedly about this kind of behavior in the Publix and Fresh Market by those that appear to act as if they are "special" so that they can cut in line without taking a number etc.

I do not think that this behavior has anything to do with The Villages or with the Villagers. However, it does have to do with an unusual concentration of seniors that are all, in one way or another, distracted by their own problems. At a certain age, we are all less able to keep all of the "balls in the air". Too many start bouncing and it is as irritating as hell. Sometimes this frustration boils over.

This happens everywhere all the time, but here there is an unusual concentration of seniors, in a small area, reacting to inconvenience and/or perceived inconvenience much more aggressively than they historically might have.

Also, because of this senior demographic, there is noticeable resentment by "youngers" against "oldsters".

It is not The Villagers. It is just concentrated "life" smacking us in the face.

[cappyjon431]

Originally Posted by Indydealmaker

Jon, you are not wrong.

This type of behavior is more noticeable. I, too, have noticed a pronounced level of impatience and rudeness in this area. Drivers are really a piece of work! My wife and her friends have commented repeatedly about this kind of behavior in the Publix and Fresh Market by those that appear to act as if they are "special" so that they can cut in line without taking a number etc.

I do not think that this behavior has anything to do with The Villages or with the Villagers. However, it does have to do with an unusual concentration of seniors that are all, in one way or another, distracted by their own problems. At a certain age, we are all less able to keep all of the "balls in the air". Too many start bouncing and it is as irritating as hell. Sometimes this frustration boils over.

This happens everywhere all the time, but here there is an unusual concentration of seniors, in a small area, reacting to inconvenience and/or perceived inconvenience much more aggressively than they historically might have.

Also, because of this senior demographic, there is noticeable resentment by "youngers" against "oldsters".

It is not The Villagers. It is just concentrated "life" smacking us in the face.

Very well thought out and written. I am especially glad that you included your last sentence, because this seems to be what I was seeing today at Walgreens.

[CarGuys]

The last time a woman in a car gave me/us the finger I looked over at her and started shaking my head up and down stating OK !

You guys figure out the rest. My wife told the woman are you really sure?

She burned tires away from us. Guess she didn't mean it.

[missypie]

Originally Posted by CarGuys

The last time a woman in a car gave me/us the finger I looked over at her and started shaking my head up and down stating OK !

You guys figure out the rest. My wife told the woman are you really sure?

She burned tires away from us. Guess she didn't mean it.

That is hilarious

[Barefoot]

Originally Posted by Indydealmaker

Jon, you are not wrong.

This type of behavior is more noticeable. I, too, have noticed a pronounced level of impatience and rudeness in this area. Drivers are really a piece of work! My wife and her friends have commented repeatedly about this kind of behavior in the Publix and Fresh Market by those that appear to act as if they are "special" so that they can cut in line without taking a number etc.

I do not think that this behavior has anything to do with The Villages or with the Villagers. However, it does have to do with an unusual concentration of seniors that are all, in one way or another, distracted by their own problems. At a certain age, we are all less able to keep all of the "balls in the air". Too many start bouncing and it is as irritating as hell. Sometimes this frustration boils over.

This happens everywhere all the time, but here there is an unusual concentration of seniors, in a small area, reacting to inconvenience and/or perceived inconvenience much more aggressively than they historically might have.

Also, because of this senior demographic, there is noticeable resentment by "youngers" against "oldsters".

It is not The Villagers. It is just concentrated "life" smacking us in the face.

I think there is a lot of truth in what you say. Thanks for taking the time to post your insightful comments.

[wendyquat]

Originally Posted by CarGuys

The last time a woman in a car gave me/us the finger I looked over at her and started shaking my head up and down stating OK !

You guys figure out the rest. My wife told the woman are you really sure?

She burned tires away from us. Guess she didn't mean it.

[Penguin]

Does anyone remember in the movie "Its a wonderful life" when George Bailey yelled at his kids teacher on the phone? Then he ran into the teachers husband at a bar, the husband recognized George and punched him in the mouth. I miss those days.

[senior citizen]

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[Golfer in Sanibel]

In USAToday, today. Look at the Florida cities in top 10.

Rudest city in the USA? Hint: It's not what you're probably thinking - USATODAY.com

[CaptJohn]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

If you are kind you can't seem to stop acting that way.

If you are mean there may be something troubling happening.

But good manners are drilled into you when you are very young.

Honking at people is what you do to say hi where I was raised and not an act of impatience.

We can talk about it until the cows come home. There are differences in how we act and what we expect from others depending on what we have grown to expect.


There are no easy answers. Happiness usually engenders happy behavior.

My sweetie says that having the last word is just the same as entering a ****ing contest. No one ever wins.

Well put, Gracie. Bears repeating. I was raised the same as you but 752 miles away!.

Of course, honking has changed. Now it is used to notify people the red light has changed to green when they are so engrossed in their text messaging that they don't realize why they're sitting behind the wheel a minute later (some honk a little quicker!). Not all are texting though, as some are reading, talking on the phone, changing the cd or diapers (had to get this in for Bill's benefit), picking things off the floor of the passenger seat, putting on makeup or just daydreaming. I get the biggest laugh when I'm first in line at the light, leave it promptly when it changes to green and then look in the mirror and see the person behind me 1/4 mile still hasn't noticed I've left! Life is busy!

[Here2Stay]

So SAD, but SO TRUE, that so many people think that they are the ONLY people in the world. For the life of me, I can't understand such RUDE folks, and I see it everyday...what is up with you RUDE FOLKS! Gosh, at this stage of your life folks, it is really how you wish to live.

RUDE PEOPLE

GOOD PEOPLE

TAKE YOUR PICK ON WHO YOU WILL BE TODAY!
AND SEE THE WORLD OF DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE