Originally Posted by JohnN

what pools are for which ages? how do you find that info?

It is in The Villages Phone Book 2008 pages 15-18. Family and neighborhood pools are listed.

The 2008 Phone Book on page 15 says that Sport Pools are for 30 and over and for residents only, Neighborhood Pools are for 30 and over, and Family Pools are for guests and residents but the guests can be under the age of 30.

There are more Pool Guidelines on pages 17-18.

The individual pools though seem to have other rules as to age posted at each pool??? I do remember something about 19 posted at the neighborhood pools I have visited.

[njgranny]

Regarding raising nice kids, I feel too permissive or too strict causes problems. I've seen so many kids from extremely strict families that have rebelled in bad ways. I think a happy medium is best. We've been fortunate that our children and our grandchildren have always been well behaved in public and make us proud of them. When the 3 girls, ages 9, 10, and 12 get together though, they can get a little wild. They get so excited, they sometimes have to be reminded to calm down.

Now we have a great-grandchild to hug on.

[redwitch]

I've heard of a couple of problems, but not with the little ones. Some of the teens seem to get bored and do minor acts of vandalism on very rare occasions.

As to kids acting out because of poor parenting, sometimes there really are other reasons. The child may have a chemical imbalance (bipolar, ADHD); may be on the austistic spectrum (this can range from severely autistic to very high-functioning); have sensory issues; etc. Not every child that acts out is a "brat." I try to give every parent with a difficult child the benefit of the doubt. You can tell those that are trying -- their child is not ignored. The parent notices when it starts to go out into the line dancers and tries to stop the child. Sometimes the child has a meltdown at being told no, it is not safe. The atypical child doesn't understand this no -- it simply understands s/he is frustrated and doesn't know how to express that frustration except through screams. Unless you have worked or lived with a child like this, it is hard to understand and accept that it is not the fault of the parents, but, if you watch the parents you'll see those who are trying and those who aren't. There's a HUGE difference.

[rgray99]

Yes, for a retirement community there always seems to be a lot of kids around. Last time I was in TV I almost got hit by a golf cart full of teens driving way too fast and going the wrong way. For their best interest and ours please oversee your visiting grandchildren.