[ugotme]

For what it's worth - we are coming up for an LSV.

I would love to have a cottage home with a lot of land, a fence around the yard for my dog, back yard on the water and my flamingos out front (only kidding about the flamingos).

However, after doing research on the TV web site, joining TOTV, and doing general research on the internet, I realize some of the restrictions. Some are similar to where I live now.

Will I move there and say "Geez what a silly rule!" I would bet my bottom dollar that I will.

But, after doing all this research and coming up there for a week, if I still desire to purchase there (assuming you will have us!!!!) then The rules are the rules! And this is coming from someone who always used to say rules were made to be broken/changed.

See you at the squares.

[janmcn]

It is rather ironic to hear a person that does not live in TV tell someone who has lived here for 15 years to leave if he doesn't like it. I hope I'm around 15 years from now to hear if that person is 100% satisfied with everything, if he ever moves here.

[USSGompers]

I agree with the OP. Reminds me of an old 'Saturday Night Live' skit.

Two guys standing at the elevator. One says to the other, "I got hit in the head by a brick last night!"

The other, "Oh, I Hate when that happens!"

You know, maybe our neighbors are only looking for a sympathetic ear. Is that too hard to do? Why not just listen, without being nasty or judgmental?

You never know what is going on in their life. If they complain about slow restaurant service- don't say- "You are retired- you have all day!" Well, maybe they don't.

I am a Caregiver to my husband and when I am out and about- I do not have all day. I worry about him being alone. That is just an example. I have never complained about slow service- but I am looking at the other side of the coin.

When people say that they are disappointed in something- why not just listen- without being rude? You never know the circumstances. Maybe you need to walk a mile in their moccasins!!!

Just sayin'!!!

[Bonny]

Sometimes it depends on the gripes. I know people who have lived here for a few years & still complain about the amenity fees or the bond. We know these things before we move here. Why then move here & complain 24/7 !!
I do say you should move.
There are also the restaurant bashers who say they will never ever, ever go back to this awful restaurant cause they didn't like where they got seated.

[USSGompers]

Originally Posted by Bonny

Sometimes it depends on the gripes. I know people who have lived here for a few years & still complain about the amenity fees or the bond. We know these things before we move here. Why then move here & complain 24/7 !!
I do say you should move.
There are also the restaurant bashers who say they will never ever, ever go back to this awful restaurant cause they didn't like where they got seated.

I totally agree Bonny!!!!

[Cantwaittoarrive]

Well some poster seem to come on TV and do nothing but complain, and to that I say life is too short to be so miserable, so if all someone can do is find something to complain about then why not move to somewhere that makes them happier and doesn't have the issues they constantly complain about.

[simpkinp]

Happiness is in you. It is not in TV or anywhere else. If you can't be happy here, you won't be happy anywhere. Enjoy every day because you never know what tomorrow brings. I had another great day with my friends, from my morning pool walking with my pool buddies, to the evening BBQ with my girlfriends. Life is beautiful, and it was another beautiful day in TV. Where else would I want to be?

[perrjojo]

Originally Posted by Bonny

Sometimes it depends on the gripes. I know people who have lived here for a few years & still complain about the amenity fees or the bond. We know these things before we move here. Why then move here & complain 24/7 !!
I do say you should move.
There are also the restaurant bashers who say they will never ever, ever go back to this awful restaurant cause they didn't like where they got seated.

I agree..there is one poster who has been here less than 2 months and has nearly 500 posts...all are negative. I just don't get it. TV is not perfect but how can you find so much to complain about in such a short time? Why dd that person move here or does he/ she just like to complAin?

[billethkid]

Originally Posted by perrjojo

I agree..there is one poster who has been here less than 2 months and has nearly 500 posts...all are negative. I just don't get it. TV is not perfect but how can you find so much to complain about in such a short time? Why dd that person move here or does he/ she just like to complAin?

It is sort of a sport like thing for some.....sometimes called stirring the pot.....

btk

[bmarlo767]

Originally Posted by l2ridehd

I for one think there is another side to this issue. So I ask why do people join a group, join a club, move to a city or country or other such thing and then because they don't like it, try to change it? Don't join in the first place. Don't move there. Don't belong. Most people are able to do enough research on any of these life changes before they make the move, or before they join a group or club. Then they want to change it. Suggestions and positive improvements are OK. But even then if you make a suggestion and it is explained why it is the way it is, move on.

Or should we all go out and lobby to allow large pink Flamingo's on our lawn? When I bought here I knew the rule was I could not do that. And if that is so important to me that I want to complain, lobby, instigate and in other ways try to change that rule, I should just move elsewhere where I can do it. JMHO.

Well said

[Cedwards38]

Originally Posted by silvertoken

The Villages is changing, scarey isnt it? The smaller the community, life is better. Not worth standing in line for insults.

The Villages is changing! The community is taking steps every day to become better and better. No where else has the lifestyle of this community. That's why over 100,000 people have chosen to live here. I hope we keep changing forever.

[Quixote]

Originally Posted by simpkinp

Happiness is in you. It is not in TV or anywhere else. If you can't be happy here, you won't be happy anywhere. Enjoy every day because you never know what tomorrow brings.... Life is beautiful, and it was another beautiful day in TV....

Several years ago my friend Tillie turned 100, and a big party was held for her. A young guest commented to me that Tillie typified the picture in her mind of a "sweet little old lady." Tillie always smiled, was always gentle and loving, never complained, was white-haired and pink-skinned, and was a joy to be with.

I explained to this young woman that that isn't how it works, that Tillie didn't suddenly achieve "sweet little old lady" status. Tillie was like that when she was 20, when she was 40, when she turned 60, when she became 80, and now that she's 100. I was with her once at the nursing home (she could no longer walk) during lunch and asked her how the food was. She smiled sweetly and asked me if I'd like to eat it.... It didn't look great (understatement), and she ate it day in and day out, never complaining!

And if a person chooses to be miserable, negative, constantly whining and complaining and alienating others, he or she will be like that at 20, 40, 60, 80 (if living that long), and so on. We are who we choose to be, much like the Abraham Lincoln quote to the effect that we are as happy as we choose to be. We all have adversity to deal with; it's just part of life. But some of us are like this even without adversity. I feel sad for those people, as they are clueless. Somehow they think--and likely really believe it--that things will improve the more negative they are. And some will go through their entire lives like this and never figure it out. Wouldn't you agree sad?

Tillie died peacefully in her sleep last year, surrounded by her family, at age 104. She never for a moment wavered in her goodness--and she is missed!

[queasy27]

When people say that they are disappointed in something- why not just listen- without being rude? You never know the circumstances. Maybe you need to walk a mile in their moccasins!!!

I totally agree, but another option is not to respond at all. I mostly enjoy hearing opinions both good and bad, so the "constant complainers" don't bother me. The people who always jump in to tell them to leave make me shake my head, though. It's dismissive and uncalled for.

For those who find certain posters or negative posts annoying, the ignore feature is your friend. :-)

In the end, this is an (mostly) anonymous discussion board and nothing said here is worth getting upset about.

[Bonny]

There is a difference between disappointment and moaning, groaning & complaining.

[golf4me]

Originally Posted by Bonny

There is a difference between disappointment and moaning, groaning & complaining.

AND baiting.

Also,some people have a little bit of an open mind as they attain the status of senior citizen and some have minds like steel traps. One poster started a thread that every single person disagreed with and some more articulately and kindly than others but she would not back down. She is almost always met with disagreement, but she still thinks she is right and the majority is wrong. Makes you wonder if she always sought negative attention as a kid, or sought out being the underdog.