[Cisco Kid]

Originally Posted by Indydealmaker

Just remember before you let a poster's "rude" comments get to you, go read all of their past posts. Usually you will see a pattern. They are just "rude" about most everything.

Some like to say they are "direct", not "rude", but in the world of the written word, perception is everything and these "direct" posters need more than a little introspection.

A simple rule of thumb for posters on here is to Say Nothing Anonymously That You Would Not Say Face To Face.

Good post
I have seen a lot of troll post about old people and pets just to reaction.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by Cisco Kid

Good post
I have seen a lot of troll post about old people and pets just to reaction.

And I fall for it every time. I think it is the blonde hair! I think I just did it again about financing a house here.

Someone please grab me the next time and say Goodnight Gracie or BOP me.

I am so in awe of the posts above this one. JustJIm, 2BNTV, Dreamer 61, Rubicon,Indy Deal Maker and Uptown Girl and Cisco Kid and Golfing nut and Winston Boogie and CQuick and billethekid and Simpklin and SDavis and of course YOU, Gerry Ann. All of you are thoughtful and very fair people who always say things that difuse problems and clarify situations. If any of you post anything, I know it is valid information that I can trust and it always is helpful!

[Heartnsoul]

Originally Posted by gerryann

TOTV used to be a friendly forum where a lot of good information was found and folks were friendly with one another. It's changed a lot and a lot of folks are rude and downright mean with their comments. It's not very enjoyable anymore. Is this a seasonal problem?? .......or, what's up??

where do you see rudeness? I haven't experienced any?? just different opinions which is what makes our community so well rounded??

[Cisco Kid]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

And I fall for it every time. I think it is the blonde hair! I think I just did it again about financing a house here.

Someone please grab me the next time and say Goodnight Gracie or BOP me.

I am so in awe of the posts above this one. Indy Deal Maker and Uptown Girl and Cisco Kid and Golfing nut and Winston Boogie and CQuick and billethekid and Simpklin and SDavis and of course YOU, Gerry Ann. All of you are thoughtful and very fair people who always say things that difuse problems and clarify situations. If any of you post anything, I know it is valid information that I can trust and it always is helpful!

Gracie I posted this below one of them but it was removed.
My bad. It is directed at the poster not the post topic.
I am still learning the rules. I am slow.

[gomoho]

Originally Posted by Heartnsoul

where do you see rudeness? I haven't experienced any?? just different opinions which is what makes our community so well rounded??

It's all in perception - some people are much more sensitive than others.

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[CFrance]

If you have ever read readers' comments after articles in, say, the NYT, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette, NPR, you would be astounded at the level of rudeness and flaming that takes place. And these are top-class publications. A lot of other sites (reddit, for instance) have the same nasty flavor. I believe the anonymity brings out the worst in the posters on the above places, and perhaps a bit of that happens on TOTV too.

But TOTV is very mild compared to any other forum I've visited. Just ignore the crabbies and enjoy the rest.

[graciegirl]

CFrance. I was just investigating the meaning of flaming on the internet and of being a troll.

I think a lot of us react to a topic that is sometimes only a deliberate attempt of a new poster to "get things going".

Many people wish to remain anonymous on a public forum because of a fear of ....a lot of things, but usually normal, friendly people will post some kind of avatar, of a flower or puppy, or tell things about them that will give some clue as to whether they are moving from Ohio or live in Tamarind Grove and whether they are a golfer and want to buy a villa etc.etc.etc.

When a new poster hits the forum with a real jab against something, my "hinky meter" goes on ...(That is what Patty says anyway)

And as Judge Judy says, when it just doesn't sound right, it probably is a lie.

It takes a lot to pull the wool over the eyes of us very smart seniors but some people sometimes.....with young sounding names just love to do it.

I think I was suckered in this morning and yesterday for sure.

You lives and you learns.

I am going shopping and I am gonna buy me a new squirt gun.

[Taltarzac725]

Originally Posted by CFrance

If you have ever read readers' comments after articles in, say, the NYT, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette, NPR, you would be astounded at the level of rudeness and flaming that takes place. And these are top-class publications. A lot of other sites (reddit, for instance) have the same nasty flavor. I believe the anonymity brings out the worst in the posters on the above places, and perhaps a bit of that happens on TOTV too.

But TOTV is very mild compared to any other forum I've visited. Just ignore the crabbies and enjoy the rest.

This is an extremely friendly site compared with the few I have visited over the years since I started using the Internet around 1999. I have had heart wrenching experiences with trolls. Even had one that hounded me on Findlaw's message boards for almost five years (2000-2005) and finally learned that this was one of the people I had gone out of my way to help. He was upset that I could not find him a precedent for his legal argument in a case he was working on in which he was a defendant. He threw every dirty trick at me he could think of for five years and the System Operator would ban him but he would just come on using another name.

Do not feed trolls is the very hard lesson I learned. Ignore them in other words.

[kittygilchrist]

I've been on threads where people get ugly. The moderators usually step in, but not always before you see people throwing darts at each other. People are still people, even in paradise. But there is so much positive in TV that a few bad apples don't spoil the whole bunch.

[ugotme]

Just my 2 cents worth.

I have been on here since July and have received A LOT of good information.

There are, of course, certain topics that I have my own strong opinions on but everyone is entitled to theirs even though I may vehemently disagree.

I believe MOST people try to state their case in a persuasive, intelligent manner and try not to be rude.

SOME JUST CAN'T OR WILL NOT !

[duffysmom]

This forum has been a Godsend to me. I joined six years ago before I purchased and I can't begin to tell you all that I learned in those years. Even now when I'm stumped by something I ask the question on the appopriate topic and inevitably I receive the answer I was looking for. When I joined there was a lot going on and people were sparring and being baned from the forum. Every now and then a troll sneaks by and shakes thing up a bit but that can be fun too. This Admin keeps on top of contentious posts and shuts them down pronto. I have absolutely no complaints and only praise for TOTV and the Admin.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by ProAvon.com

Wow, sounds like Facebook!

Facebook for the youth challenged.

[CFrance]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

Facebook for the youth challenged.

FaceLift.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by CFrance

FaceLift.

You rock.